Complimenting a lady, where do I go from there?

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Outsider85
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06 Sep 2019, 6:09 am

Thanks. I never was the one to make the moves all that much. I tried when I was a teenager in high school. I had a lot of demons, I still do. I’m trying to over come it and also not let my Aspergers get in the way. I wish I had an instructor to help me be more.....what’s the word I’m looking for?

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06 Sep 2019, 6:20 am

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Aware? That seems to be the main difference between aspies and NTs regarding social skills.

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06 Sep 2019, 6:41 am

I was once in a running club and there was a very nice woman I tended to run with. Even I wasn't really interested in her as I had a girlfriend at the time she made sure to slip in mentioning about her husband. I thought it was weirdly random at the time but I now realize she was just politely reminding me she wasn't available. She didn't have a ring on either.

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06 Sep 2019, 6:49 am

Aware is not exactly the word. Confidence maybe. Also I want to give a real woman a try. I dated girls, hippie child and gold diggers and baby’s daddy seeker. Now I wanna date or try a real woman. Do you follow?

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06 Sep 2019, 7:06 am

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Are you sure? You require awareness to be able to tell what the other person is thinking, and whether or not they're available romantically to other people, and yourself.

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06 Sep 2019, 7:08 pm

Didn’t see her tonight. I will try next week.

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06 Sep 2019, 7:52 pm

Outsider85 wrote:

Didn’t see her tonight. I will try next week.

Sorry man. Although I do think you should try more than just once a week. There's only so many days in a week that she works, y'know.

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06 Sep 2019, 8:14 pm

I only hang out there when I have Taekwondo.

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06 Sep 2019, 10:55 pm

Doesn't mean you can't go there at other times. It's a public library, right?

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07 Sep 2019, 5:19 am

Yes, but I go there to study before class like I said.

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12 Sep 2019, 5:27 pm

I actually introduced myself to her. She told me her name, we shook hands and she said nice to meet me. I said likewise and she walked away.

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12 Sep 2019, 5:43 pm

Outsider85 wrote:

I actually introduced myself to her. She told me her name, we shook hands and she said nice to meet me. I said likewise and she walked away.

A step in the right direction(for now)!

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12 Sep 2019, 8:25 pm

Some women don't like compliments

Some women don't like some men

She could claim sexual harassment and ban you from the library

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12 Sep 2019, 8:44 pm

What is the next step? Do I wait until she approaches me again?

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12 Sep 2019, 8:58 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:

Some women don't like compliments

Some women don't like some men

She could claim sexual harassment and ban you from the library

If she was uncomfortable with me, she would have said something by now. I only complement d her twice. That’s it.

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13 Sep 2019, 4:11 pm

Anybody want to tell me if I’m wrong?

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