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25 May 2007, 8:30 am

Oh crap, I forgot I made this thread. Well nice to see so many replies.

I'll give an update on K and T when there's one to give.



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25 May 2007, 10:49 am

Deleted. Post above me that I referred to was removed, so this post no longer makes sense.



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25 May 2007, 11:28 am

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But being attracted my looks is just natural, it's biology. I'm a romantic, but pushing that asside; The dating game is about finding somone roughly the same 'value' as yourself. This value include looks, status, being nice, intelligence, humour, being a caretaker. if you have, say, looks and humour, you might 'trade that off' to someone who has intelligence. And honestly it's not more shallow to go for looks. It's just another priority if you want to sacrifice all the other stuff to get a nice looking partner. (not that you can't find a person with all the qualities)
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yes, going for looks is natural - but so are lots of things (killing your rivals' children is pretty natural, happens all the time in nature). My point is it's not one of the natural things we should embrace. It is also unwise, since almost everything else can potentially last, looks won't. (well, it's unwise unless you're a welathy male with good social status and skills, in which case you can just find yourself another young, attractive partner, regardless of your own age).


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25 May 2007, 4:05 pm

pbcoll wrote:
Yasmine wrote:
But being attracted my looks is just natural, it's biology. I'm a romantic, but pushing that asside; The dating game is about finding somone roughly the same 'value' as yourself. This value include looks, status, being nice, intelligence, humour, being a caretaker. if you have, say, looks and humour, you might 'trade that off' to someone who has intelligence. And honestly it's not more shallow to go for looks. It's just another priority if you want to sacrifice all the other stuff to get a nice looking partner. (not that you can't find a person with all the qualities)
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yes, going for looks is natural - but so are lots of things (killing your rivals' children is pretty natural, happens all the time in nature). My point is it's not one of the natural things we should embrace. It is also unwise, since almost everything else can potentially last, looks won't. (well, it's unwise unless you're a welathy male with good social status and skills, in which case you can just find yourself another young, attractive partner, regardless of your own age).


Nothing lasts.. Your status, your intelligence ect, can all fade with age. And i'm not saying looks should be your prefered value, it's just one of many.. And as your looks don't last, neither does your partners..



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26 May 2007, 11:03 am

I'm assuming you'd want the relationship to last, i.e. you want it not to go sour and you want to stay in it if it doesn't go sour. In practice, they usually go sour, but my point is that you try to prevent them from going sour.
Of course, status, intelligence, good personality, etc can disppear with age, but they don't always do. Looks always do. I'm not saying they're not a plus, but it's smart to look for other things. If you have it all, enjoy.


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26 May 2007, 5:37 pm

pbcoll wrote:
Of course, status, intelligence, good personality, etc can disppear with age, but they don't always do. Looks always do. I'm not saying they're not a plus, but it's smart to look for other things. If you have it all, enjoy.


They all so eventually. Show me a 200 year old with any of these.


Amendment: Lenin still looks good for his age.



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27 May 2007, 10:42 am

well, yes, dying makes your personality... duller? Certainly less talkative. And rather unresponsive in terms of body language. But unless you're embalmed it doesn't do wonders for your looks, either. Well, you do lose weight.


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27 May 2007, 11:02 am

calandale wrote:

Amendment: Lenin still looks good for his age.


Chairman Mao looked reasonable, but it almost looked like he was glowing when I saw him. Definitely looked a bit "off."



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27 May 2007, 6:05 pm

pbcoll wrote:
well, yes, dying makes your personality... duller? Certainly less talkative. And rather unresponsive in terms of body language. But unless you're embalmed it doesn't do wonders for your looks, either. Well, you do lose weight.


I don't think that my personality's suffered much,
though my body language is still pretty bad. Looks
haven't suffered. It's more the aging, and not the
dying - at least from what I can see.

Though, I don't seem to be decomposing much.