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16 Jun 2019, 9:59 am

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It is not weird at all if he’s one of the “popular guys” like you mentioned and has a lot of dating options.



He's not popular though. He's quiet and shy and geeky.

I thought he was a safe option.


Do you know why he was still single?

How old is he?


Late 20s. He hates dating. Hates trying to work out the social rules. He's waiting for that magic "one". Not found her yet.


He’ll probably discover in his late 30’s that magic doesn’t exist.


Yup, he gave up a good thing for a dream that doesn't exist.



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16 Jun 2019, 10:06 am

But you mentioned popular guys in the other post and justified by “this what I am meeting”, .... you confuse me.

And how did he know about him wanting “magic” one, did he tell you that?



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16 Jun 2019, 10:09 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
But you mentioned popular guys in the other post and justified by “this what I am meeting”, .... you confuse me.

And how did he know about him wanting “magic” one, did he tell you that?


Sorry. I was pre-empting an argument about popular people and trying stop it before it began... that didn't work lol

He did tell me that. Before he ever asked me in a date.



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16 Jun 2019, 10:43 am

hurtloam wrote:
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But you mentioned popular guys in the other post and justified by “this what I am meeting”, .... you confuse me.

And how did he know about him wanting “magic” one, did he tell you that?


Sorry. I was pre-empting an argument about popular people and trying stop it before it began... that didn't work lol

He did tell me that. Before he ever asked me in a date.


If he is a waiting for "the magic one" this is probably why he bailed after one date. He was expecting immediate magical connection, instead of getting to know a real woman.

I tend to agree that magic doesn't exist.... He is being too picky. It had nothing to do with you


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16 Jun 2019, 12:08 pm

Many times, the “magic” is created through getting to know your partner more.

Sometimes, say, after a year, things just “click.”



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16 Jun 2019, 12:16 pm

Most women do that all the time too, especially those who are using online dating, they leave the guy after the first date because they didn't feel any "chemistry". "Magic" is just a made up synonym for it.



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16 Jun 2019, 12:22 pm

Many women had “no chemistry” with me.

It got better once I stopped actively seeking dates.

My hand was my best friend then :P



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16 Jun 2019, 12:24 pm

Sometimes chemistry doesn’t come right away, but it develops after people get to know each other better. I think this is especially true of introverts.



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16 Jun 2019, 12:58 pm

Oh. But I took physics.... so I would be working with magnetism.


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16 Jun 2019, 1:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Most women do that all the time too, especially those who are using online dating, they leave the guy after the first date because they didn't feel any "chemistry". "Magic" is just a made up synonym for it.


f*****g weird to expect magic on one date after knowing someone and getting to know them previously for a whole year though.



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16 Jun 2019, 1:52 pm

hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Most women do that all the time too, especially those who are using online dating, they leave the guy after the first date because they didn't feel any "chemistry". "Magic" is just a made up synonym for it.


f*****g weird to expect magic on one date after knowing someone and getting to know them previously for a whole year though.


I don’t think you should read too much into this one experience. It’s probable that the problem is more on his end than yours.



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16 Jun 2019, 1:53 pm

No, she is right, it is f*****g weird.

Ask him why, or ask a common friend to ask him (make him your spy).



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16 Jun 2019, 2:31 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
No, she is right, it is f*****g weird.

Ask him why, or ask a common friend to ask him (make him your spy).


I've asked him a couple of times. He won't give me more of an explanation than "I made a mistake." I'll never know what happened. I just have to accept it and move on.

Twillight is right, he's just not right for me. I can't have a relationship with someone who won't communicate or trust me enough to tell me the real reason. I'm not taking it personally. It's just bizzare.

But these guys I meet. 8O

I can't say if this is better or worse than the one who posted red pill stuff on facebook. He seemed sweet and geeky too. I'd almost forgotten about him, it was so short lived. I simply unfriended him and didn't tell him why. We've managed not to run into each other since.



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17 Jun 2019, 1:07 pm

Women in my area generally hate men who don't have tattoos, drink beer, smoke cigarettes, call women "Sluts", "whores", or "b*****s", and punch them in the face. The ones who don't still get upset if you don't call yourself a Christian.



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17 Jun 2019, 1:20 pm

Marknis wrote:
Women in my area generally hate men who don't have tattoos, drink beer, smoke cigarettes, call women "Sluts", "whores", or "b*****s", and punch them in the face. The ones who don't still get upset if you don't call yourself a Christian.


:roll:

There’s nothing women love more than being sworn at, physically abused, and the smell of beer and cigarettes on a lover’s breath. What a turn on!

Oddly enough, I’ve never observed this behavior when I visited family down South.



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17 Jun 2019, 1:33 pm

Dont de-rail the thread markins.