MaxE wrote:
One way for me to interpret what you just said is, any attempt on your part to contact her will trigger her. Which would only make sense if she had some reason to feel threatened by you. Meaning that she doesn't even consider you a friend let alone a boyfriend. I find this hard to believe, TBH this could be called autistic overthinking.
2 weeks is not too soon to reach out. You give the impression that you don't really ever expect to see or speak with her again anyway. So the worst that could happen is she ignores you. The more optimistic scenario is that she doesn't.
That’s not what I mean at all. What I mean is she said she wants to be friends, but without the expectation of getting back together hanging over it as that’s not something she wants to promise. I do want friendship, so I’ll be reaching out once I feel I’ve moved on enough to have that friendship. Maybe we'll get back together one day, but I’m happy to be her friend at the very least if that doesn’t happen.
By that, I meant she'll interpret me messaging as me having moved on already which isn’t the impression I want to give. I fully intend on reaching out once I know I’m ready to do so.
I admire your principles in this relationship. I think you are making the best decision. By waiting for your emotions and feelings for her to pass into friendship, you have the best chance for the best possible outcome. It doesn’t guarantee she will ever be willing to get back together or even be life long friends but if any of these are possible you will have proven yourself worthy of them.
30 Apr 2023, 1:59 am
