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If I was a 20s man who digs you, I’d be pretty jealous.

The guy likes you.

I’m actually thinking you might be being defensive in the sense where this might be “too good to be true.”

You're a gorgeous woman Whale_Tuune, that can be discouraging, especially if he is shy. I hope it works out how you would like it to, best of luck in this endeavor.

I didn't know his religion would get so much attention on here? Well, I got the sense that he was flirting with me last year, before the pandemic.

Yeah, he's somewhat observant and I know the religious rules in Judaism, I also know that they're shifting now in more progressive circles. It really depends on the person and congregation I think, like in Orthodox Christianity. (My two cents: some Orthodox Churches are okay with interfaith-married parishioners, some aren't, just depends on the congregation.)

When we do talk about religion it's kind of vague. We've shared Old Testament/Tanach jokes. Fun times. I like that he thinks about God a lot, which most guys my age (Christian, Jewish, or Muslim) do not, really.

I don't know what you mean by problematic. Like I said, if he seemed interested in me, I figured he was okay with dating someone who wasn't Jewish. Interfaith dating is fine on my end because I have many non-Christian close friends and family. But only he can know how he feels about interfaith relationships, I'm not gonna make assumptions either way.

My mother is a “non-observant” Jew.

Some very Orthodox-type Jews don’t exactly have progressive views on women.

Ummm I'm pretty sure he's not Orthodox. He said he's like a blend of Reform and Conservative. But... idk. I didn't really want to ask that question when we are not even dating yet.

He's very friendly. I don't think he's misogynistic just because he happens to be religious.

He left me on read when I told him what times I was available. :T wish me luck wrongplanet.

He’s probably okay, then.

Most Jews up to Modern Orthodox don’t have cuckoo views about women. Most Jewish men don’t wear their religion on their sleeves. Especially if they don’t wear a yarmulke. Very few non-Orthodox Jews wear yarmulkes.

Good luck!

Congrats, you will be a couple in the few upcoming days, the deal is sealed.

He has still left me on read... I don't know what his thinking is. He is a difficult man to decipher.

What does "leaving you on read" mean?

I sense this is an "old fart" "OK Boomer" sort of question

Means he read my message of my available times and did not respond.

Generally seen as a sign of disinterest if done too long or at inopportune times.

Ask him why he did that.

This is my advice. If you want a direct answer, then you have to ask a direction question.

If you like someone, don't beat around the bush, just straight up ask them out. "Hey do you want to go do xyz sometime?" If they say yeah, then you know they're interested.

If they're leaving you on read or you get blocked, then you know they're not interested in you.

If they respond with being "too busy", then maybe they really are too busy or some people say they're too busy as a way to write someone off.

I'm going to be perfectly honest with you OP.

You probably hear this a lot but you are definitely attractive (based on your profile picture), plus you're 21 years old. Even if this guy doesn't work out, I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there who are willing to date you, and you could easily find a boyfriend rather quickly, due to your age and attractiveness. That's the advantage of being a young and attractive woman, finding romantic and sexual partners is going to be easier. You've already had several boyfriends; you can EASILY find someone new so don't worry if this guy rejects you or it doesn't work out.