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RetroGamer87
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08 Oct 2018, 5:30 pm

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I'm not special enough for that lol.

Even regular guys with fewer options dont think I'm good enough.


You could always try dating Sly or Marknis. They have fewer options and probably think you're good enough.


I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


If you keep saying that it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy!


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08 Oct 2018, 5:38 pm

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I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


I'm going through similar stuff as you, but I know and other people are also saying that you should at least try not to focus on or say those kind of things and shift more to what you think you can do to improve little-by-little everyday, just anything even if it's small. You should at least continue trying at that.

And I don't always have moral issues with just having sex with somebody, unless you have that view yourself. At least you'll still get a taste of the whole thing if you are very concerned.



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08 Oct 2018, 6:38 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not special enough for that lol.

Even regular guys with fewer options dont think I'm good enough.


You could always try dating Sly or Marknis. They have fewer options and probably think you're good enough.


I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


If you keep saying that it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy!


Or I end up jumping off a cliff cause I think I can fly despite clearly humans can’t fly.
Believing something doesn’t make it so
Something is what it is whether you believe in it or not.
I’m disabled, can’t work a decent job, can’t own a car can’t rent a home alone, and I’m ugly and shy.
What woman would go with me over any other man. It’s been said here it’s better for women to remain alone rather then be with a man who doesn’t meet all their wants.



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08 Oct 2018, 6:43 pm

Hollywood_Guy wrote:
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I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


I'm going through similar stuff as you, but I know and other people are also saying that you should at least try not to focus on or say those kind of things and shift more to what you think you can do to improve little-by-little everyday, just anything even if it's small. You should at least continue trying at that.

And I don't always have moral issues with just having sex with somebody, unless you have that view yourself. At least you'll still get a taste of the whole thing if you are very concerned.


I have improved as much as I can
I didn’t use to have any job. I actually had to get a formal government request to have my hours reduced, so I’ve found the max improvement I can handle sadly. How can I improve to overcome lacking the things most women require?

Imainge jts a ride and the sign says you must be 6’ tall to ride but your only 5’.
You can’t get taller you’ll never ride the ride.

I do keep trying not that it’s doing any good.

Sex is very emotional for me as it is for women.



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08 Oct 2018, 11:18 pm

sly279 wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not special enough for that lol.

Even regular guys with fewer options dont think I'm good enough.


You could always try dating Sly or Marknis. They have fewer options and probably think you're good enough.


I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


If you keep saying that it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy!


Or I end up jumping off a cliff cause I think I can fly despite clearly humans can’t fly.
Believing something doesn’t make it so
Something is what it is whether you believe in it or not.
I’m disabled, can’t work a decent job, can’t own a car can’t rent a home alone, and I’m ugly and shy.
What woman would go with me over any other man. It’s been said here it’s better for women to remain alone rather then be with a man who doesn’t meet all their wants.

Believing you can do something doesn't mean you can but believing you can't do something often means you can't.


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09 Oct 2018, 12:17 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not special enough for that lol.

Even regular guys with fewer options dont think I'm good enough.


You could always try dating Sly or Marknis. They have fewer options and probably think you're good enough.


I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


If you keep saying that it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy!


Or I end up jumping off a cliff cause I think I can fly despite clearly humans can’t fly.
Believing something doesn’t make it so
Something is what it is whether you believe in it or not.
I’m disabled, can’t work a decent job, can’t own a car can’t rent a home alone, and I’m ugly and shy.
What woman would go with me over any other man. It’s been said here it’s better for women to remain alone rather then be with a man who doesn’t meet all their wants.

Believing you can do something doesn't mean you can but believing you can't do something often means you can't.


Not really.



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09 Oct 2018, 2:11 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not special enough for that lol.

Even regular guys with fewer options dont think I'm good enough.


You could always try dating Sly or Marknis. They have fewer options and probably think you're good enough.


I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


If you keep saying that it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy!


Or I end up jumping off a cliff cause I think I can fly despite clearly humans can’t fly.
Believing something doesn’t make it so
Something is what it is whether you believe in it or not.
I’m disabled, can’t work a decent job, can’t own a car can’t rent a home alone, and I’m ugly and shy.
What woman would go with me over any other man. It’s been said here it’s better for women to remain alone rather then be with a man who doesn’t meet all their wants.

Believing you can do something doesn't mean you can but believing you can't do something often means you can't.


Believing women like me isn't going to make them stop thinking I'm ugly.



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09 Oct 2018, 6:50 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not special enough for that lol.

Even regular guys with fewer options dont think I'm good enough.
You could always try dating Sly or Marknis. They have fewer options and probably think you're good enough.
I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.
If you keep saying that it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy!
Or I end up jumping off a cliff cause I think I can fly despite clearly humans can’t fly.
Believing something doesn’t make it so
Something is what it is whether you believe in it or not.
I’m disabled, can’t work a decent job, can’t own a car can’t rent a home alone, and I’m ugly and shy.
What woman would go with me over any other man. It’s been said here it’s better for women to remain alone rather then be with a man who doesn’t meet all their wants.
Believing you can do something doesn't mean you can but believing you can't do something often means you can't.
Believing women like me isn't going to make them stop thinking I'm ugly.
True but I said believing you can do something doesn't mean you can.


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09 Oct 2018, 8:03 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not special enough for that lol.

Even regular guys with fewer options dont think I'm good enough.


You could always try dating Sly or Marknis. They have fewer options and probably think you're good enough.


I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


If you keep saying that it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy!


Or I end up jumping off a cliff cause I think I can fly despite clearly humans can’t fly.
Believing something doesn’t make it so
Something is what it is whether you believe in it or not.
I’m disabled, can’t work a decent job, can’t own a car can’t rent a home alone, and I’m ugly and shy.
What woman would go with me over any other man. It’s been said here it’s better for women to remain alone rather then be with a man who doesn’t meet all their wants.

Believing you can do something doesn't mean you can but believing you can't do something often means you can't.


Believing women like me isn't going to make them stop thinking I'm ugly.


I am good looking and it does not help beyond initially catching their interest. I always flop and drive them away. There is nothing in me worthwhile for women to experience.



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09 Oct 2018, 1:51 pm

Citymale wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not special enough for that lol.

Even regular guys with fewer options dont think I'm good enough.


You could always try dating Sly or Marknis. They have fewer options and probably think you're good enough.


I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


If you keep saying that it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy!


Or I end up jumping off a cliff cause I think I can fly despite clearly humans can’t fly.
Believing something doesn’t make it so
Something is what it is whether you believe in it or not.
I’m disabled, can’t work a decent job, can’t own a car can’t rent a home alone, and I’m ugly and shy.
What woman would go with me over any other man. It’s been said here it’s better for women to remain alone rather then be with a man who doesn’t meet all their wants.

Believing you can do something doesn't mean you can but believing you can't do something often means you can't.


Believing women like me isn't going to make them stop thinking I'm ugly.


I am good looking and it does not help beyond initially catching their interest. I always flop and drive them away. There is nothing in me worthwhile for women to experience.


Do you have a good job? Own a car, and rent your own place?
Though atleast if I looked good I would get interests and that’d be a chance to find someone who enjoys my company.
Looking ugly means even women who’d enjoy my company won’t give me 1 second of their time.



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09 Oct 2018, 3:27 pm

Owning a car isn't a requirement. I don't own one.


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09 Oct 2018, 4:49 pm

sly279 wrote:
Citymale wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not special enough for that lol.

Even regular guys with fewer options dont think I'm good enough.


You could always try dating Sly or Marknis. They have fewer options and probably think you're good enough.


I’m not good enough though. Not for any woman. Women would rather be single then be with a man like me execpt to sext. I feel used.


If you keep saying that it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy!


Or I end up jumping off a cliff cause I think I can fly despite clearly humans can’t fly.
Believing something doesn’t make it so
Something is what it is whether you believe in it or not.
I’m disabled, can’t work a decent job, can’t own a car can’t rent a home alone, and I’m ugly and shy.
What woman would go with me over any other man. It’s been said here it’s better for women to remain alone rather then be with a man who doesn’t meet all their wants.

Believing you can do something doesn't mean you can but believing you can't do something often means you can't.


Believing women like me isn't going to make them stop thinking I'm ugly.


I am good looking and it does not help beyond initially catching their interest. I always flop and drive them away. There is nothing in me worthwhile for women to experience.


Do you have a good job? Own a car, and rent your own place?
Though atleast if I looked good I would get interests and that’d be a chance to find someone who enjoys my company.
Looking ugly means even women who’d enjoy my company won’t give me 1 second of their time.


I have a normal paying job but not a career. I don’t belong and am not competent in my field and am amplitude by combination of luck/circusmstance/scam. I live in community housing for free. With elderly people as my neighbors and I have a dingy room in the center of the city. I have a car that is old dirty and looks like s**t.



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10 Oct 2018, 12:01 am

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Owning a car isn't a requirement. I don't own one.

Maybe not for where you live but in American everyone’s expected to own 1-2 cars unless they live in nyc.
It’s more a sign of status then for practical reasons I think. If a guy owns a car it shows it’s able to afford one(they’re expensive) so it shows he’s well off



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10 Oct 2018, 6:51 pm

sly279 wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Owning a car isn't a requirement. I don't own one.

Maybe not for where you live but in American everyone’s expected to own 1-2 cars unless they live in nyc.
It’s more a sign of status then for practical reasons I think. If a guy owns a car it shows it’s able to afford one(they’re expensive) so it shows he’s well off


You watch any movie, and the sexy male character always has a sexy at even if it’s not expensive



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13 Oct 2018, 10:37 pm

You're the type of man that I'm attracted to. I'd rather have a guy like you than the traditional type of guy.


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14 Oct 2018, 3:46 am

If you live in a city a car is not necessary. Public transport is usually good enough to get around. I'm an odd one living in a city with a car. Most of my friends don't have one and get the bus everywhere. I wouldn't bat an eyelid at a city guy who didn't have a car.

Living further out it becomes more inconvenient not to have a car. It's a hassle to meet up because buses are not so regular. In all my adult life I've always had a car. Not always good cars, but they got me from A-B. I do admit that a guy in a small town without a car may make me wonder, if I can manage to maintain a car, why can't he?