Folks, don't become like this guy

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03 Nov 2020, 12:12 pm

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But he's harming no one, if left there alone to play until he rots then where's the harm in that? It's not like he's the only street musician in the world.



It's doesn't matter if you are "not harming" anyone. No one likes to be bothered when they do not want you. If someone didn't want to be my friend so I kept on showing up at places they are at or keep trying to be in the same group as them or sit at the same table as them, this would make them uncomfortable. It's the same with romance, buying them gifts, leaving them stuff at their door step, mailing them things just to show them gratitude and how much you care will creep them out and make them uncomfortable.


Well, the original context in this thread was a rejected partner trying to get back together with his ex.
Now you venturing out to new territory.

It seems to me that you are trying to kill off romance.
I hope you aren't suggesting that most single women are against romantic gestures. 8O

Perhaps I should make a poll.
Dare me.
You know I will do it. :mrgreen:

Oh, who do I think I'm kidding? We all know I will be making one after I finish this post. :mrgreen:


You are seriously twisting my comment here. After the break up, it is not okay to keep going after them to try and win them back. Don't call them, don't leave them stuff as a way to get them back. This is not a film, this is real life. NO mean NO. I am taking you don't take no for answer. 8O Please don't tell me you also think no mean Yes when it comes to sex.

When my brother broke up with his ex, he tried to remain friends with her but she continued acting like they were in a relationship so he pulled away from her and she got mad and started to turn into a crazy ex everyone seems to always have after the break up. She even trashed his room as an attempt to win him back so he will call her to ask help him clean it up but it backfired because he called the new girl he liked and she came over.

In school the next day, she was now known as insane and everyone was telling him how happy they were he broke up with her because she is so insane. Rumors were she broke his window, slashed his bed mattress, etc. She was the one to brag and kids repeated it and it turned into the game of telephone, that is how rumors start.


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03 Nov 2020, 12:18 pm

^ Where did he say that No doesn’t mean No?

Jeez.

No = No
Maybe = No
Y...yes = No
Yes = Maybe



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03 Nov 2020, 12:18 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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But he's harming no one, if left there alone to play until he rots then where's the harm in that? It's not like he's the only street musician in the world.



It's doesn't matter if you are "not harming" anyone. No one likes to be bothered when they do not want you. If someone didn't want to be my friend so I kept on showing up at places they are at or keep trying to be in the same group as them or sit at the same table as them, this would make them uncomfortable. It's the same with romance, buying them gifts, leaving them stuff at their door step, mailing them things just to show them gratitude and how much you care will creep them out and make them uncomfortable.



But was he doing any of that? Was he following her around? No he wasn’t according to the story.

He was just playing there, alone, in the park - bothering no one. Unless this park is a place she frequents a lot.

Musicians often need an inspiration, that hope (illusionary) was his inspiration.

Yeah what he did was extremely idiot but come on ladies, stop equating him to a sexual harasser or rapist.


I assume she is a student there or he wouldn't be playing in that spot. He would have picked a random spot to play where there are lot of people. He wouldn't purposely pick a spot where she frequents. This wouldn't even be news if he wasn't doing this. He would have just been a regular guy who plays the piano and not play it at night and he would not be playing on campus where she is. Then again this would not even be news if she was never there.

A crazy conspiracy could be this article purposely got published as veiled misandry so women would get upset and so they would create drama online and they succeeded and there was no ex on campus. Or some news journalist walked by and saw him and he said he was playin for his ex to win her back and this made it news in gossip for the sake of drama and there was no ex on campus. His plan was to make the news in the media so she would come back and it backfired on him.


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03 Nov 2020, 12:20 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ Where did he say that No doesn’t mean No?

Jeez.

No = No
Maybe = No
Y...yes = No
Yes = Maybe



She broke up with him, he isn't accepting it and is trying to get her back, this is stalkish and creepy behavior. He is not taking no for an answer. Defending this dude is coming off that way.


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03 Nov 2020, 12:25 pm

Well this is disgusting, thinking taking no for an answer is okay. This is why so many women hate men folks and why we have women only spaces and why toxic masculinity exists, you are not owed a relationship.


I am done with this thread and not coming back to it and would like it locked because of misogyny in this thread.


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03 Nov 2020, 12:33 pm

^ Funny because I sensed a lot of misandry in this thread instead.
Pepe made it clear that he was against his behavior tho and so we all did.
We’re disagreeing whether the guy is criminal or not, as simple as that; no one here is saying that No doesn’t mean No.

Learn that when a guy doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean it’s misogyny.

Double bad thread!



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03 Nov 2020, 12:45 pm

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