What do I need to do differently (reboot)

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War(Reboot).

You have the worst reading comprehension known to humanity. It's not my belief that God is controlling my life. The Bible Belt shoved that idea down my throat. I oppose the idea that God controls me and is working me towards a "plan" that nearly the entire Bible Belt goes on and on about. It played a role in destroying my happiness and made me depressed. Why do you think I hate the Bible Belt culture so much? How could you miss that I don't have any faith in God?

Get a membership on love-shy.com and view the forums. They praise the redpill mentality like bro gamers praise the latest CoD game and your paradigm will get shattered. Ones like Oldboy would call you a humanoid cockroach (His term for black people) who is confused (How he views transpeople) and should've been aborted. You are not thinking very thoroughly about the people who you are cheerleading for.

Where did I ever say I hated transpeople, felt threatened by them, and wanted to kill them? Again, more terrible reading comprehension. I was saying that about the people you are cheerleading for. Stop the stupidity and get a clue already.



I don't worship God anymore.

In answer to your question about the damage being reversed - I believe it can.

It will take time and energy but it can happen if you are receptive to it.

You may need the right therapist for this though or a very non-judgemental compassionate friend who listens well.

[slow clap]

I’ve managed to make a modest life for myself in the Bible Belt. The trouble with that mentality is while Marknis makes some good points on Southern culture, there really is a lot of diversity here. It’s no paradise on earth, it does tend to be Christian friendly, but it’s no black abyss, either. I have and have had students in my clasroom into anime, filmmaking/animation, obscure musical micro genres like vaporwave, mixed media art, Broadway theater, and, of course, the full spectrum of the commercial mainstream. It’s not all 4-wheelers and pickup trucks. And that’s here in the Mississippi Delta where a large part of the population is destitute or barely above it.

If you can’t get out, I get it. You’re stuck. If I had my way, I’d be working in Nashville long before now. We get stuck in life. When that happens, you have to go with what’s available. If you hate being stuck and you hate the Bible Belt, I sincerely doubt you are alone. SOMEONE around you feels the same way, I promise.

The Delta has kept me alive, but it’s been cruel at times. I’m in the worst career slump I’ve had to this point, I’m facing some work pressures, and I have church people trying to have conversations with me that make me uncomfortable. Time to form an exit strategy. I can work things out nicely in two years and be done if that’s what end up being best.

Thing is, I’m just facing facts here. It is what it is. I can accept it, adapt, work with it, grow, and make progress, or I can simply cut my losses. Neither is “right” nor “wrong.” And if I complain about it, in the end it’s my responsibility which path I take. So I choose not to complain because complaining doesn’t make it any better.

And it won’t make your situation any better, either. Move or make the most of what you have. If you want advice, there’s no shortage here. Reject mine or not, reject some else’s or not—doesn’t matter because most of what I’ve seen others give you is not bad. Please understand we want to help. However, it’s off putting when you casually dismiss or even become combative like that. Posting in the Haven might do you more good because giving advice the way we do isn’t allowed. If you aren’t really looking for advice, don’t ask for it. If you ARE, then sift out what you think is good, try out some things that look marginal, and just keep at it. Sooner or later SOMETHING will work.

I’ve laid out my “dating for n00bz” blueprint many a time. I don’t feel like doing it again. The only advice I have left is DO SOMETHING.

Thanks for the update Morpheis.

And the preaching goes on and on and on. And then on and on again. I think I will have a little sleep.

I’m not really up for redpill. Not that familiar with it, and really kinda past the point in my life that matters. But I like this: “Once you stop isolating your issues to the bible belt”.

You could come full stop there and it would work. It’s a bigger problem than just where you live. Try packing up and moving to Toronto and see just how much better it gets. You’d get better diversity, bigger population means more likely to find someone like yourself, it’s Canada, so not even the same culture exactly... But I guarantee if you have trouble meeting girls and forming lasting relationships where you are, you’ll end up no better even if you leave the country.

I understand. The culture is the same here. Maybe a good goal for you before finding someone is focusing on your independence for your self confidence. It's probably a bit different there, as houses are so expensive, people have started living with their parents in their 30s.

Do you enjoy your part time work? I can also PM you some websites if you are fluent in English that you can earn extra money from. Perhaps it will help you in your goal of independence. Are you open with living with others for a short period of time?

You can lie about whether you've dated. If it's about virginity, you might benefit from seeing a sex worker once. If it's about dating, just say to people you've dated before. Trust me, looking at the completely clueless guys I know with dating experience, no-one will dispute it.

Who ever told you the suicide advice is someone whose advice you should CHOOSE to ignore. They are stupid and naive. You don't need them in your life.

Face of boo is just being cheeky.

"Crawling in my skin, these wounds they will not healllllllllahhhhhhhhhhhh!! !! !! !!"




That's what I think of the white noise.

Rather than explain how the many points of your post showed you didn't read mine in fact in thinking I was speaking about you in certain parts I'll just post this.


This site has long strayed from it's intended purpose. A good number of posters here aren't even really "love-shy" but rather identify as something called "incel". This has become a derogatory term on much of the web because as you've pointed out, these people tend to blame women for their problems rather than try to improve themselves. They are mostly a lost cause and it's best to just ignore them, at least until they decide that they want to try and help themselves. Amidst the noise there are a few decent people here but with all the general unpleasantness of this place only a select few stick around long term. There have been some positives to this forum over the years but generally speaking it's a good example of "this is why we can't have nice things". Regardless this particular subforum isn't meant for this kind of discussion so I will lock this thread, but feel free to bring up the issue in the forums for registered members

And that's an administrator from the shy forums. Why would you even bother going to a cesspool like that. Whelp, we have reached the point where it's the end.



you are challenged in some way that is causing you to reject everything despite asking for help. Or you are actually just really bad at playing your own life. I don't know what it is but r incels, is where you should go imo to feel at home.

I am not incel and I would not feel at home on any of their forums. I don't post on the love-shy forum at all, I was just showing you the truth of the redpill nonsense you keep cheerleading like a performing clown for. Your post was clearly aimed at me since you quoted me and wrongfully assumed I was upholding a belief that God was in control of my life. Thank you once again for proving me right that you have terrible reading comprehension and are deluded.
I don't support the incel community. They think the Bible Belt is a love-shy/incel utopia. The ones from more liberal areas actually think if they move here, they'll get women to perform fellatio on command for them.

You'll be back since you are so wishy-washy.

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Mark, man up. I'm tired of reading this beating yourself up nonsense. What you seem to be doing now is that you are giving yourself reasons to feel depressed and down to get attention.

I am protecting myself, not beating myself up. SilverBolt is resorting to personal attacks and has been reported.

Why do you look at my threads if you claim to be sick of them? You don't have to look at them.

It doesn't look like you are protecting yourself.

Read what he posted to me just one page back and look at my response. Oddly, he's claimed more than once he's sick of seeing my posts but yet he keeps coming back.