Bringing her kid on the first date?

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No risk of that. She's in a different department in a different building on the other side of town.

I wouldn’t go there either. But they may have the sense not to get pregnant on a whim. Unless the single mother was married or something then it didn’t work, I think it’s an insensible idea to get pregnant. There is just no legal security in it. Women who get pregnant without considering legal and financial implications seem a bit stupid. A kid isn’t just something to pop out, it’s a life changing decision which needs to be thought about harder than anything.

It's not really cheating if their partner knows and is okay with it, considering an important part of cheating on anything is keeping others from knowing about it.

Being poly isn’t cheating. They are not monogamous so manogamous view points don’t apply to them.

This is why the social norm is for single parents to Not introduce their kids to dates, especially first dates or hookups. Now you know. Inviting the kid along to a first date would have likely been received as very weeeeeird by her & her protective mama-bear sense may have even been activated and had her think "Why does this guy want to meet my child? Is he some kind of pedo/creep?" Maybe not, since she'd been stalling with the babysitter thing.. but possibly.

Sounds like she was using not being able to get a babysitter as an excuse not to meet you, really. Anyone with financial means can get themselves a babysitter. Maybe not on ultra short notice, but with planning? Yes. Unless she will ONLY hire one particular person or family member or something. But in general, one can hire someone to do damned near anything for the simple offering of $.

Polygamy & cheating? Cheating implies breaking rules. If polygamous rules state that it's Ok & all are aware, then there's no cheating. It may not be for you, but they're not playing by your rules, morals, or ethical code. Roll your eyes all you want but not everyone lives their sex lives like you opt to live yours & that's just a simple fact, like it or not.

But being carefull about who she hires as a babysitter isn't a bad thing... I mean who in the world would just hire the first person available to watch after their child? That's just not safe; one should look in to things when they choose a babysitter. She might have too strict standards, sure, but when it's about a child's safety I'd say that strict standards are far better than being too carefree.

Careful, OP will be triggered by these types of comments (again).