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I'm afraid I'll continue to ask any question I see fit for the sake of an interesting discussion as long as moderators don't tell me I can't. I'm interested in debate, not in raw assertions of a viewpoint, protected by censorship from being rationally challenged, and I make a distinction between attacking ideas and attacking people. I'm not forcing anyone to reply if they don't want to, and, unlike you, I don't try to stop them if they do, either.

Speaking of moderators, I'm going to ask them what they think of your post.

Boo, one of the reasons you may receive a lot of racial discrimination in dating is because you are middle eastern.

It is commonly known that Indian Men do bad in dating in western countries, through no fault of their own.

Unfortunately I have noticed in my experiences middle eastern and west Asian people are considered one of the most undesirable by white people in the world.

Though I'm sure you already know that.

There IS also a lot of non-dating related racism against middle easterners, especially here.

I'm not sure what you're cousins have told you, but Australia is actually a very racist country despite the belief we're a 'multicultural' and 'accepting' nation (B.S.) and it's middle-eastern people that get it the worst.

They are instantly associated with ISIS by ignorant bogans (aussie rednecks) and that all 'boat people' (immigrants) are secretly spies and terrorists who want to take all the jobs, land and take over the country.

I think one of the key things about dating and race that should be said is this:

Someone may reject someone not because of what race they look, but because of the stereotypes associated with that race.

I've heard a lot of negative stereotypes about Indian men, that they are misogynistic, unhygienic, disrespectful to their women and 'stupid' for 'worshipping cows'.

There's no real way to do surveys without people lying, but really, how many people do you think are rejected in online dating not because of their race, but because of the stereotypes of that race?

I still think it's totally OK to say despite the current debate about it.

I live in a VERY multicultural city. One of the most mixed in the World. I've read countless personal ads over the years. It's very common for them to say things like "white++" or "asian for asian" or "white for asian" or "seeking black" or "not into ei" or "white/asian no brown" or "no asians" or "open to all" or "all races welcome" etc. This is especially true of "hookup" ads vs. ads for dates and long term relationships as when people are hooking up it's pretty much based purely on physical attraction, but it's in regular dating ad language, too. It's more common for people to list their preference(s) than it is to list ones they're not attracted to. Some list both. Then there are those of us with preferences we simply don't list so as not to fan the flames of debate and then we simply don't reply to emails we're not interested in.

I think it's one of those "it is what it is things," and people just need to accept that some people have racial preferences as to who they would hookup with or date, and others don't, but it just is what it is for each individual so stating it in an ad is effective, efficient, communication.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

Don't worry, by all means I support the idea of people having racial preferences.

Also, we have a right to reject anyone for any means we see fit, even if we were racist (of which most people with racial preferences are not, but a minority may be).

When I say this, I mean we even have the right to reject someone if we believe the stereotypes of their race.

Many people do this anyway, it's not going to change their minds by shaming them for it.

But then again, sometimes there's a line on what we can/should judge others for doing and what we shouldn't.

A common line usually said by social and cultural norms is, if it's not hurting anyone, they have every right to do it.

Rejecting someone due to having racial preferences or out of genuine racism against the person because you believe their race is inferior, of which the two are both MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE, do not bring harm to another person because most people don't find out why they get rejected and by not messaging/replying to someone on online dating you don't technically try to directly hurt them in the first place.

Despite the fact that most of my partners have been from Asian countries due to my shorter stature (i'm only about 5ft4in, pretty short for an Aussie bloke), I'd have to say that if you specify where you want your girlfriends or boyfriends to come from, I'd say you're either a closet racist or have a fetish for people of that ethnicity. Either way, women and men are not pogs, guys, They are actual people. Where they come from and what they look like is irrelevant.

If my partner was any other ethnicity, whether that be caucasion, african, middle-eastern, or whatever. I choose to be with her because she's a beautiful and insightful woman.

I suppose it makes sense for some that they'd want a partner that they share culture and values or whatever is most important to a person with altho someone obsessed with racial purity who can only be attracted to their own race is probably probably safe to call racist. I would find it very odd to say that about a race other than your own too as I have heard before, fetishization of race has a long history in racism for what it is worth.

There are attractive and unattractive people of all races, there is so much variance between people that to judge a whole race as attractive or unattractive is absurd. Billions of people of every shade, supermodels to big foots, good people, bad people, fat, skinny, fit, whatever.