Why you can't get a date

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He means Nurseangela, she’s on WP.

We not talking cents we talking dollars. You make 20 she makes 22 monthly you 3,200 her 3,520 yearly you 38,400 her 42,240 but what if you make 17 and she makes 26 ar two dollar difference she’s making about 2,000 more then you a year, the more dollars difference adds up, what if she gets raises.

Ok bills, we’ll say she makes more then you she wants a certain life style that her income can provide but yours can’t so now you can’t pay half of the lifestyle she wants. What do you do? You make 3,200 but she expects you to contribute 3,520 to keep her life style that she had before you but now has to do it for two. So either yiu figure how to make more or she has to lower her lifestyle. And that’s the problem. See there’s absolutely o reasoned a woman making 17 and hour couldn’t be with me and be happy except that she wants to live a higher life style then I could even pay half of. It’s as simple as that. Two people could have a kid or kids at min wage pay. But she thinks she needs her $17 income and a guys $25 income to do it and do vacations . People don’t need vacations or to eat out. What’s wrong with cooking meals at home? What’s wrong with simple used furniture. What’s wrong with cheap silver wear and plates? Why is it most women insist on upper middle class life stile? Until the 70s only the very rich traveled. Simple society tells the, they need to be upper middle class etc

Who has every spent 1 million dollars on raising a kid besides rich people. My family certainly didn’t. And I made it through child hood.

I don't either.
I expect at least one compatible person on this planet to MEET US HALFWAY.

That's still asking for too much. People don't have to do anything they don't want to, neither do you. Dating is hit and miss, some people just never find anyone. I have accepted I most likely won't find anyone, and it's much better this way. Then if you do find someone, it's an unexpected bonus. You can't expect someone to want to date you, it's ridiculous.

There are plenty of people who might date you, or me, but finding them is another question. I'm not going to try to force it. It's unfortunate other people seem to still think the world owes them love and affection. The world is a cruel place, and I'm sure we all know this. It's a lot easier if you are at least at peace with the one person who has your back - yourself.

Halebop you can't tell people when to stop struggling and give in to the single life. They need to find that on their own. No amount of posting will change anyone's mind.

I've had to reach that point by myself.

I've had years of older women telling me I'll be happier if I stop looking for love and I just thought they were sad and pathetic and I didn't want to be like them. It hurt me more that they thought I was not good enough to be loved.

They were trying to help me find a happier way of living, but i saw it as telling me that I'm a loser.

Now I'm older and more tired and a bit less interested in sex I've settled into accepting a life on my own.

I still feel like a loser. I'm still hurt that I'm one of the ones who isn't able to participate in that aspect of being human. I'm still hurt that no men thought I was good enough for them.

Maybe in time I'll get over it. But I'm still grieving.

Needing love is normal. It's part of being human. We're all born with that desire and it is strong.

It's not about thinking we 'deserve' or are owed anything. It's just a normal desire.

We were all brought up to believe we would be like most people and find something that is normal for most. That's to be expected.

There's no point getting angry at people who are still learning to accept that they can't have what is so simple for the majority of people.

I'm.not entitled to a relationship.

No one deserves to be alone, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

But I will give myself the right to self pity.

We have the right to freedom of speech

In an Autistic support forum I don't mind lonely people complainingnher till the cows come home.

Find it annoying? Then leave or ignore the posts.

I won't bottle up my emotions but give myself the right to feel them since that.makes me human.

I have few family, no friends and no relationship. Its ridiculous to expect lonely people to never complain or have to vent off some steam.

Most of the time I feel fine being single, but its still very painful.

I'm more afraid no one will ever love me than being single. If I had a girlfriend for just a year and it was a happy relatipnship I'd feel a whole lot better being single again.

But everywhere in real life and on the internet proves to me it seems no woman will love men like Sly or me if I turn out similar to him in the future (low paying job, lives with parents, etc.)
No mater how much weight he loses or how much of a kind loving person he is.

I only care about looks and personality, always have, always will. And by looks I mean a normal girl who takes care of herself. Not a supermodel or obese uggo who never showers or brushes her teeth and dressed like a hobo on purpose.

If I were to marry someone and the plan was to conform to traditional gender roles, we had children, and I was the stay at home care giver, then I would expect him to be able to earn enough to support a family such that he could both fulfill our respective roles.

However, if I were the wage earner and he, the care giver, that would be fine with me, provided he actually attended to his domestic duties sufficiently.

If children were not involved, and we both worked, it would be nice if he made more than me, but not a deal breaker. However I would prefer he made enough to at least support himself.

However, regardless, I would not pass up someone I was very attracted to, and who was also very attracted to me, based on earning power alone.

As for single women who refuse to even look at men who earn less than they do, when she, herself earns a high salary, they can stay in their self imposed lonesomeness along with men who are single because they refuse to even consider a woman their age or a few years older.

I think it was OK Cupid that once released an article based on their data, which noted that men would have significantly more success dating on their website if they were more open to dating women their own age.

OK Cupid also released data showing that women rated 80% of the men below average, while the men rated 50% of the women below average.

It's largely women who need a reality check, not men.

What if 80% of the men on there are actually below average?

It could be that they are rating the men shown to them, which are likely chosen by the algorithm based on not only their preferences, but the preferences of the men. Because most men put preferences for younger women, these women are likely seeing a large number of men who are a little too old for them, and based on my experience, who probably also think "a few extra pounds" means 40lbs overweight.

But let's compare the ideal man and ideal women according to men and women.





I think the men's ideal of a woman who is a 10 deviates a lot more from the realm of possibility than the woman's idea of a man who is a 10. In any case,

But the reality is, most women don't look like either of those women and most men don't look like either of those men and ugly people get married. This has been discussed before but one of the problems with online dating is it's not a realm in which many of the factors integral to human attraction can be expressed and perceived, so people default to shallow when it comes to looks.

Could be, but you have no evidence for that. A 30% difference is a ALOT. Based on my experience, men are alot less deluded about their weight compared to women.

It's unrealistic in so far that she probably needs implants to look like that, otherwise I'd say they´re pretty equal. But the thing is, men's preferences are generally alot more diverse than what is shown here. I for one vastly prefer the woman on the left.

Even if your anxiety does not ruin your dates, it hinders you from getting dates as it limits you to online dating and online dating is where people judge others most on superficial criterion, because of the amount of people and because things like appearance/job/social status are the things that are most easy to see. It might also prevent you from having a more active social life and getting to know people in a more natural way.
I'm not saying you should walk up to complete strangers and ask them out, as obviously that wouldn't work for most people and even if you weren't anxious it'd not be the ideal way of getting dates.
But any condition that hinders you from having an active social life is also a condition that hinders you from getting to know women in a more natural way that gives them a chance to also get to know your personality instead of just your financial situation before they decide whether they want to try a relationship with you.

Evidence to show you? No. But have I seen evidence myself being a female on a dating site? Yes. As for weight, perhaps women also think "a few extra pounds" means 40lbs overweight.

But I like my $2,000 couch. I like my $1,200 bed. I love eating out all the time! And going to restaurants is even better when you take your girlfriend!

I don't think I could date a minimum wage girl. One time I was interested in an unemployed girl. She asked to borrow $50 for her medication and never paid it back. Maybe I should just stick to middle class girls.

Pretty sure that's a completely different situation. I'm not judging people for wanting love. The problem is they complain about how other people are the problem and refuse to try to improve themselves, self reflect and grow. I don't understand the moaning. Even when I thought that's what I wanted, I didn't moan every time I got turned down. I just don't get it.

When someone says the "expect" something from someone, it means they think they deserve other people to give them a chance when quite frankly, it's not what the other people want.

Is it weird if I think the perfect female body according to women looks better than the perfect female body according to men, even though I'm a man?