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14 Oct 2021, 8:07 am

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Well my church requires me to obey my parents and respect them and i could get kicked out if i seeked counsel for a lawsuit for my advocacy.I dont want to be homeless or live in section 8 or lose my inheritance because if i get written out of the will I am really up a creek for the rest of my life.And another reason why i dont want to live in a autism housing situation is because I may not be able to find a good church community and it could be more unsafe than here because of various reasons.The social workers in the area wont help us.We have been trying for years.


I'm sorry you are going through this. It must be really tough for you. I can't say I agree with your church's rules (which seem to be designed to keep people powerless/trapped), but I do hope you can find happiness despite them. I know this country can suck when it comes to getting resources, but please don't give up! <3


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14 Oct 2021, 8:10 am

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Well my church requires me to obey my parents and respect them and i could get kicked out if i seeked counsel for a lawsuit for my advocacy.I dont want to be homeless or live in section 8 or lose my inheritance because if i get written out of the will I am really up a creek for the rest of my life.And another reason why i dont want to live in a autism housing situation is because I may not be able to find a good church community and it could be more unsafe than here because of various reasons.The social workers in the area wont help us.We have been trying for years.


I'm sorry you are going through this. It must be really tough for you. I can't say I agree with your church's rules (which seem to be designed to keep people powerless/trapped), but I do hope you can find happiness despite them. I know this country can suck when it comes to getting resources, but please don't give up! <3

Thanks very much Flown.I will be able to live a better life after my parents are gone financially.But I really appreciate it.It is really tough.



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14 Oct 2021, 8:12 am

What a terrible situation you are in.

For those of us who were raised in a family where attitudes toward religion was left up to the children to decide for themselves, this sort of draconian imposed belief system seems like utter madness!

I'm not sure I have any constructive advice for you, since I have never been in a situation like yours. Perhaps my only advice would be to consider that if you are imagining finding a partner primarily as an escape from your current situation, then how might that affect your ability to be in a healthy relationship?


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14 Oct 2021, 8:18 am

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What a terrible situation you are in.

For those of us who were raised in a family where attitudes toward religion was left up to the children to decide for themselves, this sort of draconian imposed belief system seems like utter madness!

I'm not sure I have any constructive advice for you, since I have never been in a situation like yours. Perhaps my only advice would be to consider that if you are imagining finding a partner primarily as an escape from your current situation, then how might that affect your ability to be in a healthy relationship?

well finding somebody in my case isnt mainly a way to escape.....i have just always wanted to get married and have a family since i was litle kid but hey thats just me.



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14 Oct 2021, 8:30 am

You should never count on inheritance. People can have hidden debt.

If your parents state it as "their home their rules" AND their rules include them controling your money, then you are in a situation that would be considered criminal here.


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14 Oct 2021, 8:32 am

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well finding somebody in my case is not really a way to escape.....i have just always wanted to get married and have a family but hey thats just me.


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I know that you are very devoted to your religion and your parents, but please know that your happiness and joy are important. We all deserve an opportunity to make connections, to fall in love (if we so please), and to spread that joy to the world. I can't imagine that any god would want to deprive us of such beautiful things. Living our lives and setting boundaries with others is not disrespectful in my eyes. We rob ourselves and others of an opportunity to grow and learn when we cow to unreasonable demands.

I'm probably overstepping here, and I'm sorry if I'm being too pushy. I'm just really concerned about your situation. I'm seeing a lot of red flags with your parents that make me uncomfortable. :(


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14 Oct 2021, 8:33 am

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Well my church requires me to obey my parents and respect them and I could get kicked out if I seeked counsel for a lawsuit for my advocacy.  I don't want to be homeless or live in section 8 or lose my inheritance because if I get written out of the will I am really up a creek for the rest of my life.  And another reason why I don't want to live in a autism housing situation is because I may not be able to find a good church community and it could be more unsafe than here because of various reasons.  The social workers in the area wont help us.  We have been trying for years.
This is how to keep people indoctrinated with obsolete political ideologies: stick them in a religious system where homophobia, racism, sexism, xenophobia, and hatred of 'liberals' are preached, and where questioning the validity of these ideologies is met with threats of EXCOMMUNICATION, HELL-FIRE, and DAMNATION ... not to mention 'shunning', homelessness, and abject poverty.


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14 Oct 2021, 8:35 am

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You should never count on inheritance. People can have hidden debt.

If your parents state it as "their home their rules" AND their rules include them controling your money, then you are in a situation that would be considered criminal here.

Well i guess i will be dirt poor for the rest of my life if I never get the trust fund.



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14 Oct 2021, 8:37 am

What trust fund?


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14 Oct 2021, 8:38 am

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You should never count on inheritance. People can have hidden debt.

If your parents state it as "their home their rules" AND their rules include them controling your money, then you are in a situation that would be considered criminal here.

Well i guess i will be dirt poor for the rest of my life if I never get the trust fund.


If this is a possibility, do you think it is something you can prepare for?


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14 Oct 2021, 8:45 am

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What trust fund?

the trust fund my parents made for me.



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14 Oct 2021, 8:48 am

Flown wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
magz wrote:
You should never count on inheritance. People can have hidden debt.

If your parents state it as "their home their rules" AND their rules include them controling your money, then you are in a situation that would be considered criminal here.

Well i guess i will be dirt poor for the rest of my life if I never get the trust fund.


If this is a possibility, do you think it is something you can prepare for?

Well if I am dirt poor for the rest of my life I would just have to rely on my payments and church benevolence and charity and live in a insitution till i die or live with family.



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14 Oct 2021, 8:56 am

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Trust funds differ from other estate planning tools. They enable the grantor to provide specifications for how and when the beneficiary will receive the trust’s assets. For example, as a grantor, you may choose to pay out funds annually to the beneficiary or as a lump sum once the beneficiary reaches a certain age. The grantor can even specify the funds go towards a significant expense like college tuition or a down payment on a house.
https://smartasset.com/retirement/what-is-a-trust-fund

Do you know details of your trust fund?


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14 Oct 2021, 8:57 am

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Trust funds differ from other estate planning tools. They enable the grantor to provide specifications for how and when the beneficiary will receive the trust’s assets. For example, as a grantor, you may choose to pay out funds annually to the beneficiary or as a lump sum once the beneficiary reaches a certain age. The grantor can even specify the funds go towards a significant expense like college tuition or a down payment on a house.
https://smartasset.com/retirement/what-is-a-trust-fund

Do you know details of your trust fund?

My parents wont really explain much of the details but they tell me that millions will be in it.



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14 Oct 2021, 8:59 am

So they just use it as yet another tool to control you and prevent you from gaining independence.
They even may lie about it, if they don't want to give you details.


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14 Oct 2021, 9:01 am

It sounds like you might be better off walking away from all of it and seizing independence instead.


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