Ever "dated" anyone from this site?

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I know a few I would like to

All at once or in rapid succession?

I can't speak for you, but would the logistics of moving to, and indeed living in another country not frazzle you badly as an Aspie? I've found that, when I was married, general life difficulties would put strain on our relationship, and cause us to be extra-irritable toward each other. While such intermittant irritability is sustainable in a marriage that's already humming along, starting a marriage during such irritabilities as being totally disoriented by your brand new surroundings would overload many Aspies, greatly reducing the bonding sweetness of the newly-wed experience. I mean to say that this sweetness is vital glue for a new marriage.

I say this as a man who, a year ago, considered moving to a small Canadian town, to marry a girl with whom I had communicated intensively for two full months. My imagination, I am sure, ran away with me in thinking that MAYBE I could tollerate moving to new surroundings, job, lifestyle, away from all family and friends, PLUS having a brand new wife whom I was not able to really date (IRL) beforehand. I bought a webcam so we could see and hear each other for free over Skype. She kept putting off when she would webchat with me, saying she's too shy, etc. But anyway, even webchatting wouldn't be as real as IRL dating. I just kind of realized that any "courtship" couldn't really take place. I wouldn't know how she smells, feels, kisses, hugs -- I'd know nothing of the things I like to know as an Aspie before making a choice. She eventually rejected me because I wasn't a virgin, but I had already begun to see the other great hurdles there would have been to overcome.

depends how it all comes together
I'd like one woman or man forever...
ya know...a one and only
lets hope I find one
(and no not all at once-thats not fair)

Nah. I lived in Central America for nine months, remember? That was no small transition--different language, different food, different standards of hygeine, no hot water, washing clothes by hand, haggling in the marketplace, bustling crowds of people, anti-American hate groups, relatively invasive social touching (such as kissing hello), frequent sexual harassment, the intense heat of the summer ....

I don't know why I did so well, but I did. I felt free to be more outgoing, actually. I knew everybody would think I was strange anyhow, as a foreigner, so I just jumped right in and took a lot of chances in social interaction that I do not customarily feel comfortable with. I made a ton of friends and learned the rules very quickly. I guess I do have a sense of adventure, more than I had realized beforehand.

Moreover, I think my aspieness makes me less attached to seeing my beloved family face-to-face. The idea of living half a world away from my mother (who is very dear to me) does not bother me at all.

No way would I make plans to marry anybody without spending a good deal of time with him in person though. I am not a mail order bride, heh.

I was teasing...

Me, too! *cue dreamy sigh*

I hope I meet one of my interests from WP
it would be wonderful

Same here.

Trouble is, with aspies, they either wear their hearts on their sleeves or they are as heavily guarded as Azkaban.

My interest is of the latter variety.

Oh, I either forgot or never knew that. Go you! How would you rate your love of living in Oregon on a scale of 1 to 10? I'd give Dallas a 6, because although the people are mean, everything is freakishly convenient. Which appeals to my AS, to create a comfort zone.

I seem to have my heart on my sleeve but I am actually really paranoid of getting my heart broken

That's a toughie. I'd say.... about a 6 or 7. (I'm actually in WA)

The traffic is better down here than it is up in Seattle, or down in Portland. But it's still increasing. Just a few years ago I could tool around at one AM and not see a single car on the freeway. Now there are many people out at all hours.

The constant drizzle gets on my nerves in the winter, too. By the time February hits, I'm figuratively clawing at the walls.

But the people are generally pretty good, so far as people go. Humble. They're one reason I live in southern WA rather than in the Seattle suburbs, where I grew up. Things are getting so snooty and cosmopolitan up there. There is a visible class divide. Around where I live, you can't really tell that someone is poor so long as she takes care of herself. And people are more polite.

Goodness I'm chatty. I probably annoy people here. It's just that WP makes me so happy. I hardly say a word IRL.

Wow, I'm making all kinds of mistakes about you today!


I like you when you're chatty. Well, I often get a feeling of peace when I'm in the really flat, open parts of Texas, like just north of Dallas. So I often wonder if I'll retire to a house in the country one day -- perhaps sooner rather than later. The peace, quiet, and freshness of the air are awesome. My mom and step-dad lived way out in the country for a few years, and I used to take the biggest deliberate breaths of air when on the front porch there, analyzing it: not the slightest trace of smog! About ten lungfulls of that air, and it feels like you've added another month to your lifespan.

you know I am a bit of both now that I think of it...
I get all excited and s**t...thinking what if's
but in the back of my mind I KNOW nothing will ever happen
I try not to get carried away and say stupid things

Aww...!

I know how that is. Honestly this is the most vocal and direct I've ever been about anybody I've liked. It seems like I've pretty much lost anyhow, so I figure "what do I have to lose?"

When I was 14 years old I remember I had a brief crush on this boy named AJ. He said something funny on the first day of school and I decided I liked him. Know what my M.O. was? Don't ever go near him, don't ever look at him, and especially don't talk to him! You can guess how far I got with that.

I decided I had to modify my approach drastically after that incident (or, rather, non-incident). I had a lot more success after that point, but I've still always felt a little like running and hiding as soon as I see someone I like. Even now, when I see this guy's username on the main forum page under "last post", I get a feeling of excitement mixed with stark terror, hahaha.

I know that feeling... ugh...

Or what about user's also browsing this forum... at the same time as me... oh my!

Yeah! Gosh, aren't people funny about this stuff...