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04 Dec 2019, 4:44 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ They're both your bosses.
Then you understand why I choose to let their thoughts/opinions matter to me.



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04 Dec 2019, 4:49 pm

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magz wrote:
But really, the older I get, the less I care for what other people think and this feeling is GREAT!
You're less weird than you think - I'm roughly twice your age and feel the same. And we're not the only ones, it's something I've seen with a surprising amount of people over the years: it's incredibly liberating for those who can let go and start living out of the terror of "what would people think?" Some of them even changed their lives in rather... spectacular ways in their '40s or '50s and achieved a kind of freedom and happiness they never dreamed possible.
I care about what my wife and my boss think, and that's about it. Not everybody. Not nobody. Just those two important people, and only because I choose to care. The rest are unimportant.

Yeah, I care what people I love think, but that's not really a burden and doesn't significantly hinders my choices. It's (reciprocally) earned trust and respect.

I make sure my boss appreciates my abilities and trusts I'm the guy to go to when the s**t hits the fan and in return I trust him to bend the rules a little for me to get results - we both get what we want :lol: Outside of that, he doesn't know that much about me as a person and I wouldn't necessarily care what he would think about me and my ways.


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04 Dec 2019, 4:52 pm

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I wish I had been aborted if I knew my life was going to be a spiral of failure.


I think we all know which character from Winnie the Pooh that you’d be. :wink:

Life could be worse. You could’ve been born a dung beetle. I think that would be much more unpleasant.


That isn’t helping me.

I hate that I am considered “messed up” and that I am forever unworthy of having a girlfriend because of my shyness and bullied history.



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04 Dec 2019, 11:20 pm

Who considers that? And they won't be aware of your bullied history. Let the past be the past. Make a choice to start change today and start focusing on a happier future. You're allowing the past to define who you are, and it's reflecting in every area of your life.

Start seeing yourself as unique and as your own man who doesn't give a sh*t about the opinions of strangers in the street.


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05 Dec 2019, 12:28 am

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I wanted to be with someone like these two women but I can’t even get a coffee date and I am aging due to constant stress as well as depression.





So you have a thing for women who hold their thumbs up? :D



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05 Dec 2019, 12:35 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Think of it this way, Marknis:

When I was 31, I didn't have my driver's license yet.


That's amazing, considering that you seem like a very brilliant, sophisticated man.

I'm sure there had to have been important reasons why you waited a while to get a license.



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05 Dec 2019, 2:02 am

envirozentinel wrote:
Who considers that?


People who either tell me I can’t have a girlfriend unless I become “normal” or they don’t want me to have one because I am a “creep” for having poor social skills at my age.



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05 Dec 2019, 2:31 am

Marknis wrote:
envirozentinel wrote:
Who considers that?

People who either tell me I can’t have a girlfriend unless I become “normal” or they don’t want me to have one because I am a “creep” for having poor social skills at my age.

You choose yourself which people you listen to.

There are plenty of people with poor social skills out there. Just as there are plenty of dyslexic people, people poor at Math, poor at drawing or lacking any other possible talent. Most of them struggle every now and then but generally somehow manage to have a livable life.


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05 Dec 2019, 6:23 am

And they usually get into relationships, too.



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05 Dec 2019, 6:43 am

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And they usually get into relationships, too.

Poor social skills make it harder but not impossible - otherwise I wouldn't be married today.


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05 Dec 2019, 7:22 am

Me neither....



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05 Dec 2019, 7:25 am

When I was 31, I was extremely naive in many ways.

What got me through when I was young....was my basic belief that the bullies really didn’t KNOW me.

And the bullies, metaphorically, advised me to jump off the Brooklyn Bridge because I sucked that much...



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05 Dec 2019, 7:32 am

I didn’t have the maturity, nor the perceptual ability, to drive when I was 31.

Perhaps, I also lacked the motivation.



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05 Dec 2019, 8:18 am

If I were a man, I would scream and run from those two types - running the road screaming, "Noooooo!! !!"
EWW!! ! Sorry that's just my opinion. They look masculine.



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05 Dec 2019, 8:25 am

*Checking the two women in video*

*Running the road screaming: "NOOOOOOOOOOOO!! Fcku NOOOOOOO!"

ps. they look like radical feminists.



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05 Dec 2019, 10:32 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
So basically women with coloured hair and glasses?


I generally find women with those traits attractive, yes, but I have admittedly encountered ones who didn’t have good personalities.