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15 May 2007, 4:45 pm

calandale wrote:
I take a bath every time I take a dump.


Hmm, that's a new one.

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15 May 2007, 4:56 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
calandale wrote:
I take a bath every time I take a dump.


Hmm, that's a new one.

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I just can't get clean, otherwise.
So, it pretty much sets a lower
bound on how often I bathe.



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15 May 2007, 4:57 pm

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I take a bath every time I take a dump.


I dated a guy that did that. He would take off all his clothes and do his business and take a shower.


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15 May 2007, 5:29 pm

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im talking 4-5 days with no shower.
i make him sleep on the couch and then scream at him for sleeping there.
i hate germs and i worry about them all the time, so it makes it hard for me to look over this.
i am afraid it also causes him problems in every social circle.
i want him to be clean around me, but it pisses me off that ppl at work or anywhere may judge him.
the classic genius that stinks.
i dont want that for him.


This is a serious problem.

If he has a very active mind it may be that showering is boring for him.

You can't read or write or watch TV in the shower. It's total information starvation for 15 minutes to an hour depending on how long you stay in.

If I didn't have my radio and books on tape I would probably never shower, either.

Ask him if he wouldn't like to listen to a radio show or a book on tape or a TV show while he's bathing.

Just a suggestion :lol:


That sounds totally like me! :? I do force myself to shower every day but it's like, 30 mins without being able to think about 'stuff' or use the internet or read something...arghh. This, combined with a sensory issue. Once im under the shower though I can't get out again, i.e. once the initial shock of the water is gone and I'm all warmed up... :roll:
:roll: (I think I start thinking about 'stuff' again once warmed up under the shower and then not wanting to go out again because this would mean at least 5-10 mins of non-thinking again due to having to dry-off, comb hair,shave, dress, etc etc ) :roll:
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15 May 2007, 6:36 pm

calandale wrote:
If showering gets boring,
one can always spice it
up a little. Say by taking
your cat in with you.


I once had a cat that like to jump into the shower with me. He was hand-raised as a kitten by my step-sister and me, and we would bathe him in the sink every day until he figured out how to clean himself. And so he learned to like water. Very strange.


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15 May 2007, 7:02 pm

We had one that loved to play with the
water in the shower. Also liked to walk
along the rim of the tub. Fell in a couple
of times though, and definitely was NOT
happy about it.



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15 May 2007, 7:15 pm

I have only a weak suggestion for this case:
I believe a shower makes us happy, specially after a long time. so, you could film the guy before and after the shower and show him if he is really happy. well... :roll:


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15 May 2007, 7:43 pm

Like people actually do what makes
them happier? I know that I fail regularly
on this count.



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15 May 2007, 7:45 pm

Flo used to try drinking out of the toilet when she was younger.
She's sleeping on my arm now so I'm typing with one hand.



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15 May 2007, 7:54 pm

calandale wrote:
Like people actually do what makes
them happier? I know that I fail regularly
on this count.


You are right! I lasted so long to discover I should look for my happyness, I should try to be happy! It is a complete absurd that I have forgoten this any time when I was a child.

Despite of such absurd, many people, I think, still don't try to be happy!! ! 8O
Well, for this reason I insist on the theme.

Anyway I believe it is very easy to convince an aspie that happiness is a very important thing; a NT knows it instinctively.


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15 May 2007, 8:34 pm

calandale wrote:
If showering gets boring,
one can always spice it
up a little. Say by taking
your cat in with you.


Or a toaster, if you like to really live on the edge.



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15 May 2007, 9:19 pm

Just remember to plug it in.

Neuromancer wrote:
You are right! I lasted so long to discover I should look for my happyness, I should try to be happy! It is a complete absurd that I have forgoten this any time when I was a child.

Despite of such absurd, many people, I think, still don't try to be happy!! ! 8O
Well, for this reason I insist on the theme.

Anyway I believe it is very easy to convince an aspie that happiness is a very important thing; a NT knows it instinctively.


I was convinced of it, for a long time.
Now though, certain obligations have
made me miserable again, and somehow
I've lost touch. Anytime that I post, it's
me becoming a bit more miserable. And
I post a lot.



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15 May 2007, 9:51 pm

calandale wrote:
If showering gets boring,
one can always spice it
up a little. Say by taking
your cat in with you.


nah just one of them swivel showerheads that you can remove and use creatively sue to its longer-than-usual cord


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15 May 2007, 9:52 pm

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I take a bath every time I take a dump.


is that from the "spritz" or do you actually just s**t, shower n shave.... or somethin to that effect?


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15 May 2007, 9:54 pm

calandale wrote:
We had one that loved to play with the
water in the shower. Also liked to walk
along the rim of the tub. Fell in a couple
of times though, and definitely was NOT
happy about it.


yeah i was taking a bath once and the B-room door was open..... I could hear my cats playing/chasing right outside... then the chase-ie runs in and jump right in the tub with me!

not fun for either of us


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15 May 2007, 9:55 pm

Sedaka wrote:
calandale wrote:
If showering gets boring,
one can always spice it
up a little. Say by taking
your cat in with you.


nah just one of them swivel showerheads that you can remove and use creatively sue to its longer-than-usual cord
ahh those are heaven :mrgreen: