23 Jun 2020, 5:48 am
23 Jun 2020, 5:52 am
Teach51 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Magna wrote:
I was pointing out that the title of this thread is a question posed to autistics who are in relationships with an autistic person; not who is in a relationship with an autistic person.
But the thread is asking "Who here is married/relationship to another aspie
That assumes both parties are Aspie
Boos' curiousity regarding aspies forming relationships with women of different cultures/ ethnicities kind of brought me into an additional discussion.
Aliens must think its hilarious that we can make grandiose attribution errors based on flimsy things like culture
Actually it makes perfect sense to me that women of one nationality might accept unusual behaviour with less judgement if they assume it's just a different cultural communication norm. Perhaps also these women are just from a more enlightened and tolerant environment, unblemished by "shaming" and bullying, a different value system, kinder and more sensible.
Huh,
Good point.
I see your aspie upgrade is already paying dividends.
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23 Jun 2020, 5:53 am
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that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
My bf did admit he was aspie before I met him in person.
Those twirling Dervish's have done something to my eyes, I kept reading this as "I met him in prison" (even now?)
It's haunting you.
23 Jun 2020, 5:58 am
Teach51 wrote:
Perhaps also these women are just from a more enlightened and tolerant environment, unblemished by "shaming" and bullying, a different value system, kinder and more sensible.
You mean the women who marry us westerners?
23 Jun 2020, 5:59 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
My bf did admit he was aspie before I met him in person.
Those twirling Dervish's have done something to my eyes, I kept reading this as "I met him in prison" (even now?)
It's haunting you.
Ok Boo, that's 10 min of my life I will never get back! what manner of Jedi mind trick is this?
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23 Jun 2020, 6:20 am
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
Perhaps also these women are just from a more enlightened and tolerant environment, unblemished by "shaming" and bullying, a different value system, kinder and more sensible.
You mean the women who marry us westerners?
Yes
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23 Jun 2020, 6:30 am
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cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?
You are are way smarter than you let on!
Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....
I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment
The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.
I do sometimes share how inadequate I feel intellectually here. Pepes' compliment is well received
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23 Jun 2020, 6:36 am
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23 Jun 2020, 6:40 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
My bf did admit he was aspie before I met him in person.
Those twirling Dervish's have done something to my eyes, I kept reading this as "I met him in prison" (even now?)
It's haunting you.
23 Jun 2020, 6:46 am
Teach51 wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?
You are are way smarter than you let on!
Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....
I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment
The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.
I do sometimes share how inadequate I feel intellectually here. Pepes' compliment is well received
I think it pretty obvious that some of your difficulty is due to being an NT in an aspie environment.
You are probably in a good position, now, to understand how difficult it is for those on the spectrum to fit into NT society.
But you already understood this.
23 Jun 2020, 6:52 am
Teach51 wrote:
Pepes' compliment is well received
"You have been weighed,
You have been measured,
And you have been found" to be most "adequate".
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23 Jun 2020, 6:56 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?
You are are way smarter than you let on!
Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....
That one, I have few other hypothesis in mind too:
- The foreigner partners are more likely to associate "weird" quirks to cultural differences.
- The foreigner partners come for cultures which are more introvert-friendly (and most of the mentioned ones here come from far/south Eastern cultures).
- The status and looks, as a foreigner to the partner, may compensate the AS-related "flaws", an add-value that catch their eyes (most aspie men struggle in getting dates, acquiring good first impressions - not the maintaining of relationships).
I totally agree with this. The women (dare I say it
) could be from cultures where the womans' role is more submissive, who perhaps have easier acceptance of the mans' need for alone time and autonomy, boundaries. Just a thought. Don't want any "feminist" retaliation here, some cultures have more defined male and female roles. I find aspies to be particularly masculine in their thinking mode, NT female thinking is much more convoluted somehow. Different. I skip from topic to topic and the aspies I know are left scratching their heads completely losing the thread of thought.
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23 Jun 2020, 7:07 am
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?
You are are way smarter than you let on!
Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....
I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment
The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.
Bender you are a knight in shining armour, galloping forth to rescue the damsels in distress. How sweet you are!
I took Cybers' compliment as humorous not sarcastic, NT humour I suppose. How complex we all are!! I understand the need to be protective of feelings just now. I wouldn't be here had Fnord not defended me when I first joined.
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23 Jun 2020, 7:12 am
Teach51 wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?
You are are way smarter than you let on!
Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....
I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment
The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.
Bender you are a knight in shining armour, galloping forth to rescue the damsels in distress.
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23 Jun 2020, 7:14 am
Pepe wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
Pepes' compliment is well received
"You have been weighed,
You have been measured,
And you have been found" to be most "adequate".
And you Pepe are a delightful cheeky bug.er who elevates my mood instantly.
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23 Jun 2020, 7:18 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?
You are are way smarter than you let on!
Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....
I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment
The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.
Bender you are a knight in shining armour, galloping forth to rescue the damsels in distress.
Boo where do you find these wonderful
Clips?
Your sense of timing and relevence is splendid, a real humorist, I am serious. You have a talent.
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