Women, what attracts you to a man?

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Your list is useless, Fnord, since it's not based on neurotype.

Your comment is irrelevant, since it's not based on what has been posted in this thread. What I posted was a summary of what the women have posted in response to the OPs question, which had absolutely nothing to do with neuro-types.

... trolls ...

Yeah ... If you're still single, good luck. You'll need it.

Hey, , thanks for the list Fnord . Maybe next time after taking a few tips from your list my relationship might actually work out .

Well, I really don't care what the average woman wants. The physical & appearance sections are just nuts, and I have no interest in women that value fashions, grooming or physical appearance high. Those are just big red NT flags. The rest of it is more ok.

I also don't understand how "independent lifestyle" could relate to status symbols like own house & car. That seems completely counterintuitive. Unless you had the luck of being born as a millionaire, having those attributes as relatively young means you are high on debt, something that doesn't go well with being independent.

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That's nice but were you the one asking the question in the original post?

Believe it or not, not everything in life is all about you.

It's an argument about neurotype, not about me. I'm pretty fed up with people assuming that NTs should be the norm in this area.

You have made that abundantly clear.

You're welcome. I've posted similar lists before, but those were based on gleanings from Teh Interwebz, and may not have reflected the opinions of real-world women.

This time, all I did was repeat what the women had said in the form of a list.

I was going to post a list of male replies to the female responses, but those male replies were both self-centered and depressing.

Don't worry, he'll eventually make it so.

At least some of us men contributed something to this thread, as well as getting something out of it.

This thread had nothing to do with "Neurotypes" until you brought it up. If you can't join a conversation without turning it into a discussion of your obsessions, then maybe you would be better off to start your own threads and leave the rest of us alone.

Appearance:
o Decent Clothing / Well-Dressed ❌
o Good Grooming ❌
o Good Hygiene ❌
o Good Looks (This definition varies) ❓

Physical:
o Fit & Trim (Not too skinny) ❌
o Healthy (Neither a smoker nor obese) ❌
o Hair (Not bald; no beard or mustache) ✔️❌
o Taller then she ❓

Mental:
o College Education ❌
o Common Interests ❓
o Intellectual / Intelligent ❌✔️
o Knowledgeable ✔️
o Logical ✔️

Emotional:
o Caring / Compassionate ✔️
o Cheerful (Not a whiner or complainer) ✔️
o Funny / Good sense of humor ✔️
o Level-headed / Rational ✔️
o Passionate about something (i.e., cause, hobby, et cetera) ✔️
o Sentimental / Sweet ✔️
o Warm / Empathetic ✔️

Behavioral:
o Accountable / Responsible ✔️
o Civil / Well-mannered ✔️
o Employed (gainfully) ❌
o Honest ✔️
o Interested (In her as a person) ✔️
o Independent lifestyle (Owns a home, car, et cetera) ❌✔️
o Kindness / Mercy ✔️
o Respectful / Tolerant ✔️
o Understanding ✔️
o Unique (Not ordinary) ✔️❌

It is actually rather rare to see women taller than their boyfriends.

Of course, Cher was taller than Sonny....

I’m taller than my husband. Even after losing over an inch in height because of osteoporosis.

Are you marking off items off as a checklist or are you indicating your disagreement/indecision/agreement?

Authenticity

I know women want a man that is honest, not a liar or cheat, womanizer, someone that won't hurt them physically, mentally or emotionally. Having a sense of humour is optional because , what one person may find funny, another wouldn't. It's really about mutual attraction and connection, especially long term but people difer for when it comes to attraction, what one person may find attractive , another wouldn't.