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20 May 2017, 10:42 pm

I'd like a serious relationship but get no interest from women. So I feel jealous of you aspie1



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21 May 2017, 7:32 am

From my experience it is actually quite the opposite. There were way more mean people in general when i was a teenager.


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21 May 2017, 9:19 am

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Why are adult women not as friendly/tolerant towards men compared to how teenage girls are towards boys?


Short answer: Because this is not their first rodeo.


Longer answer: They have a better formed idea of what they want/need in a relationship.


This is exactly why I strongly prefer (read: almost require) that girls I date ARE just starting out in the dating world/are just discovering boys. It's not because of some religious purity notions, not because of a "whore-madonna dichotomy", or whatever else people might think the reason is. It's exactly because I want to learn WITH someone, not FROM someone (about romance and sex, that is).

With a girl for whom it's "not her first rodeo", as you put it, even if she were to seem head over heels into me, there's this sense of missed opportunity, this sense that whatever I learn from her about what relationships are about, I'm not getting the same opportunity to explore that I'd get with another person who is just starting out in the world of getting to know the opposite sex.

Granted, there also has to be attraction there. I have been sexually involved with two girls who I thought were very unattractive, primarily because they were at this same place. Neither had kissed a guy before, they both wondered what having a boyfriend was like. However, not feeling attraction toward them, they didn't end up helping me develop and answer what I wanted answered, namely how do I relate to a girl with whom I actually have romantic feelings. That's what sometimes feels hopeless--to find a girl out there who's attractive to me, yet who hasn't previously found mutual attraction with enough other guys to pass through this developmental process. I feel like if I were still in high school, I'd have a much better chance at that.

Huh, are you saying that at 32 you are into 16 years olds (or younger)?



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21 May 2017, 10:48 am

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Huh, are you saying that at 32 you are into 16 years olds (or younger)?


An internet meme, btw.

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Why is the 29 y/o not as nice.



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21 May 2017, 11:19 am

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Huh, are you saying that at 32 you are into 16 years olds (or younger)?


An internet meme, btw.

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She certainly looked more feminine in her younger days, however this doesn't mean that I'd f**k her. Jesus Christ, she was 12 years old. You can constatate that a kid has good looks without wanting to bed it, that's why the old aunties grabbing your cheeks and saying that you are cute aren't pedos.
I can even think that Brad Pitt is better looking than Angela Merkel and it wouldn't mean that I am gay.
So, to cut it short, acknowledging that a child is good looking doesn't make you a pedophile, wanting to f**k him does.

But what is the point you are trying to advocate? That it's ok to sleep with 12 years old children and we are a bunch of hypocritical prudes?



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21 May 2017, 11:33 am

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Why is the 29 y/o not as nice.

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But what is the point you are trying to advocate?

She has become grizzled through a life of stress and neglect, in a desert warzone. Western women have either faced abusive situations, or militant indoctrination, by the time they are biologically old enough to become grandmothers.

I am not focused on age, per se, as an older woman may been sheltered or not have any baggage, in rare circumstances, I guess.

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But what is the point you are trying to advocate? That it's ok to sleep with 12 years old children and we are a bunch of hypocritical prudes?


My grandmother started a family of 6 at the age of 15. You can either call it natural and useful, or it finds an outlet in rebellious behavior and trashy girl band-type culture.



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21 May 2017, 12:12 pm

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Why is the 29 y/o not as nice.

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But what is the point you are trying to advocate?

She has become grizzled through a life of stress and neglect, in a desert warzone. Western women have either faced abusive situations, or militant indoctrination, by the time they are biologically old enough to become grandmothers.

I am not focused on age, per se, as an older woman may been sheltered or not have any baggage, in rare circumstances, I guess.

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But what is the point you are trying to advocate? That it's ok to sleep with 12 years old children and we are a bunch of hypocritical prudes?


My grandmother started a family of 6 at the age of 15. You can either call it natural and useful, or it finds an outlet in rebellious behavior and trashy girl band-type culture.


A lot changes between 12 and 15 my mom married a 25 year old when she was 16, it didn't end up working out...but I don't think it was like 'inappropriate' or that the guy was a pedophile. Now if my mom had been 12 that would be a different story. At least that is my opinion...I tend to be one who criticizes consent laws in some states as they turn regular people into 'pedophiles' and 'rapists' when that isn't the case, though my state is fairly liberal with consent laws. Still can find yourself in trouble if not careful though....


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21 May 2017, 12:17 pm

I have read your story, and think you know that I would never have mistreated you.

Respectfully, then, you have just made a moral compromise with the laws.

I am not saying it out of a spirit of meanness.



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21 May 2017, 1:01 pm

friedmacguffins wrote:
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Why is the 29 y/o not as nice.

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But what is the point you are trying to advocate?

She has become grizzled through a life of stress and neglect, in a desert warzone. Western women have either faced abusive situations, or militant indoctrination, by the time they are biologically old enough to become grandmothers.

I am not focused on age, per se, as an older woman may been sheltered or not have any baggage, in rare circumstances, I guess.

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But what is the point you are trying to advocate? That it's ok to sleep with 12 years old children and we are a bunch of hypocritical prudes?


My grandmother started a family of 6 at the age of 15. You can either call it natural and useful, or it finds an outlet in rebellious behavior and trashy girl band-type culture.

She doesn't look nice because she looks a bit masculine, but I can't really tell much because 90% of her body is covered. Btw maybe she just doesn't look good because she doesn't, it happens sometimes when one grows up even if they looked better as kids.

I guess that when you say that you aren't focused on age you are implying that having sex with a 12 years old child is ok for you, and you call it "natural and useful". Wow, really. Apart from the fact that a girl 70 years ago is not the same as a girl today and I am not sure that your grandad was 30 or something, the fact that it happened doesn't mean that it is good.
Oh, my grandad worked for the nazis, it must have been a good thing.



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21 May 2017, 1:04 pm

Are you saying that my grandparents did something wrong?



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21 May 2017, 3:03 pm

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Are you saying that my grandparents did something wrong?

I can't tell for sure, I don't even know what age your grandad was.

Have you ever considered seeing a doctor about your pedophiliac/hebephiliac tendencies?



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21 May 2017, 4:03 pm

friedmacguffins wrote:
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Huh, are you saying that at 32 you are into 16 years olds (or younger)?


An internet meme, btw.

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Why is the 29 y/o not as nice.


Life hardship makes people look older - but that doesn't mean a 12 is not a child.



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21 May 2017, 4:26 pm

friedmacguffins wrote:
Are you saying that my grandparents did something wrong?


How old was your grandfather when your 15 year old grandmother started a family with him? Like in his 20's or over 30?


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22 May 2017, 12:14 am

Peacesells wrote:
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This is exactly why I strongly prefer (read: almost require) that girls I date ARE just starting out in the dating world/are just discovering boys. It's not because of some religious purity notions, not because of a "whore-madonna dichotomy", or whatever else people might think the reason is. It's exactly because I want to learn WITH someone, not FROM someone (about romance and sex, that is).

With a girl for whom it's "not her first rodeo", as you put it, even if she were to seem head over heels into me, there's this sense of missed opportunity, this sense that whatever I learn from her about what relationships are about, I'm not getting the same opportunity to explore that I'd get with another person who is just starting out in the world of getting to know the opposite sex.

Granted, there also has to be attraction there. I have been sexually involved with two girls who I thought were very unattractive, primarily because they were at this same place. Neither had kissed a guy before, they both wondered what having a boyfriend was like. However, not feeling attraction toward them, they didn't end up helping me develop and answer what I wanted answered, namely how do I relate to a girl with whom I actually have romantic feelings. That's what sometimes feels hopeless--to find a girl out there who's attractive to me, yet who hasn't previously found mutual attraction with enough other guys to pass through this developmental process. I feel like if I were still in high school, I'd have a much better chance at that.

Huh, are you saying that at 32 you are into 16 years olds (or younger)?


I am into women who, in terms of social experience, are at what's typical of that age or younger. They aren't actually that age, though.



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22 May 2017, 12:50 am

Gross


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22 May 2017, 1:23 am

biostructure wrote:
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This is exactly why I strongly prefer (read: almost require) that girls I date ARE just starting out in the dating world/are just discovering boys. It's not because of some religious purity notions, not because of a "whore-madonna dichotomy", or whatever else people might think the reason is. It's exactly because I want to learn WITH someone, not FROM someone (about romance and sex, that is).

With a girl for whom it's "not her first rodeo", as you put it, even if she were to seem head over heels into me, there's this sense of missed opportunity, this sense that whatever I learn from her about what relationships are about, I'm not getting the same opportunity to explore that I'd get with another person who is just starting out in the world of getting to know the opposite sex.

Granted, there also has to be attraction there. I have been sexually involved with two girls who I thought were very unattractive, primarily because they were at this same place. Neither had kissed a guy before, they both wondered what having a boyfriend was like. However, not feeling attraction toward them, they didn't end up helping me develop and answer what I wanted answered, namely how do I relate to a girl with whom I actually have romantic feelings. That's what sometimes feels hopeless--to find a girl out there who's attractive to me, yet who hasn't previously found mutual attraction with enough other guys to pass through this developmental process. I feel like if I were still in high school, I'd have a much better chance at that.

Huh, are you saying that at 32 you are into 16 years olds (or younger)?


I am into women who, in terms of social experience, are at what's typical of that age or younger. They aren't actually that age, though.


So you want someone you can groom, is what you're saying. This is what abusers do, specifically target and take advantage of younger people with little experience (which makes them more socially and psychologically vulnerable) so the abusers can psychologically mould them into whatever they like. You just want to avoid the illegality of actually grooming a child/young teen, so you're looking for a vulnerable inexperienced adult to groom instead.

This is next level gross, and predatory. :eew: