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14 Jun 2018, 5:14 pm

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FFS stop projecting gorilla values onto humans.


^ Can't argue with that.




Funnily enough, the thread was about ancient human values, not gorrillas’; the wiping out 95% of male lineage value in particular.

So I really laugh at you guys when you imply that humans were historically more peaceful than gorillas, like seriously? With all this history of wars and killing in human history, who are you kidding?



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14 Jun 2018, 5:15 pm

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Chimps tend to be less violent than gorillas



on which planet?


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14 Jun 2018, 5:19 pm

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in chimp societies, alpha =/= jerk


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Countless researchers have documented that alpha males have displayed a variety of behaviors from being jerks, to acting benevolen


Hahaha :lol:, so alpha the true nice fellas now? From where did you make this up? More denial from you as usual.

In gorillas, alphas are known to kill the infants of the defeated previous alpha, not a very nice behavior isn’t it?
Niceness/Jerkness may also be a matter of perspective; nice toward who? yeah an alpha gorilla may be benevolent and nice with its females and infants; but he is gonna beat the hell of a beta if he catches him mating with one of his females, that’s why beta gorillas/chimps sneakly mate with females.

Chimps tend to be less violent than gorillas but they aren’t a nice species either at all.

Look, in most mammals species the males compete violently over females, gorillas, chimps, lions, deer, seals, rats even the herbivores... hell, even the gentle giraffes, male giraffe do neck fights where a male tries to use his hard head as a hammer to BREAK the opponent’s neck, the loser probably ends up dying.

Warning: violent content





The alpha male hippos often kill male newborns; baby male hippos always live a life of hiding from the alpha.

Warning: violent content, alpha hippo killing a baby hippo:



Yeah... very nice alphas. You should watch more National geography and...History, instead of creating stories of nice alphas which have nothing with the reality of the jungle; just the usual denial of things.


No, I don't need to watch anything.

I read books. If anyone can supply a good enough reason why I should eschew the research of scientists who have been observing these animals for decades in favor of a few guys who can't get laid, I'm all ears.

Of course, if it makes you feel better that any man who is successful with women is a "jerk," shine on; however, it's not much different than women who decide that the skinny, pretty girl absolutely MUST be a "bit_h." Stop denying: humans are the most socially complex primate species on the planet. There's no simple equation that can define how millions of humans interact with each other.



Oh yeah, deny more, keep burrying your head in the sand and keep claiming that alpha males in animals are loving and nice, seriously?
The animal documentry programs are full of scenes of violent male fights and alphas. committing infacitide and killing, these are recorded videos that cannot be denied, yet here you are denying by a referring to some doubtful book that you didn’t even name.

You’re being so delusional with your idealism.



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14 Jun 2018, 5:22 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
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FFS stop projecting gorilla values onto humans.


^ Can't argue with that.




Funnily enough, the thread was about ancient human values, not gorrillas’; the wiping out 95% of male lineage value in particular.

So I really laugh at you guys when you imply that humans were historically more peaceful than gorillas, like seriously? With all this history of wars and killing in human history, who are you kidding?


We are more peaceful.

Most chimps and gorillas will NOT tolerate strangers to the point it becomes a bloodbath.

As it happens, humans are smart enough to invent methods to kill each other much more efficiently. Compared to other primates, we get along remarkably well.


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14 Jun 2018, 5:25 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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in chimp societies, alpha =/= jerk


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Countless researchers have documented that alpha males have displayed a variety of behaviors from being jerks, to acting benevolen


Hahaha :lol:, so alpha the true nice fellas now? From where did you make this up? More denial from you as usual.

In gorillas, alphas are known to kill the infants of the defeated previous alpha, not a very nice behavior isn’t it?
Niceness/Jerkness may also be a matter of perspective; nice toward who? yeah an alpha gorilla may be benevolent and nice with its females and infants; but he is gonna beat the hell of a beta if he catches him mating with one of his females, that’s why beta gorillas/chimps sneakly mate with females.

Chimps tend to be less violent than gorillas but they aren’t a nice species either at all.

Look, in most mammals species the males compete violently over females, gorillas, chimps, lions, deer, seals, rats even the herbivores... hell, even the gentle giraffes, male giraffe do neck fights where a male tries to use his hard head as a hammer to BREAK the opponent’s neck, the loser probably ends up dying.

Warning: violent content





The alpha male hippos often kill male newborns; baby male hippos always live a life of hiding from the alpha.

Warning: violent content, alpha hippo killing a baby hippo:



Yeah... very nice alphas. You should watch more National geography and...History, instead of creating stories of nice alphas which have nothing with the reality of the jungle; just the usual denial of things.


No, I don't need to watch anything.

I read books. If anyone can supply a good enough reason why I should eschew the research of scientists who have been observing these animals for decades in favor of a few guys who can't get laid, I'm all ears.

Of course, if it makes you feel better that any man who is successful with women is a "jerk," shine on; however, it's not much different than women who decide that the skinny, pretty girl absolutely MUST be a "bit_h." Stop denying: humans are the most socially complex primate species on the planet. There's no simple equation that can define how millions of humans interact with each other.



Oh yeah, deny more, keep burrying your head in the sand and keep claiming that alpha males in animals are loving and nice, seriously?
The animal documentry programs are full of scenes of violent male fights and alphas. committing infacitide and killing, these are recorded videos that cannot be denied, yet here you are denying by a referring to some doubtful book that you didn’t even name.

You’re being so delusional with your idealism.


It's not "idealism," it's truth.

Humans are the most socially complex species on the planet, and alpha =/= jerk.

Posts like yours just remind me why I view "evolutionary psychology" as complete sh_t.


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14 Jun 2018, 5:36 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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in chimp societies, alpha =/= jerk


Quote:
Countless researchers have documented that alpha males have displayed a variety of behaviors from being jerks, to acting benevolen


Hahaha :lol:, so alpha the true nice fellas now? From where did you make this up? More denial from you as usual.

In gorillas, alphas are known to kill the infants of the defeated previous alpha, not a very nice behavior isn’t it?
Niceness/Jerkness may also be a matter of perspective; nice toward who? yeah an alpha gorilla may be benevolent and nice with its females and infants; but he is gonna beat the hell of a beta if he catches him mating with one of his females, that’s why beta gorillas/chimps sneakly mate with females.

Chimps tend to be less violent than gorillas but they aren’t a nice species either at all.

Look, in most mammals species the males compete violently over females, gorillas, chimps, lions, deer, seals, rats even the herbivores... hell, even the gentle giraffes, male giraffe do neck fights where a male tries to use his hard head as a hammer to BREAK the opponent’s neck, the loser probably ends up dying.

Warning: violent content





The alpha male hippos often kill male newborns; baby male hippos always live a life of hiding from the alpha.

Warning: violent content, alpha hippo killing a baby hippo:



Yeah... very nice alphas. You should watch more National geography and...History, instead of creating stories of nice alphas which have nothing with the reality of the jungle; just the usual denial of things.


No, I don't need to watch anything.

I read books. If anyone can supply a good enough reason why I should eschew the research of scientists who have been observing these animals for decades in favor of a few guys who can't get laid, I'm all ears.

Of course, if it makes you feel better that any man who is successful with women is a "jerk," shine on; however, it's not much different than women who decide that the skinny, pretty girl absolutely MUST be a "bit_h." Stop denying: humans are the most socially complex primate species on the planet. There's no simple equation that can define how millions of humans interact with each other.



Oh yeah, deny more, keep burrying your head in the sand and keep claiming that alpha males in animals are loving and nice, seriously?
The animal documentry programs are full of scenes of violent male fights and alphas. committing infacitide and killing, these are recorded videos that cannot be denied, yet here you are denying by a referring to some doubtful book that you didn’t even name.

You’re being so delusional with your idealism.


It's not "idealism," it's truth.

Humans are the most socially complex species on the planet, and alpha =/= jerk.

Posts like yours just remind me why I view "evolutionary psychology" as complete sh_t.




1- You said : Further more, in chimp societies, alpha =/= jerk.

So you were talking about chimps, not humans

2- I showed you videos of alpha violence among animals, and there are plenty out there about male chimp violence; these are documentary programs from reputable animal channels, not some evolutionary psychology.


https://www.newscientist.com/article/21 ... er-tyrant/

They loved him so much, he must have been a very nice alpha.


Seriously, to which planet’s chimps you were referring to?



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14 Jun 2018, 5:57 pm

It is beyond me how some people want to project their concept of good and evil onto f*****g wild monkeys.



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14 Jun 2018, 6:01 pm

I think it's hard to be pretty much anybody today.


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14 Jun 2018, 6:27 pm

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It is beyond me how some people want to project their concept of good and evil onto f*****g wild monkeys.


Agreed.


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14 Jun 2018, 6:36 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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in chimp societies, alpha =/= jerk


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Countless researchers have documented that alpha males have displayed a variety of behaviors from being jerks, to acting benevolen


Hahaha :lol:, so alpha the true nice fellas now? From where did you make this up? More denial from you as usual.

In gorillas, alphas are known to kill the infants of the defeated previous alpha, not a very nice behavior isn’t it?
Niceness/Jerkness may also be a matter of perspective; nice toward who? yeah an alpha gorilla may be benevolent and nice with its females and infants; but he is gonna beat the hell of a beta if he catches him mating with one of his females, that’s why beta gorillas/chimps sneakly mate with females.

Chimps tend to be less violent than gorillas but they aren’t a nice species either at all.

Look, in most mammals species the males compete violently over females, gorillas, chimps, lions, deer, seals, rats even the herbivores... hell, even the gentle giraffes, male giraffe do neck fights where a male tries to use his hard head as a hammer to BREAK the opponent’s neck, the loser probably ends up dying.

Warning: violent content





The alpha male hippos often kill male newborns; baby male hippos always live a life of hiding from the alpha.

Warning: violent content, alpha hippo killing a baby hippo:



Yeah... very nice alphas. You should watch more National geography and...History, instead of creating stories of nice alphas which have nothing with the reality of the jungle; just the usual denial of things.


No, I don't need to watch anything.

I read books. If anyone can supply a good enough reason why I should eschew the research of scientists who have been observing these animals for decades in favor of a few guys who can't get laid, I'm all ears.

Of course, if it makes you feel better that any man who is successful with women is a "jerk," shine on; however, it's not much different than women who decide that the skinny, pretty girl absolutely MUST be a "bit_h." Stop denying: humans are the most socially complex primate species on the planet. There's no simple equation that can define how millions of humans interact with each other.



Oh yeah, deny more, keep burrying your head in the sand and keep claiming that alpha males in animals are loving and nice, seriously?
The animal documentry programs are full of scenes of violent male fights and alphas. committing infacitide and killing, these are recorded videos that cannot be denied, yet here you are denying by a referring to some doubtful book that you didn’t even name.

You’re being so delusional with your idealism.


It's not "idealism," it's truth.

Humans are the most socially complex species on the planet, and alpha =/= jerk.

Posts like yours just remind me why I view "evolutionary psychology" as complete sh_t.




1- You said : Further more, in chimp societies, alpha =/= jerk.

So you were talking about chimps, not humans

2- I showed you videos of alpha violence among animals, and there are plenty out there about male chimp violence; these are documentary programs from reputable animal channels, not some evolutionary psychology.


https://www.newscientist.com/article/21 ... er-tyrant/

They loved him so much, he must have been a very nice alpha.


Seriously, to which planet’s chimps you were referring to?


Chimps are much more nuanced than we give them credit for.

Being a psycho-arsehole is no guarantee of "dominance." In fact, researchers have observed violent, "psycho," chimps getting beat down. A male's "dominance" is based on how well he manages his social connections, not how violent he is.

Oh, and bonobos are not "non-violent," they're just somewhat less violent than common chimps. Female bonobos have demonstrated exquisite cruelty.


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17 Jun 2018, 4:53 am

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The ratio has always been about the same.

There are some places where there are slightly more women than men.

The ratio is rarely more than 1.1::1 either way.


And that's why polygamy is a bad idea.


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Its always been hard to be a man. Men put their health and lives on the line constantly. This is not even supposed to be a question, it's pure obviousness.


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Spending too much time in L&D could make you feel 12000 years old!


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22 Jun 2018, 5:42 pm

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Its always been hard to be a man. Men put their health and lives on the line constantly. This is not even supposed to be a question, it's pure obviousness.


^ This.

I've never understood why MRAs paint the past as some great male utopia. If you were a high-born rich dude, life could be sweet, but, if you were any other (poor) guy, you either died in battle, or worked yourself to death.

I think we need to focus on making things less sh_tty for both sexes.


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I've never understood why MRAs paint the past as some great male utopia. If you were a high-born rich dude, life could be sweet, but, if you were any other (poor) guy, you either died in battle, or worked yourself to death.

MRAs probably are knowingly making false statements IMO, to try and sell books or whatever else. They present position of rejecting radical feminism but nearly always the endgame is selling something.

If I ever end up on one of their blogs 90% of the time I'll scroll way down and end up seeing the icons for "we accept PayPal, MasterCard, Visa, AmEX, etc."

I think I've heard it get called the McDonalds of self help and I find that an apt description.

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I think we need to focus on making things less sh_tty for both sexes.

I personally agree with this but feel the majority of other people view it as a zero sum game therefore making things worse for one gender equals making it better for their own gender.


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XFilesGeek wrote:
I've never understood why MRAs paint the past as some great male utopia. If you were a high-born rich dude, life could be sweet, but, if you were any other (poor) guy, you either died in battle, or worked yourself to death.

MRAs probably are knowingly making false statements IMO, to try and sell books or whatever else. They present position of rejecting radical feminism but nearly always the endgame is selling something.

If I ever end up on one of their blogs 90% of the time I'll scroll way down and end up seeing the icons for "we accept PayPal, MasterCard, Visa, AmEX, etc."

I think I've heard it get called the McDonalds of self help and I find that an apt description.

XFilesGeek wrote:
I think we need to focus on making things less sh_tty for both sexes.

I personally agree with this but feel the majority of other people view it as a zero sum game therefore making things worse for one gender equals making it better for their own gender.


Absolutely agree.

The presence of social media has made us stupidly adversarial.

We need to promote critical thinking skills, and to not fall prey to extreme thinking.


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