How many of you are adults and have never had a girlfriend?

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*raiseshand*

1 Date, Awful
No relationships
No Sexual experience

...but no biggy...


Have you looked at joining a shared interests club?

O.k. Today (October 12), is my 20th birthday, and I've had no relationships, no sexual experience, no dates and nothing close to that.

I'm 19 (professionally diagnosed at 5 yrs old), and although I have had a few close encounters, I have never actually had a real girlfriend...

Well, wait no, strike that... I did have one for 3 seconds... She said "You wanna go out" and 3 seconds later went "nevermind"...

I'm almost 22 and I've never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, never had a crush on anyone, and never been asked out (not seriously at least).

are you good looking?

I had a couple, but how pointless. First one was emotionally immature and a waste of my time...
The other was a cheating b****.

They both left me rather ironically. Sounds arrogant? lol well - there is a big modest side to me, but there's also an arrogant side to me as well.

Hmm...adult...never had a girlfriend...OOH PICK ME!

I am a 43 year old woman who has only dated twice in her life. One was a nice guy, but had no direction in life and was five years older than I am. I was a nineteen year college student and had much more direction in life. The other guy was from a strange, dysfunctional family.

If I ever do get married, I hope I find someone who excels in his chosen field of endeavor, is kind, intelligent and loves animals, especially cats.

I would like to get married someday, but I wonder if someone would want me. Would he accept a woman with AS and a crazy cat lady personality?

NOW, if only you can tell us that one thing we DON'T know, we'll be all set! You seem to have it all figured out, what's the solution to the trick!?

I believe that was my point. Since that is indeed the hard part. Why strive to dash the hopes of others, when there's at least some possibility of future happiness based mostly on persistence in the face of otherwise damning historical evidence? I believe I was trying to convey that, regardless of past failings, there's no reason to despair, truly.

I'm usually the first person to be pessimistic, but seriously, chill out.

I lost my virginity a few weeks after my 26th birthday with my current girlfriend - I hand't even kissed until then. I met her online and she lives far away so we don't get to see each other often.

As far as everyone else is concerned I died last year out of weariness from lifelong psychological torture (bullying, harassment, mobbying, ostracism, etc) from both my own family and the world outside with no possibility of turning to anyone whatsoever - whatever remains to prove the contrary belongs to her.

I still find it monstrously idiotic that people find it normal and justifiable that women will just ignore anyone who doesn't follow some very far fetched social norms (not talking about basic things but the sick and artificial mind games involved in flirting) regardless to everything else. So if you have good looks, wealth, knowledge, capacity for conversation (yes, even that) but happen to be a bit shy or offbeat, well sorry but it'll be a lonely life marred by depression and shame "'cause women only like winners" (whatever that means). Some misogynous manipulative psychopath (and that truly is a mental disease) with a disgusting body and no other redeeming qualities will get the comforting love so many non-psychopathic men need; he'll mistreat and cheat on her in exchange but. . . Hey! . . ."he creates romance" - and that's what it takes. . .
Really, it sounds like Southpark episode material. . . but if it hand't been for my current girlfriend (and if I hand't simply died back then) I'd still be alone and most likely to remain so forever. She is the only exception I ever met to the general female stereotype in relationships; I've been to clubs, tried at uni, I even had dorky relatives introducing me to awful chicks, tried endless chatrooms, I remember going through dating sites and not finding a single girl that could - I think now - ever hold a candle to her.

I'm not sure how to approach this topic but, I'll do my best though. Truthfully, I've always admired many various women from different parts of my life but, it tended to be a one-way mirror though. Still, I've not let myself become super cynical No, I feel that no relationship is perfect but, that does not mean such is impossible given time and finding a patient & understanding person definately is what can make things work yet, that is not the only variable included therefore, I'm not sure what would work for one person and another.
These days, I've neither dated nor had any long term relationship in the last many years yet, I always keep hope alive though!

ProfessorX

Given what was written in other topics there are several members here looking for an Aspie girlfriend. So you've come to the right place



Anyways, I fit the description. I am turning 26 soon and never had more than a few dates and twice an almost-romance which just didn't work out at the last moment. Still looking for Miss Right and the longer it takes the more I fear it may never happen. My phobia of erotic situations and things also doesn't help me to approach girls of course, and I am never that lucky that a nice girl (not talking about looks necessarily but more character-wise) approaches me herself. So yes, I am one of those "adults" without true romance and one that sometimes feels a bit hopeless... I do not do any more one-night-stands though, even if that would mean several more years without affection. First of all there is my erotophobia and second of all a night of passion without love involved is so void it just does not interest me anymore. I look for a lasting romance and nothing else, and I am prepared to wait until the right girl comes along.

Hey, I'm 58 and have never had a girlfriend. I have no idea what a relationship is like. I've had dates over the years, but not many in the last 15. I had 3 or 4 chances of having a girlfriend when I was in my teens, early 20's, but was too shy. I have no more shyness, but just don't meet any single woman that I would care to ask out. A big problem is that I'm not attracted to women close to my age. I think it's because, since I never had a girlfriend in my teens, 20's, 30's, etc. I'm still attracted to women that age. It's probably because I never had any girlfriends in that age group. I see women my age as old, the same way I saw them when I was much younger. I'm not a virgin but that's because I've paid for sex on occasion. Otherwise I would be.

I beg to differ. I go to a sleepy commuter school overran by Asians, hipsters, and left-wing wingnuts. If I had a better GPA, I would have been at a better school with better opportunities to hone my social skills.

Anyways, I'm 25. I've made out and almost had sex with a girl from work, but every encounter I had with a girl/woman that wasn't educational or business in nature has horribly backfired on me.