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19 Sep 2024, 10:01 am

Jamesy wrote:
I volunteer round my local pond/woodland


Why?


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19 Sep 2024, 10:02 am

DuckHairback wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
I volunteer round my local pond/woodland


Why?



I do at as group activity with other people



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19 Sep 2024, 3:14 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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Jamesy wrote:
I volunteer round my local pond/woodland


Why?



I do at as group activity with other people


yeah but why? do you like the pond? or the woods? are you interested in them? are you interested in nature? what do you do out there?


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19 Sep 2024, 3:58 pm

nature women who volunteer outdoors are usually not that easy to connect with. But you have shared experiences and spend enough time together + share passions for the environment then you might strike it lucky.



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19 Sep 2024, 4:00 pm

Jamesy, try the local animal shelter, lots of female volunteers and big bonus is they are very caring animal lovers who make good g/fs.



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19 Sep 2024, 4:01 pm

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nature women who volunteer outdoors are usually not that easy to connect with.
What, all of them or just the two you've spoken to? :roll:


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19 Sep 2024, 4:18 pm

Cornflake wrote:
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nature women who volunteer outdoors are usually not that easy to connect with.
What, all of them or just the two you've spoken to? :roll:


:lol: touche



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19 Sep 2024, 4:19 pm

Have you ever considered trying to be content with being single, Jamesy?

It sounds like all of your longing and desperation are going to waste on women who don't even recognize your existence.

Not letting women take up your headspace would probably be beneficial, by the sounds of it.



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19 Sep 2024, 4:21 pm

^^^ sensible advice, but I guess Jamesy like most fellas has needs...



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19 Sep 2024, 4:24 pm

It is possible to generally repress ones desires, with the right mindset.



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19 Sep 2024, 4:45 pm

perhaps, but its easier said than done,



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19 Sep 2024, 4:48 pm

I think Jamesy said he is on psychiatric medication at some point, two of them actually which typically reduce libido.

He must have a commendable sex drive to think about women often, whilst on these meds.

That being said, I personally think having a sex drive can be a detriment. It can mess with one's head.



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19 Sep 2024, 4:57 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:
I think Jamesy said he is on psychiatric medication at some point, two of them actually which typically reduce libido.


Yeah it might be Jamesy also wants female company. From his posts he seems to be nostalgic for soft intimacy he once experienced > sex.



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19 Sep 2024, 5:00 pm

Ah right. Yeah, now that you mention it, my memory has been triggered. He did express some asexual-type sentiments at one point, saying he wasn't struck on the idea of sex as an act itself (if I remember correctly)?

I'm sure there are some ACE women out there crying out for a hug. I suppose the difficulty is in tempting them for a social outing, perhaps.



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19 Sep 2024, 5:21 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:
Have you ever considered trying to be content with being single, Jamesy?

It sounds like all of your longing and desperation are going to waste on women who don't even recognize your existence.

Not letting women take up your headspace would probably be beneficial, by the sounds of it.




How would you know if they recognise my existence or not? :?



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19 Sep 2024, 5:27 pm

Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Have you ever considered trying to be content with being single, Jamesy?

It sounds like all of your longing and desperation are going to waste on women who don't even recognize your existence.

Not letting women take up your headspace would probably be beneficial, by the sounds of it.




How would you know if they recognise my existence or not? :?


Based on what you have said historically in your posts, you sound like you are invisible to women? I didn't think this was a secret.

No offence, but I don't think there will be many or perhaps any women thinking about you at night or at any other time during any 24-hour cycle. You have barely met any women, and the ones you have met have not been interested in you in most instances. You seem to put women in general on a pedestal in your mind which I suppose is more common for people who have never experienced sex.

I'm not trying to be nasty or anything, but sometimes you just have to consider what you spend your mental resources on and whether it is worth it?