10 year age gap. Can a 29 old date a 19 year old?

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Dude that's not very fair. If a person smiles at you in passing then it's because they are a nice and jolly person. It's just you reading too much into it. I don't think this new girl is playing games, and if you keep telling yourself that no woman will find you attractive or want to date you then you will probably never find someone. If you just be yourself and don't try too hard then you might start getting somewhere. Yeah it can be hard to deal with constant rejection, especially for an aspie, but getting all bitter and dramatic and judging any woman you see and swearing off them (except relatives and acquaintances) really isn't the answer, unless you want to live a lonely life. Sorry to be so harsh but I'm saying this to help you

EDIT Some people do play games, but you could always just smile back and then crack on, water off a duck's back and all that. Mostly though the girl smiling is just being friendly and nice, no hidden agenda or anything. The world does not revolve around any one person mate. People being nice and civil does not necessarily mean that they want to be your friend or lover, or that they are deliberately messing with your head, it more than likely just means that they aren't shy and are a bit more open, or that they're not a moody, miserable anti-social bellend who has a chip on their shoulder and hates society and thinks that kind of thing is beneath them (not talking about you with that last bit, you don't strike me as that type, just someone who reads too much into any attention you're given. I'm sure you will figure it out for yourself one day).

It's not a confusing message, it's a message you're misinterpreting, so rather than getting all bitter and twisted (something no woman finds attractive) why don't you take this is a learning experience instead? That in some situations like work women are going to smile and be friendly but they're doing it to get on with their colleagues, not because they have a romantic interest in you.

Same thing goes for the shop assistant who smiles or the waitress that's really nice and friendly to you...they're just doing their jobs .

Couldn't have put it better myself. What is it with us aspies and our apparent inability to deal with disappointment eh

That was a joke btw

Let's be honest.

It's very possible to be someone that no woman finds a man attractive, if he's too physically conventionally unattractive.

Sly needs to work on his looks, to work out and to lose a lot weight. There's no other way.

I was that conventionally unattractive guy for a very very long time as well- I am cursed with a very short height (I am 5'3 while average for men where I live is 5'76, so I am 1.6 Percentile in shortness according to sources) but I was also very very skinny - plus I didn't care much about my fashion, my beard nor my haircut.

Yes, back then, when I was like this (short + very skinny + poor self-caring in appearance), NO girl wanted me, NO girl founded me attractive for almost 29 years; whether via real life or online means.

It's only after I started going to gym since 4 years ago and I built up some muscles that I started getting dates and even casual sex, at least with women who are shorter than me, I had....casual sex with two different women just recently, and two are interested. I am certainly not the top dog, I am still viewed as less attractive than many, but I am certainly doing much better compared to what I was before.

I've seen highly unattractive guys with girls that were ugly but not nearly too ugly. That aside, it's not always about looks or even appearances. I think maybe sometimes people can just tell that there's something about a person that just doesn't attract them, like they could go with a guy less physically attractive but the other person, without any telltale signs even, just rubs people up the wrong way, and people generally would not even want anything at all to do with such a person, they would be civil and that cos they aren't horrible but even without looking out of place or doing or saying anything weird or out of place, such a person, particularly true of aspies, obviously gives off some weird or even creepy vibe that deters even acquaintance, such a person may be the soundest, kindest person going, not perfect but definitely not as creepy or weird as they seem, but still people don't wanna be near such a person or even want them around. Also, attractiveness is or can be unpredictable.

Finally, how do you know Sly is overweight or has a shoddy appearance?

The long bit of my previous reply did not refer to me, I meant just generally. Also, all that might have worked that way for you but that doesn't mean it will work that way for anyone else. No matter how much a person judges others by their own standards (nearly everyone is guilty of that at some point), it just doesn't necessarily work that way and is more than likely gonna be different for other people. If Sly did that he still may not get anywhere with the ladies, so frankly Mr Shankly it's not helpful telling him that

It's a lie I'd prefer the truth. I don't smile at people I dislike who people who dislike me. I won't put on a lie because society says to. More people just new to be honest instead of pretending.

Also one of the key signs of a girl liking you is if they smile at you so if everyone out and about smiles to be polite how in the freak do you tell if someone likes you. I don't think you can all the flirting signs are also just people being polite so it seems in today's world there is no flirting there's no signs. People just guess and get lucky.

Losing weight won't change my face structure only plastic surgery could do that. It also won't change my income, home status, or car status. Which is min non negotiable even for aspie women.
People wanting just a one night stand even require those things. I also don't want causal sex

I dont have 4 years I'll hopefully be dead by then. f**k another 4 years of hell.

Also if I did lose weight and become super thin via hard work and starving why should I date some fat woman who thinks she doesn't have to do that but demands a thin guy?

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I smile at and joke around with the guys at work, and they do likewise.

I do not "like" them in any romantic sense.

It's called getting along with your co-workers.

You're okay-looking, Sly.

Your looks do not prevent you from finding a girlfriend.

Why don't you ask this 19-year-old out for coffee or something. If she says no, she says no.

Well when 99% of women either treat you like s**t or ignore you like you don't exist then one girl smiles every time you say hi to her how else would you take that?

No seems accepting no woman will ever like me is far better then getting my hopes up in some illogical idea a girl likes me only to find out duh she doesn't cause no woman will. I wish the hopeful part of me would just die . The world isn't hopeful or nice. Being a realist and accepting the crappyness of the world is the only way. Life doesn't get better for losers like me it only gets worse and worse.

I'd rather they just be a cold like the other women and just ignore me. But I'm done saying hi to female coworkers. Or trying to connect with any new women at work.
You're meet a girl at work they said just more lies people don't understand how worthless and hideous I am

Cause she doesn't like me. No point asking her out or wasting my little money I have on her. Also I'm super super shy. Just saying hi to her or asking how she was took a lot. And that's when I though stupidly that she might actually like me

She's not going to actually tell somebody she likes you! That would embarrass her.

She just might like you---but doesn't want to tell the whole world that.

Women talk to each other about what guys they like all the time.

Plus she's being hanging around the new guy who's taller then me and works in the gun counter a lot so she probably into him.
She's never came over to talk to me befor. No one does.

When a girl smiles at you, remember this video: