Rejection

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Maybe he comes across as uninteresting. The world is not divided into ugly and non ugly looking people. Most of the time he’s probably average looking and seems boring so she pushes next.

Like I said, a faceless aspie man who I have a love/hate friendship with can make people obsessed with him without having a photo up.

Dating sites as a woman are usually just pushing next next next until someone stands out. We get so many messages that getting to know each person would take all day. I once swiped through 200 guys on tinder before swiping right. They weren’t “ugly”, they just seemed boring to me. I’m not interested in sports, holding up fish, drinking beer, rap music, taking photos giving the middle finger and surfing.

Online dating is skewed. Women receive 100 times the interest as they do in real life. It’s like flicking through a novel you’re told you have 60 seconds to read. I seriously would NOT recommend it for any average guy.

Dating sites as a woman are usually just pushing next next next until someone stands out.

Do you not have your own opinion? Disagree with it? Let’s hear it.

Boo is an antagonist, he’d have a field day with most of the posts here.

Boo is going to have a field day with this.

Do you not have your own opinion? Disagree with it? Let’s hear it.

Boo is an antagonist, he’d have a field day with most of the posts here.

Often people would rather ghost someone than tell them why they aren’t interested in them, out of fear of them getting angry or annoyed.

You said, in your own words, online dating is not recommended for the 'average' guy. Which means it's worthwhile for handsome guys. Yes?

But earlier in the same paragraph you said the world isn't divided into ugly and non-ugly people, i.e. good looking and non-goodlooking or ugly men (to you).

I don't even....



Yes. Clickity click until you come across someone who's FACE and LOOKS you like. It doesn't matter if their holding up a fish or interested in one sporting event or not. The selling point was LOOKS.

I don't even...

I'll just leave it at...

Well, no, it doesn't mean that. Not everyone is going to be 100% accepted by someone they're interested in 100% of the time, no matter how "conventionally attractive" they seem.

It's so much more than just looks and interests. I stick to dating sites where you can answer questions and get match percentages. If someone messages me, I look at their profiles, what questions they've answered, and other indicators to see if we'd really be a good fit before deciding whether or not to reply. I've turned down guys who I considered to be absolutely gorgeous because our morals differed too much, we didn't have the same relationship goals, we didn't see eye-to-eye on important topics like religion/politics, or we had different communication needs.

I wouldn't call what happened to that guy "ghosting", but rather being rejected just based off of first impressions. I feel bad for him because he clearly didn't expect it, but insulting all of those girls was uncalled for.

That's a pretty negative way to look at women who aren't interested in you. Also, saying "she's not special and plenty of other women are nicer and prettier" is definitely reacting with a "tic-tack insult". It's much healthier to have a mindset of something like, "Rejection hurts, but it's okay because I just wasn't what this person was looking for." It's not easy to develop that mindset, since anger or wanting to hurt in return is a natural reaction to pain, but it feels so much better when you do get there.

Some asinine reasons I've been rejected:

- looking younger than my actual age
- not having a beard / facial hair
- not being 6 foot tall, (apparently 5'9 > 5'10 was "too short")
- not having the right hairstyle
- liking Radiohead and old-fashioned prog-rock and not pop or club music like Ministry of Sound
- not having a car
- being too thin (134lbs age 21) by a woman that was all of 105lbs herself
- not having friends (apparently that made me either anti-social, closeted gay or a serial killer)
- not wanting to get involved in physical fights with other men
- not being a loud, extrovert, lager-drinking, club-going, Rugby-playing lads lad
- working a basic job in a supermarket and not white collar professional

and the most laughable *drum roll*....wearing a orange t-shirt onetime