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06 Dec 2017, 7:03 am

No, only if you come in on a wrecking ball. :P



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06 Dec 2017, 7:08 am

That means you would want to see me totally naked on a wrecking ball from the first go, no slow stripping phase even.


You have no patience.



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06 Dec 2017, 7:53 am

Closet Genious wrote:
The majority of women like very dominant males.

The majority of women like men who has higher status than themselves.

It's what I've been saying this whole thread.


In my dating days, I noticed almost instantly that women's attraction to me grew tenfold once I started letting my more dominant side show. Of course, once they had a few dates the result was still the same but at least I was able to get some attention. I also never once went on a second date with a woman in a higher 'status' than me. Not even one. Having said that.....

hale_bopp wrote:
Because fantasy and reality are two very different things. Someone might fantasize about being grabbed at the bus stop, but if it actually happened I can assure you it’s probably another story. Fantasies are a lot safer, you have full discretion and full control.

Based on my experiences, I can imagine a lot of women would like to be tied up for example but if they were being handcuffed and arrested for murder they probably would not be enjoying it.



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06 Dec 2017, 1:44 pm

Yeah it’s definitely a popular fetish.

I hate not being in control so I would hate it. I’m on the other end of the spectrum. But it’s not uncommon at all.

Dominance in general is attractive, but it’s not the only factor. People who are dominant with a terrible personality I wouldn’t touch with a barge pole.



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06 Dec 2017, 1:54 pm

For me, the issue is how to convey the need for a partner to be highly sexually compatible with me, and have the same bedroom interests, early on in dating---without it being creepy.


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07 Dec 2017, 11:13 am

Tim_Tex wrote:
For me, the issue is how to convey the need for a partner to be highly sexually compatible with me, and have the same bedroom interests, early on in dating---without it being creepy.


Some say you have to be sexual or else the women will think you aren't interested, others say don't be sexual or the women will run away. I hear different takes on what should be done and it's confusing as hell. I do know that in the redneck and ghetto cultures that they have no problem physically harassing or even hitting women. That still makes me angry because I was told growing up to never hit a woman.



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07 Dec 2017, 11:21 am

Marknis wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
For me, the issue is how to convey the need for a partner to be highly sexually compatible with me, and have the same bedroom interests, early on in dating---without it being creepy.


Some say you have to be sexual or else the women will think you aren't interested, others say don't be sexual or the women will run away. I hear different takes on what should be done and it's confusing as hell.


It depends on the woman you're trying to hit on. Some expect you to give sexual hints and some others will get uncomfortable if you do. As for how to tell the difference between the two types of women, I have no idea.



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07 Dec 2017, 4:51 pm

Fireblossom wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
For me, the issue is how to convey the need for a partner to be highly sexually compatible with me, and have the same bedroom interests, early on in dating---without it being creepy.


Some say you have to be sexual or else the women will think you aren't interested, others say don't be sexual or the women will run away. I hear different takes on what should be done and it's confusing as hell.


It depends on the woman you're trying to hit on. Some expect you to give sexual hints and some others will get uncomfortable if you do. As for how to tell the difference between the two types of women, I have no idea.


I don't really "hit on" women. I am generally very shy and I fear rejection to the point it paralyzes me. The first time I've asked a girl out (I was probably 12 or so), I was so nervous of her response that I told her I was kidding even though I really wasn't. :(



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08 Dec 2017, 7:41 am

Marknis wrote:
I don't really "hit on" women. I am generally very shy and I fear rejection to the point it paralyzes me. The first time I've asked a girl out (I was probably 12 or so), I was so nervous of her response that I told her I was kidding even though I really wasn't. :(

The more rejection you get the less "ducks" you learn to give. By the end I didn't really give a duck because often times it was an issue on their end, not mine. For example, one woman likely rejected me because I was not a deadbeat alcoholic like her father.

The one thing I learned from Toastmasters is do not apologize for being nervous, shy, etc.

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It depends on the woman you're trying to hit on. Some expect you to give sexual hints and some others will get uncomfortable if you do. As for how to tell the difference between the two types of women, I have no idea.

It has been my experience that the eyes don't lie. If they become very dilated quickly that's a good sign although that is no guarantee. The biggest thing to remember is that women, like men are all different. I probably scared a woman or two away with my kinky side, but it would have never worked anyway so who cares?



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10 Dec 2017, 10:41 am

The women I get deemed to be compatible with I do not mesh with at all. They either suffer from debilitating mental health conditions or are hyper religious, sometimes both. I am not demanding a cheerleader, the prom queen, or a super model but I can't settle for someone who looks unattractive to me or has clashing life views with me.



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10 Dec 2017, 10:50 am

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I am not demanding a cheerleader, the prom queen, or a super model but I can't settle for someone who looks unattractive to me or has clashing life views with me.


That's good to hear; it means you aren't as desperate as you could be. I'm pretty sure that someone super desperate wouldn't have any standards and no deal breakers... say, is distance a deal breaker for you? You know, since women in your area are, from what I've understood, very religious and you are not, it might be good to look from somewhere else.



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11 Dec 2017, 6:08 pm

Fireblossom wrote:
Marknis wrote:
I am not demanding a cheerleader, the prom queen, or a super model but I can't settle for someone who looks unattractive to me or has clashing life views with me.


That's good to hear; it means you aren't as desperate as you could be. I'm pretty sure that someone super desperate wouldn't have any standards and no deal breakers... say, is distance a deal breaker for you? You know, since women in your area are, from what I've understood, very religious and you are not, it might be good to look from somewhere else.


I could tolerate the distance if it's in an hour driving range. Anything past that would just be too stressful.



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12 Dec 2017, 7:32 am

Marknis wrote:
I could tolerate the distance if it's in an hour driving range. Anything past that would just be too stressful.

Not to mention the costs, both monetarily and physically of going back and forth can eat you alive. Been there, done that.



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12 Dec 2017, 11:32 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:
Marknis wrote:
I could tolerate the distance if it's in an hour driving range. Anything past that would just be too stressful.

Not to mention the costs, both monetarily and physically of going back and forth can eat you alive. Been there, done that.


I live in Texas so I pretty much have to drive to get anywhere.



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14 Dec 2017, 4:58 pm

My mind has lately been feeling like anything in regards to relationships is out of my hand. The social arena is closed off to me, I've been suffering a respiratory sickness, and the year is almost over. :(



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15 Dec 2017, 4:40 am

my mind is telling me i'm old and getting older :bigsmurf:



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