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08 Dec 2019, 12:41 pm

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You live in a country that has a culture where men pursue women, unless you are outgoing extroverted male aggressively, relentlessly chase women and act macho you will remain alone and be ignored.
Europe and Asian countries offer more relaxed lifestyles and are better for introverted males. America puts all the risk on the males pursuing women and Feminist laws have become stricter since the #MeToo era.


Some guys I know actually told me to ask out the women who work at a Mexican restaurant I go to regularly but I am too anxious to do that. They most likely have boyfriends or husbands since it’s very common for Hispanic women in my area to marry early.



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08 Dec 2019, 2:30 pm

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Some guys I know actually told me to ask out the women who work at a Mexican restaurant I go to regularly but I am too anxious to do that. They most likely have boyfriends or husbands since it’s very common for Hispanic women in my area to marry early.

That's what I did: married outside my (sub)culture. (Although it was my sister who played matchmaker.) Since my BFF and sister-in-law are single (40s, 50s), I read studies about the subject. It is indeed more a rarity for my sister-in-law (Latina).



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08 Dec 2019, 2:36 pm

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Some guys I know actually told me to ask out the women who work at a Mexican restaurant I go to regularly but I am too anxious to do that. They most likely have boyfriends or husbands since it’s very common for Hispanic women in my area to marry early.

That's what I did: married outside my (sub)culture. (Although it was my sister who played matchmaker.) Since my BFF and sister-in-law are single (40s, 50s), I read studies about the subject. It is indeed more a rarity for my sister-in-law (Latina).


I fear it’s too late for me to do that. Things may have been different if I went to a city school but I didn’t.



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08 Dec 2019, 5:10 pm

I know this is not useful at this time b/c you are very much in pain in the moment, but it so... it's not too late. Granted the mindset would need to be not "I need a partner to live" (now!) but rather "I want to live to have a partner" (in time). Funny that those two were interchangeable for me during my hardships. We are subject to circumstances (e.g. significant lack of support or opportunities), but we can chose our best for ourselves within those constraints ---- and hopefully inch our way to safety.



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08 Dec 2019, 8:16 pm

that sounds like cope


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09 Dec 2019, 4:20 am

SharonB wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Some guys I know actually told me to ask out the women who work at a Mexican restaurant I go to regularly but I am too anxious to do that. They most likely have boyfriends or husbands since it’s very common for Hispanic women in my area to marry early.

That's what I did: married outside my (sub)culture. (Although it was my sister who played matchmaker.) Since my BFF and sister-in-law are single (40s, 50s), I read studies about the subject. It is indeed more a rarity for my sister-in-law (Latina).


Read his other thread...he wants a cosplay, emo or goth girl....not choosy at all :roll:



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09 Dec 2019, 5:10 am

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Read his other thread...he wants a cosplay, emo or goth girl....not choosy at all :roll:

By this logic, I should be completely devastated because my husband thinks Natalie Portman is pretty... I'm not. (I also think she's pretty, btw)


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09 Dec 2019, 8:01 am

^ She is very pretty and feminine.



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09 Dec 2019, 8:48 am

cyberdad wrote:
SharonB wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Some guys I know actually told me to ask out the women who work at a Mexican restaurant I go to regularly but I am too anxious to do that. They most likely have boyfriends or husbands since it’s very common for Hispanic women in my area to marry early.

That's what I did: married outside my (sub)culture. (Although it was my sister who played matchmaker.) Since my BFF and sister-in-law are single (40s, 50s), I read studies about the subject. It is indeed more a rarity for my sister-in-law (Latina).


Read his other thread...he wants a cosplay, emo or goth girl....not choosy at all :roll:


Reported (only you, no one else) again. I never once said I wouldn’t date anyone who wasn’t part of those three cultures. I meant just to say the two women in the videos were two kinds of women I wish I could be with and the title was typed in haste.



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09 Dec 2019, 8:51 am

Random question:

Have videos of these two women been posted on WP before?

They look SO familiar to me.


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09 Dec 2019, 9:08 am

In what way would your daily life be materially different if you "gave up"? Would you stop swiping on dating sites? I don't get the impression that you expend any amount of time or personal action on activities meant to procure a girlfriend. It seems like life would be exactly the same.



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09 Dec 2019, 9:21 am

arielhawksquill wrote:
In what way would your daily life be materially different if you "gave up"? Would you stop swiping on dating sites? I don't get the impression that you expend any amount of time or personal action on activities meant to procure a girlfriend. It seems like life would be exactly the same.


I did try a dating site a few months ago but it was an unproductive endeavor. The last time I used a “swiping” app was early in this year and that went nowhere. I used to go to a Meet Up group until April of this year.



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10 Dec 2019, 12:53 am

magz wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Read his other thread...he wants a cosplay, emo or goth girl....not choosy at all :roll:

By this logic, I should be completely devastated because my husband thinks Natalie Portman is pretty... I'm not. (I also think she's pretty, btw)


Not quite the same...your husband admires Natalie Portman....he doesn't want to be with her...



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10 Dec 2019, 12:58 am

Marknis wrote:
Reported (only you, no one else) again. I never once said I wouldn’t date anyone who wasn’t part of those three cultures. I meant just to say the two women in the videos were two kinds of women I wish I could be with and the title was typed in haste.


Haven't heard from the mods so I assume they grow tired of your constant complaining

This is what you typed in the other threadI **I wanted to be with someone like these two women**



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10 Dec 2019, 1:38 am

cyberdad wrote:
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Reported (only you, no one else) again. I never once said I wouldn’t date anyone who wasn’t part of those three cultures. I meant just to say the two women in the videos were two kinds of women I wish I could be with and the title was typed in haste.


Haven't heard from the mods so I assume they grow tired of your constant complaining

This is what you typed in the other threadI **I wanted to be with someone like these two women**


I just talked with one of the mods so no, you are wrong as usual. It’s also ridiculous how you say I am complaining when you are following my posts and getting upset about them. :roll:

That doesn’t mean they are the only types of women I want to be with. I just had them in mind at the time. Again, more assumptions and jumping to false conclusions.



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10 Dec 2019, 8:49 am

Natalie Portman is quite beautiful and gifted as an actress. She is also extremely smart. But overall personality and personal views? I wouldn’t date her.