Dr. Romie: more than half of married women have a backup man

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03 Aug 2018, 8:54 pm

I'd be interested in seeing the actual published paper about this study. The media has a tendancy to sensationalize research and distort the actual results. I'm guessing the question was something like "is there someone you'd date who is in your life if you weren't dating your partner. Over half of the participants could probably think of someone in their life. . .

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03 Aug 2018, 10:22 pm

alex wrote:

I'd be interested in seeing the actual published paper about this study. The media has a tendency to sensationalize research and distort the actual results.

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03 Aug 2018, 10:25 pm

This was actually from a Daily Mail/ Jezebel survey of their readees and I cannot find the actual survey. I will say, however, there is bound to be sample bias as I think those most likely to have a backup are most likely to take the survey because they want to tell someone about it.

That being said, I don't think having someone in mind should something happen to one's spouse or partner is a bad thing, particularly if one has children.

If I were married to someone I loved I would not want them to be alone should something happen to me. I would want him to know of a nice woman who would be a good partner for him.

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03 Aug 2018, 10:30 pm

SpiceWolf wrote:

alex wrote:

I'd be interested in seeing the actual published paper about this study. The media has a tendency to sensationalize research and distort the actual results.

joke

What the paper actually said was, corn syrup, one of the primary ingredients in jelly beans, was linked to increased sebaceous gland activity.

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04 Aug 2018, 12:23 am

alex wrote:

The Dr lady was talking about her own survey there; she’s not a middleman.

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04 Aug 2018, 9:00 am

Is marriage really necessary anymore?

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04 Aug 2018, 10:28 am

^ From a legal standpoint, yes. From a cultural one, not so much.

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04 Aug 2018, 2:04 pm

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Is marriage really necessary anymore?

You don't need a piece of paper to love, to be loyal, and to be committed to someone. Not only that, marriage is expensive...it cost a fortune to get married, and it cost even more to get a divorce (legal fees, and loss of half of your assest's.)

If people can't be faithful to their partner, why get married? Just stay single, and sleep around with everyone.

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04 Aug 2018, 2:16 pm

Chronos wrote:

That being said, I don't think having someone in mind should something happen to one's spouse or partner is a bad thing, particularly if one has children.

I think the main problem, is that women are afraid to be alone. To me, intentionally searching for, or "setting up" a potential relationship with someone else, while you are still in a relationship, is emotionally cheating (yes, I'm aware that sometimes, these things just happen unintentionally, though). How is this any different than having sex with someone else, while you are still in a relationship?

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04 Aug 2018, 3:00 pm

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it cost a fortune to get married

i don't know how much it costs in the US, but here the cost of paperwork is roughly $ 46 for the civil wedding...we didn't spend more than that.

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04 Aug 2018, 3:02 pm

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Is marriage really necessary anymore?

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04 Aug 2018, 3:08 pm

Booyakasha wrote:

SilverStar wrote:

it cost a fortune to get married

i don't know how much it costs in the US, but here the cost of paperwork is roughly $ 46 for the civil wedding...we didn't spend more than that.

It costs a lot because people want to spend a lot.

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04 Aug 2018, 3:17 pm

Peacesells wrote:

Booyakasha wrote:

SilverStar wrote:

it cost a fortune to get married

i don't know how much it costs in the US, but here the cost of paperwork is roughly $ 46 for the civil wedding...we didn't spend more than that.

It costs a lot because people want to spend a lot.

yeah...i checked and the religious wedding is even cheaper here....unless you want a big crowd and an expensive wedding gown which you'll most likely wear only once.

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04 Aug 2018, 3:36 pm

What's the point of a wedding without some conspicuous spending to show the groom can afford it?

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04 Aug 2018, 3:42 pm

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What's the point of a wedding without some conspicuous spending to show the groom can afford it?

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04 Aug 2018, 3:44 pm

Peacesells wrote:

Booyakasha wrote:

SilverStar wrote:

it cost a fortune to get married

i don't know how much it costs in the US, but here the cost of paperwork is roughly $ 46 for the civil wedding...we didn't spend more than that.

It costs a lot because people want to spend a lot.

And in particular, most women never accept a cheap wedding, they want something with a big cake, flowers, fireworks, a dancing / dj band; and an open buffet food. They want to do it like their female friends' weddings they attended it before , they want it royal.

As my friend who got married few years ago told me this generalization: "Men don't give a s**t about wedding, if given the choice they would sleep single and wake up married with no problem; women on the other hand want to do what their friends did."
I believe him, there's certainly a very and crystal clear gender disparity when it comes to opinions on expensive weddings.

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