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30 Dec 2016, 3:16 pm

Don't give up.


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31 Dec 2016, 2:33 am

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If you're in northwest Arkansas, surely there's a university near you - I'm thinking maybe Fayetteville.
Yeah, there's the U of A, but that's almost an hour's drive away from me. I live in Bentonville and hardly ever go to Fayetteville. I don't think I could make it work with a woman who lives that far away from me.
That's not that far away. My most serious relationship was with a girl who lived 2 hour's drive away.


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31 Dec 2016, 8:58 pm

ya i only went on 1 date this year throughout all of 2016



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31 Dec 2016, 9:35 pm

I am getting close to giving up. Its one of goals for 2017 to forget about love, relationships and sex. I know this sounds negative, but no one understand how difficult being an aspie male at almost 26 years old is being innocent and victimised all the time. I have done so much for my life for things I enjoyed and that. That is way more than many guys at my age and yet they still get girlfriends and sex. Its rather confusing society thanks to Type A personalities, media and technology influences, bigot attitudes and unhealthy judgment on physical appearances.

I am trying so hard to stay positive to think I will get a girlfriend in no time. But making not to worry about it is making it worse because of intense pressure from the society that kept bothering me and disturbing my peace. A women, as my lover and long term family orientated love is the thing I wanted to have in my life because I know I am awesome and desirable person.

It can be seems that I may have been obsessing about it for many times, but to be honest it is no difference to NTs who are in same situation as me they get relationships and sex easily and quickly.



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31 Dec 2016, 9:39 pm

I don't think that sounds negative at all. I think it's much more positive to enjoy your life with what you have then it is to be miserable because of something you don't have.


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31 Dec 2016, 9:53 pm

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I am getting close to giving up. Its one of goals for 2017 to forget about love, relationships and sex. I know this sounds negative, but no one understand how difficult being an aspie male at almost 26 years old is being innocent and victimised all the time. I have done so much for my life for things I enjoyed and that. That is way more than many guys at my age and yet they still get girlfriends and sex. Its rather confusing society thanks to Type A personalities, media and technology influences, bigot attitudes and unhealthy judgment on physical appearances.

I am trying so hard to stay positive to think I will get a girlfriend in no time. But making not to worry about it is making it worse because of intense pressure from the society that kept bothering me and disturbing my peace. A women, as my lover and long term family orientated love is the thing I wanted to have in my life because I know I am awesome and desirable person.

It can be seems that I may have been obsessing about it for many times, but to be honest it is no difference to NTs who are in same situation as me they get relationships and sex easily and quickly.


so you haven't had a girlfriend before either?



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31 Dec 2016, 11:24 pm

Nope, never had one. Never been close. Only dated once. Nothing special or fun. I am very innocent career driven smart and strong aspie male with high advancement. I thought women love a guy like that?



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31 Dec 2016, 11:40 pm

What's your career?

If you have a good career you're halfway to getting a girlfriend.


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31 Dec 2016, 11:49 pm

My good career started 2 years ago. I hold Masters and Bachelor degrees in Environment, sustainability and community development planning. I have high GPA. I have two jobs, one soon starting at local government. I work professionally. I go to public conferences and present public speaking. I attend congresses, with two big international events this year. I have lot of achievements, awards, scholarships and trophies/medals including sports I did.



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31 Dec 2016, 11:51 pm

Neato!

Maybe you should save up for a trip to Manila. The girls there are very friendly. Find one you especially like and she might want to come home with you.


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31 Dec 2016, 11:54 pm

I am not falling into Asian brides thing. They cheat to escape poverty and issues of their own countries. Lot of lonely single guys fallen onto them wasted thousands of dollars.



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31 Dec 2016, 11:58 pm

In that case you're smarter than I am.


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01 Jan 2017, 12:51 am

OkC seems to be mostly a waste of time for anyone trying to meet females (PoF is even worse unless you are into lower class people, and I don't mean poor). I think a lot of womyn just put profiles up for s**ts and giggles.



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03 Jan 2017, 10:04 pm

so you think a majority of the women on those dating sites are just using it for an ego, pride poost?



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03 Jan 2017, 10:30 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
so you think a majority of the women on those dating sites are just using it for an ego, pride poost?


Are you asking me? No, I don't think that. I suspect that a lot of them join up without a really strong urge to find a significant other, like they're just checking things out, and they're more process-oriented than goal-oriented.



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starkid wrote:
OkC seems to be mostly a waste of time for anyone trying to meet females (PoF is even worse unless you are into lower class people, and I don't mean poor). I think a lot of womyn just put profiles up for s**ts and giggles.


PoF sucks. Mostly ghetto and trailor park trash on there. I hate dating sites with a passion.