Aspies do not get married or have children.

Post Reply New Topic

Are you the kind of Aspie who prefers to be alone? At least, judging from your photo you're skinny. People associate obesity with mental retardation so it was really first after I started losing weight that people started to think I was gay, wich I'm not.

Really? Lots of women say I'm hot [/quote]

same but they always say
ohh I'd never date you...

No, I just have an unblemished rejection record.

Me too, it seems. The guy who runs my local comic shop has told me on more than one occasion that at least a couple of his female regulars think I'm attractive (Rob being Rob, though, he's neglected to tell me just exactly who they are...), and when I accepted a free sample of pink champagne in the run-up to Valentine's Day, the woman giving out the samples said (when I told her I had nobody with whom to share a bottle of the stuff) "Really? Nice-looking lad like you?"

And apparently this doesn't just extend to girls. Numerous gay men have commented on my appearance favourably, too (apparently I have "lovely eyes").

Which is all well and good, but looks are worth zilch if I can't at least attempt to use them to make that leap into a proper relationship...

This Kathy lady is in the same pool as racists, gay bashers, any sort of bigoted prat who wants to-dare I say it?-Rule the World!
So don't be angry. She'll really get what she's coming to.

http://info.med.yale.edu/chldstdy/autism/index.html

"We wish to clarify to all those who read this article that Drs. Ami Klin and Katherine Tsatsanis were dreadfully misquoted. Individuals with autism spectrum disorders, and particularly those who are not burdened by intellectual disabilities (maybe over 50% of the population with social disabilities of early onset) such as those with Asperger Syndrome, may indeed and often do have very strong desires to establish meaningful relationships, including close, intimate ones. It is an added challenge that such relationships may be difficult to form, often leading to a sense of despondency or even clinical depression. It is our Program's mission to help these individuals realize their full potential in all spheres of life, including independent and dignified living, maximal use of their talents in their vocational careers, and the attainment of meaningful relationships. Our Program has a history of over 50 years working with families, and we have excellent partnerships with parent-support and self-support organizations. They are the ones that we want to make sure are fully aware of this disclaimer. We agreed to be interviewed by this media outlet because we believe in dissemination of information that will benefit the community affected by autism spectrum disorders. However, this was not the case this time. We, therefore, would like to dissociate ourselves entirely from the poor reporting and misleading views included therein, particularly the quotes that were attributed to us."

Here's another thing though, if you do get married you definitely want to be VERY careful about who you get married to. I know so many guys who have wives or even girlfriends who put them through the ringer just because they can. Here's something an aspie female on another site said to me and I've seen it happen time and time again.

Mind you, I am a guy and I won't act like I don't like p---y, but at the same time when it comes to being with someone that doesn't even account for a quarter or even a tenth of it - if they have a foul attitude, ie. the way most people would react to us, trading your self esteem, freedom, and 'sanctuary' in for that isn't even close to worth it. True enough, altruists in the relationship world who would go for a lot of us because they truly are suiting themselves by being with like personalities are almost impossibly rare. Still, you're better off being alone if you can't find that because otherwise what your really dealing with is a lot like a pit bull - if they sense that they have more control than their master that sort of schizophrenic and evil nerve kinda snaps.

I know you guys really want quality companionship more than anything else, as do I, but at the same time I really don't think this world or the mechanics biology forces us to a lot of times is right for anyone. Its just a shame to see perfectly good people ride down the pipe because of the fact that the animal in us overrules the human being and the higher self 10 to 1 on these matters.

Women usually say that based on looks, but there is more to keeping a girl than being a decent looking guy.

That includes women I've known for years. I'd hope they know a bit more about me than just what I look like.

It doesn't really matter. I've given up for the time being.

I don't see myself with a family or wife-I don't know what I would do living with a person forever
I couldn't do it...
the idea scares me-my parents tell me "ohh you'll find someone, etc"
its not like that-I do want someone but the idea scares the living s**t out of me!
From all the stories I have heard about marrage and such-it doesn't sound nice.
And the idea of bringing AS kids in the world hurts-I don't want them to go threw what I had to-even though I wouldn't get mad at who they are and say AS is merely an excuse
They would still be shunned
And the dating game-I can't see signals or anything-I am an odd person not a bad odd but still... And I am a hard person to get along with, I just don't see marrage as a good thing
I don't think I could do it...especially with an NT

Pretty much the same with me.

The thing that this "Kathy" scientist said about Aspies sort of applies to me. I really don't know how to intimately bond w/ anyone (e.g. family cousins and people in society) because I lack many of the social and relationship skills. However, I STILL HAVE the burning desire to build friendships w/ great people and be married to a lovely woman. The bulls**t Kathy gave us all is NOT preventing me from wanting to be married in the next 10-15 years. I just wanna work something out carefully and slowly.

all i know is i wind up upsetting people on a constant basis and im hard to live with... to the point where it's helathier for me to just leave

yet my ex's now say they'd date me again... that it was their fault or something

having found out about AS ect now..... i know it's just me

i give up too..... no more energy

Simplistic nonsense this 'disclaimer'. Kathy clearly hasn't read into the condition well at all.

I don't know about this "by definition" thing, but I don't plan on having children, and I'm going to wait a long time before getting married

maybe that doctor was thinking of the most severe cases of aspergers. im sure aspies marry and have children