How to go about getting a boyfriend?

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I agree I am very lucky and would never deny that. What I meant during the period I was dating it was difficult. I was rejected alot so it's not as simple as shaking you booty and getting lads.

Also wasn't talking about the guys on here is was talking about the guys who assume women can get someone by just standing around

Most of my friends lost their v card at 13,14 and 15. I was badgered for years about losing mine and how it being special was stupid so I did eventually just sleep with a friend. So maube my view is a bit affected by that as I was years behind them. Their first boyfriends were at like 12

Yea I ccompletely agree with this most gamers are fully fuctioning whatever gender. I choose video games as opposed to watching tv because I find them more stimulating

There's suprisingly loads of women at the English ones. I went to my first last year expecting what you described but it was completely different. No one 'looked' like a hardcore gamer and there were loads of gamer girls dressed up.

Hell as a gamer one of my biggest wants when dating was to find a gamer.

I don't think there s as much of a stigma because it is pretty common now.

We live in two entirely different worlds then.

Yup I'm a gamer just to clarify, and I hate social interaction in person. I'm also into the whole anime/manga stuff, so half my degree is in Japanese. I will look into going to gaming conventions though as that might be worth doing. Although I guess I need to find some friends irl as I hate going to places like this by myself. If I'm lucky maybe my cousin will be speaking at one, so I can take along with him, although I hate Minecraft so as long as its not one of them it will be fine.

Do you have like a gaming society or something you could join? They sometimes do trips to conventions aswell

I don't think by any chance that you live in Brazil do you?

Me too. This is why I don't want to go back to uni. I should've studied harder when I was young.

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Last edited by Outrider on 23 Dec 2016, 1:20 am, edited 1 time in total.

Question is what would you have studied in the first place?

IT is a largely male populated field and I've read hundreds of experiences of young men struggling to meet young women when they're in IT, programming, etc.

And this was at AMERICAN universities where they have all those clubs and groups and actual campuses.

Australian Unis are like educational centres and nothing else, literally just go study then go home. A lot more disconnected and difficult to meet people than American uni's. Some are lucky enough to have a tiny number of clubs, but then it goes back to the whole "Australia is so f*cking geeky" thing.

Did you know on one of the university websites it's literally designed with some sort of 'Superhero theme'?

As in the career aptitude test is 'Discovering your superpowers' or some crap.

It looks like something that should be for 5 year olds.

See how cringeworthy and childishly stupid my age group is?

I literally don't want a career.

The only reasons I'd want to study Nutrition are to at least pretend I'm doing something with my life so that I am more attractive to women my age and to...well...kill time I guess by at least studying something to give me knowledge and career prospects I'd never f*cking use in the first place.

During my teens I wanted to study architecture. In some universities such as UniSA, this was a double degree, 3 years to get a design degree and 2 years on architecture. I don't want to do architecture but that design degree would be useful right now. I could use it for UX/UI design.

I didn't study IT until I was 20. Five months later I stopped. Still 20. That would have been a good time to keep going because I was already in the field I would later work in. If I had kept going I would have continued in IT from that time forward.Yes and design is a largely female populated field.

That's besides the point. This is for my career and education. A degree would help me get a promotion, not a girl. They say uni girls are easy. After uni they tend to have boyfriends.They have those here Outrider.They have uni clubs here too Outrider. Not to mention the pubs outside of uni serve to supplement the campus social scene. Sometimes they even do uni pub crawls.

One advantage we have here is that Americans tend to work their way through college while studying full time. This means they have less time and energy for socialising. Movies like Animal House are from back in the days when a smaller number of wealthy elites went to college. Also it was cheaper back then. Nowadays it costs three times as much and yet everyone is expected to go, rich and poor alike. The situation is not so bad here. We're less likely to work our way through uni. This gives our students time for pub crawls and such.

The only real difference is that here we don't live on campus. This is a double edged sword. It's easier for us but we're less independent.

For dating it's also a double edged sword. True that it's better to have your own room than bring a girl home to your parents house but a college dorm is not fully private and American college campuses can have some arcane rules when it comes to dating.

Both the secular left wing colleges
And the puritanical religious right wing colleges
(It's funny how the secular extreme left and the religious right both think sex is something to be ashamed off).That is so freaking patronising! I hate it how some unis treat their students like kids. Especially when they act like undergrads are little kids and grad students the "real students".

It's so frustrating for me to hear that someone is "only an undergrad" when I'm not even up to that level.

Patronising theme aside, students should not choose their major and their career for the rest of their lives based a test like that. If they pick the wrong degree they could waste $50,000 on it.It wasn't designed by someone in your age group. Maybe it was designed by a 40 year old who thinks very little of people in your age group.

Anyway, this kind of infantile culture is not limited to any particular age group. At work we have people aged from 20 to 60 and any nonofficial emails are done in a similar style to the super hero motife you mentioned. Everything has to be cartoony. I hear middle aged people at work speaking to each other like teenagers, acting all cutesy. These are people who are 40 and 50 (and everyone else).

Nowadays all the company logos and advertising is filled with cutesy cartoon characters. Look at ads from 20 or 40 years ago and they didn't treat their customers like young children (except for the toy companies obviously). Nowadays we have products which aren't specifically intended for children that are marketed with cutesy cartoon characters.

Our whole society is being infantalised. You can hear it in the way people speak. When people ask you if you want a "bikkie".

You can see it in the way people dress. I've seen girls in their 20s dressed like little girls with cartoon teddy bears on their clothes. I've seen guys in their 20s dressed like apathetic 14 year olds (backwards baseball cap, singlet, etc). Yet guys who dress like that still have girlfriends so don't think you need to be super mature to get a girlfriend.

When I was a teenager I tried to be mature but the girls made fun of me for listening to mature music like Tchaikovsky.There are plenty of things you could study that give you skills outside of work. I use stuff from my IT studies all the time at home.