Describe Your Ideal Partner

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^^ This is just a question, not a critique. What’s unwholesome about the guitar?

I suppose principally the types of music and subcultures it's associated with. There is a deeper musicological reason for its unwholesome associations that a teacher explained to me a while ago, but I forget.

I realise the above is such a caricature of the "traditional" woman that it almost seems rather ironic, but these are my sincere convictions and I hope people will be nice to me about them. I thank you for being so.

I have to agree with Mona on this one. An ideal partner is somebody who compliments you rather than meets some "airy fairy" criteria. People forget there needs to be mutual love/needs, it ain't one way.

I notice some posters who have physical characteristics as a requirement or that the girl's personality is "shy and nerdy"...this is really not a great plan. People's physical nature changes and that's not what keeps a relationship going. If you restrict yourself too much you will be waiting a long long time.

The person you connect with may not necessarily have to meet some ideal checklist and indeed if this checklist is only because you want somebody like yourself then you may be surprised how much you may find it irritating. In any case your prospective partner also has a list of criteria. So "the Twain" has to meet halfway.

Wize words.

I meant for this thread to be an “ideal” - and not standards people should restrict themselves to. There’s a country song with the refrain: “Some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.”

While I don’t believe in God, I think that sometimes what we think we want or need doesn’t really matter once we meet someone we love who doesn’t match up to the ideal in every particular. Maybe the reality is even better. Who knows?

My parents were very different (Dad died) but they worked so well together!

Let me put it another way, you may be really surprised whom you end up feeling most connected to. Just let it happen, it shouldn't be contrived or socially engineered.

I’m not really looking for anyone. I just thought this would be a fun topic although I do believe:

“There can be no disparity in marriage like unsuitability of mind and purpose.” (David Copperfield)

Specific character traits, life goals (especially of a moral and ethical nature), and having some similar intellectual interests and pursuits are important to me, but beyond that, I’m open. It’s really nice to have a deep friendship and connection with the person you’re in love with.

Sorry I was speaking "in general" not aimed anyone

Yeah I get what you mean about being a nice bonus to have a deep connection/friendship with your life-partner.

I like different & even sometimes seemingly opposite things in different people. When I'm in a relationship like I am now I believe my current partner is my ideal although they all had things that I wished they'd change of corse like I know they wished I'd change some things. There is NO such thing as a perfect person, everyone has faults except maybe for the iCarly star Miranda Cosgrove who I had a mega huge crush obsession with

Kind,
Compassionate,
Listener,
Good boundaries,
Willing to look silly when doing something serious,
Willing to try new things

I'm done.

I'm not really sure if this sort of thing helps in getting a partner.

of course iCarly is a cute babe designed to capture the teen male viewing market so she's manufactured

Someone who can have a good conversation, occasionally take me out of my comfort zone but not overwhelm me, has something he is very passionate about, preferably art of some kind (Not music) or in physical or mental health, maybe theology. Who is a strong christian, okay with no sex, and wants to adopt children. Who can get into an argument and not hold a grudge.

Good luck sister

with all due respect, i have to ask, would you be ok if the fellow "took care of his own needs" so to speak?

She'll need it!