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The_Face_of_Boo
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05 Jul 2016, 5:19 pm

Amity wrote:

Boo, I would pay you to keep your clothes on!



You make my job easier.

I wish all my fans were that easily satisfied.



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05 Jul 2016, 6:00 pm

^You could dance for me though :lol:



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06 Jul 2016, 4:00 am

hurtloam wrote:
Putting someone on a pedestal is more akin to putting a beautiful statue in a museum. You stare at it in awe, but you don't touch it or interact with it. You just gaze upon it in wonder. You're not meant to touch it, it's out of bounds, like that woman's boss in the video.

That's not a good dynamic. It's not on equal terms. Yes, I like to be aware that a guy thinks I'm pretty, but the type who gazes from a distance and thinks you're too good for him is more irritating than flattering. Make a move or move on.

Don't build the other person up so much in your mind that they become as untouchable and awe inspiring as your favourite work of art or favourite mountain view. That's not healthy.

The other person is just a person.


To me this sounds like an infatuation and the observation game. :wink: It's healthy, and I wouldn't move on unless I find something I strongly dislike like predatory traits or she is flirting with other guys.

As I wrote before, infatuations get weaker, and as they do, the flaws gets visible again.



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06 Jul 2016, 4:02 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ Hmm...not quite so, humans might not be totally monogamous as I said, however we usually get attached to one person at a time, this is the phase of bonding, we have hormones in our systems that do this to us.

She is stuck in that phase.


I agree. That's my interpretation of it too.



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06 Jul 2016, 5:45 am

I don't get turned on by pure model types.

I get turned on by women who have supposed "flaws"--yet those "flaws" can be beautiful in themselves.

I find a lisp in a woman kind of cute. I also like women with gap-teeth.

I used to adore a woman who only wore cut-up jeans and tee-shirts.

I used to have a crush on a character in "Police Academy" who had an extremely squeaky voice.



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09 Jul 2016, 10:38 pm

Are you single kraftie? :heart: The Japanese design principles of Shibui embrace the simple and the unique, the best things are thought to be those that contain a beautiful, well placed flaw. To quote Bob Ross, happy accidents, they add richer, deeper content to the person or thing. I love these too.


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