This doesn't make sense to me

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Most people often agree what's sexy and what's not - same for the sex appeal.
Some people are sexually attractive to the majority of the opposite sex while others aren't.

And there's strong cultural influence to it.

You are exaggerating the human uniqueness in all this.

The dates don't really mean a whole lot if they don't lead to anything though. Most of the guys that I met lost interest once they met me and 1 stood me up. The 2 that stayed interested seemed desperate. I also have over 800 likes (not sure if it's really that many or not), but they don't really seem to mean much either. A lot of the ones that like me don't send messages. I tried initiating with a few and only one replied, but the conversation didn't last. A lot of them initiate and talk a little, but eventually stop. Then there were some that I didn't feel interested in or I wouldn't know what to say to them. Part of it might be that I sometimes take a while to reply or I lose track, but I think there's something missing in me that makes other women attractive for this to happen so much.

Also, I've never had a guy give me a gift on a first date. I did thank him and everything, but it doesn't feel quite right. How could he know if he would like me to even buy me a gift? It feels like something that I shouldn't get unless it's from someone who knows that they like me. It also makes me really uncomfortable when I feel like I'm being put up on a pedestal. Especially by someone who hardly even knows me.

As I said earlier, tradition. Back before the 1960s flowers were practically mandatory: it showed the guy had true interest, and the type of flowers indicated his personality. It seems weird for you since you've never been socially trained for that to happen, but he probably came from a very traditional background and is probably something he does on all his dates. Sure, he needs to get with the times, but there's no reason to be creeped out by it, unless you're creeped out by traditional dudes in general. Also, in the current age I wouldn't be concerned about being put on a pedestal we're an increasingly grotesque culture that likes debased things, I'd be more concerned about someone playing you more than someone worshiping you.

800
I barely have 30 and non reply to me and most might just be fake profiles

Flowers aren't really a gift . It part of getting you to like him by showing romance and appreciation of your time.
Did you not get valentines growing up in school? Also with online dating if your profile is filled out and you talk for while first most guys will already know if they like you before the date if they didn't they would go on the date.

How does it put you on. A Pedestal?

Well you hit it on the head: cultural influence, which is not innate, it's a learned behavior, hence the reason so many variations across the world, and if you even cared to look probably in your own culture as well, since there are sub-cultures inside of cultures.