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15 Jun 2020, 6:37 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That’s actually all due to homophobia, think about it.


Absolutely. Homophobia coarsed through my Secondary School when I was there.

Even before exposure to such prejudice, I wasn't ever really attracted to the same sex.

The outed were ostracised, and at the time, there was seldom support offered. I only presume this, as I didn't receive much support from the school when I was bullied.


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15 Jun 2020, 8:47 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That’s actually all due to homophobia, think about it.


More specifically,
Neurotypical homophobia.



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15 Jun 2020, 8:57 pm

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sly279 wrote:
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I think people just think of me as too young (I’m 27 but look like I’m about 16), or as “mentally handicapped” to the point where I’m off the market (I’m not, but something about me gives people that impression no matter what I do). They probably assume I’ve never had a romantic relationship (which is true) and never will, and that once I’m an adult (which I already am), I’ll spend my life in some sort of care home and essentially be a child for my whole life.


What's wrong with that?
It is called an "Alternative Life Style",
One which I keenly enjoy. 8)


I never said there was anything wrong with it :) It just is a big turn-off for most people.

Thought you didn’t wish to date?
Looking 16 is issue as anyone who dates you will possible seen as a pedophile.
I like small women. They’re super cute. Like they can’t reach a lot of things and how do is cute. There’s one at my work, she’s in relationship with guy twice as tall. My sister knows one who looks same age as her kids.
I don’t think the right guy would care. I wouldn’t mean it sucked having people be mean About it, But small women deserve to love and date too.


I don’t particularly want to date, so I don’t mind the lack of attention so much, just speculating about why I don’t get attention.

Yeah, I think that’s a large part of why men never approach me or anything, is because they assume I’m underage and don’t want to get into any sort of trouble because of that even if they do find me attractive.

I’m not particularly small, actually (well, I am slender, but I’m about average height for a woman), I just have a youthful appearance. And it doesn’t help that I still have skin problems, too :roll:


Isn't 16 the age of consent in many countries?
Is it in the country you live?

BTW,
What is the age of the guys you are talking about, who are fearful of "Jailbait" concerns?
Aren't there any 16 year old blokes in your nation? :scratch: :mrgreen:



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15 Jun 2020, 8:59 pm

And So It Goes wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That’s actually all due to homophobia, think about it.


Absolutely. Homophobia coarsed through my Secondary School when I was there.


How old are you?
I though homophobia isn't a major problem these days.



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15 Jun 2020, 9:17 pm

When I traveled across country with my sister, my mom asked if our hotel rooms had two beds. When I said one, she said she hoped we kept to our own sides. Gross.

I think that means people assume I’m gay, too. I’m actually asexual.



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15 Jun 2020, 10:20 pm

Pepe wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
sly279 wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
Pepe wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
I think people just think of me as too young (I’m 27 but look like I’m about 16), or as “mentally handicapped” to the point where I’m off the market (I’m not, but something about me gives people that impression no matter what I do). They probably assume I’ve never had a romantic relationship (which is true) and never will, and that once I’m an adult (which I already am), I’ll spend my life in some sort of care home and essentially be a child for my whole life.


What's wrong with that?
It is called an "Alternative Life Style",
One which I keenly enjoy. 8)


I never said there was anything wrong with it :) It just is a big turn-off for most people.

Thought you didn’t wish to date?
Looking 16 is issue as anyone who dates you will possible seen as a pedophile.
I like small women. They’re super cute. Like they can’t reach a lot of things and how do is cute. There’s one at my work, she’s in relationship with guy twice as tall. My sister knows one who looks same age as her kids.
I don’t think the right guy would care. I wouldn’t mean it sucked having people be mean About it, But small women deserve to love and date too.


I don’t particularly want to date, so I don’t mind the lack of attention so much, just speculating about why I don’t get attention.

Yeah, I think that’s a large part of why men never approach me or anything, is because they assume I’m underage and don’t want to get into any sort of trouble because of that even if they do find me attractive.

I’m not particularly small, actually (well, I am slender, but I’m about average height for a woman), I just have a youthful appearance. And it doesn’t help that I still have skin problems, too :roll:


Isn't 16 the age of consent in many countries?
Is it in the country you live?

BTW,
What is the age of the guys you are talking about, who are fearful of "Jailbait" concerns?
Aren't there any 16 year old blokes in your nation? :scratch: :mrgreen:


In the US, in Kansas at least (other states may be different, I don’t know), I believe it’s 18. I was referring mostly to the sort of people one would be likely to meet at a bar or a coffee shop or something, maybe close to my actual age, or probably at least in their twenties. Not that I frequent bars or anything (my meds mean I can’t drink alcohol without a trip to the ER), but in college, at least, I spent plenty of time at coffee shops in and around campus, alone and just enjoying my beverage and reading a book.

But you are right, it certainly isn’t the only thing making men not approach me, or I would’ve at least gotten some attention when I actually was 16 and attending high school with a bunch of guys who were also in the 15-18 age group. If we were both underage, it probably wouldn’t have mattered as much.


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15 Jun 2020, 11:23 pm

dragonsanddemons wrote:
Pepe wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
sly279 wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
Pepe wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
I think people just think of me as too young (I’m 27 but look like I’m about 16), or as “mentally handicapped” to the point where I’m off the market (I’m not, but something about me gives people that impression no matter what I do). They probably assume I’ve never had a romantic relationship (which is true) and never will, and that once I’m an adult (which I already am), I’ll spend my life in some sort of care home and essentially be a child for my whole life.


What's wrong with that?
It is called an "Alternative Life Style",
One which I keenly enjoy. 8)


I never said there was anything wrong with it :) It just is a big turn-off for most people.

Thought you didn’t wish to date?
Looking 16 is issue as anyone who dates you will possible seen as a pedophile.
I like small women. They’re super cute. Like they can’t reach a lot of things and how do is cute. There’s one at my work, she’s in relationship with guy twice as tall. My sister knows one who looks same age as her kids.
I don’t think the right guy would care. I wouldn’t mean it sucked having people be mean About it, But small women deserve to love and date too.


I don’t particularly want to date, so I don’t mind the lack of attention so much, just speculating about why I don’t get attention.

Yeah, I think that’s a large part of why men never approach me or anything, is because they assume I’m underage and don’t want to get into any sort of trouble because of that even if they do find me attractive.

I’m not particularly small, actually (well, I am slender, but I’m about average height for a woman), I just have a youthful appearance. And it doesn’t help that I still have skin problems, too :roll:


Isn't 16 the age of consent in many countries?
Is it in the country you live?

BTW,
What is the age of the guys you are talking about, who are fearful of "Jailbait" concerns?
Aren't there any 16 year old blokes in your nation? :scratch: :mrgreen:


In the US, in Kansas at least (other states may be different, I don’t know), I believe it’s 18. I was referring mostly to the sort of people one would be likely to meet at a bar or a coffee shop or something, maybe close to my actual age, or probably at least in their twenties. Not that I frequent bars or anything (my meds mean I can’t drink alcohol without a trip to the ER), but in college, at least, I spent plenty of time at coffee shops in and around campus, alone and just enjoying my beverage and reading a book.

But you are right, it certainly isn’t the only thing making men not approach me, or I would’ve at least gotten some attention when I actually was 16 and attending high school with a bunch of guys who were also in the 15-18 age group. If we were both underage, it probably wouldn’t have mattered as much.


Can you take a politically incorrect joke?



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15 Jun 2020, 11:26 pm

Pepe wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
sly279 wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
Pepe wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
I think people just think of me as too young (I’m 27 but look like I’m about 16), or as “mentally handicapped” to the point where I’m off the market (I’m not, but something about me gives people that impression no matter what I do). They probably assume I’ve never had a romantic relationship (which is true) and never will, and that once I’m an adult (which I already am), I’ll spend my life in some sort of care home and essentially be a child for my whole life.


What's wrong with that?
It is called an "Alternative Life Style",
One which I keenly enjoy. 8)


I never said there was anything wrong with it :) It just is a big turn-off for most people.

Thought you didn’t wish to date?
Looking 16 is issue as anyone who dates you will possible seen as a pedophile.
I like small women. They’re super cute. Like they can’t reach a lot of things and how do is cute. There’s one at my work, she’s in relationship with guy twice as tall. My sister knows one who looks same age as her kids.
I don’t think the right guy would care. I wouldn’t mean it sucked having people be mean About it, But small women deserve to love and date too.


I don’t particularly want to date, so I don’t mind the lack of attention so much, just speculating about why I don’t get attention.

Yeah, I think that’s a large part of why men never approach me or anything, is because they assume I’m underage and don’t want to get into any sort of trouble because of that even if they do find me attractive.

I’m not particularly small, actually (well, I am slender, but I’m about average height for a woman), I just have a youthful appearance. And it doesn’t help that I still have skin problems, too :roll:


Isn't 16 the age of consent in many countries?
Is it in the country you live?

BTW,
What is the age of the guys you are talking about, who are fearful of "Jailbait" concerns?
Aren't there any 16 year old blokes in your nation? :scratch: :mrgreen:

It’s the age at which one under 18 people can consent to other under 18 people. It’s rape for an over 18 old to have sex won’t someone under 18


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15 Jun 2020, 11:53 pm

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Can you take a politically incorrect joke?


Probably, yes :)


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16 Jun 2020, 4:30 am

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How old are you?
I thought homophobia isn't a major problem these days.


I was at Secondary School through the early 2000's, where you'd be ridiculed or beaten up for being remotely different.

I'm unsure how much has changed. Only time will tell when my child is there. I dread it. 8O


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16 Jun 2020, 5:02 am

It’s only automatically statutory rape, in most states, if one person is 21 or over, and the other person is 18 or under.

In New York, an 18 year old can legally have sex with a 15 year old. Not so if the older person is 19, though.



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16 Jun 2020, 4:03 pm

I have an NT girlfriend, but also a few LGBT friends from my school.

My mom (who takes pride in being a raging LGBT-phobe) often accuses me and my NT sister of being gay because I sometimes spend some time at my school's LGBT Resource Center and my NT sister having an openly bisexual friend who she has known since their freshman year of high school.


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17 Jun 2020, 3:55 am

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When I traveled across country with my sister, my mom asked if our hotel rooms had two beds. When I said one, she said she hoped we kept to our own sides. Gross.

I think that means people assume I’m gay, too. I’m actually asexual.


Just a thought - it may say more about your Mom and her imagination and beliefs than about you.


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I have an NT girlfriend, but also a few LGBT friends from my school.

My mom (who takes pride in being a raging LGBT-phobe) often accuses me and my NT sister of being gay because I sometimes spend some time at my school's LGBT Resource Center and my NT sister having an openly bisexual friend who she has known since their freshman year of high school.


I take it, then, that your specified age in the left-hand side profile ("30") may not be 100% accurate. :lol:


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17 Jun 2020, 4:08 am

it used to infuriate me that foolish people would ASS-ume, just because i was not dating, that me or anybody else automatically HAD to be more interested in men, just because folks like me weren't making passes at the self-impressed fools or acting like a downright horndog. now i no longer care what fools think.



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Most people wouldn’t think I have autism. Hasn’t helped me meet anyone :cry:
Life without relationship isn’t life at all.


Come now, don't slight us single folk, there are many of us here, we get on.


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