hurtloam wrote:
Yeah, I'm getting to the point where I really feel a relationship isn't worth the hassle.
It's a pain in the ads trying to attract someone in the first place. When you do catch someone's eye it's a pain in the ads trying to do all the right things to develop their interest and I go to all this effort and no one asks me out or if I ask them out they don't text back or say no.
It's too much effort for getting constantly hurt.
There are 2 Steps.
Step 1 is:
The physical part.
Lots of people ignore or aren't aware of the Biological-aspect of attracting a guy.
I have begun to run 20 minutes on a treadmill every day and lift light weights - which can actually be fun.
If you do that for yourself, you will be healthier and happier and also men will notice you more.
That is actually how it is designed to be, especially if you believe in Evolution.
Step 2 is:
The verbal part.
When you see a male you desire - you only need to do one thing to attract him in conversation.
- Have a common-interest with him (or fake it, till you make it!)
Seriously! If your crush likes Football/Cricket/Whatever it may be - then you talk about that with him until he feels comfortable with you.
The reason for this is so he can feel a connection with you - and feel comfortable enough to explore it.
This is just an effective means to do that.
And it works.
Even if what he's passionate about doesn't interest you - you only need to talk about it until it seems like he's very comfortable with you.
By then, if you've been doing Step 1 routinely, then he will feel a connection with you - and he will want to explore it.
It's that simple.
You do those two things consistently, and you've got your boyfriend.