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Actually there goes another explosion... hurt my hands too. area around a knuckle slightly bleeding.

I have a friend who, when she gets to the point where she wants to explode with anger, gets in her car and screams bloody murder while she's driving. Nighttime would probably be the best time for this since people can't see you.

I tried it once and it really did help. I felt a bit weird, but no one saw me and it certainly beats bloodying up your hand. No girl is worth hurting yourself over.

I know it's hard and it hurts. It will get better though. You're a good looking guy, I bet when you go to college you'll meet someone. It's so much easier meeting people in college.

I remember when I was 18 and I wanted to get away from my family so badly (my dad's a bit crazy). My therapist just kept reminding me that I'd gotten this far and it would be a waste to throw it all away just to get away from them a year early. She was right and I'm glad I listened to her.

Drank a lot last night... was sick everywhere.
See I don't think it is easier that way... I can never get anyone in College.

Sounds like your friend has a lot on her plate.

She's probably an Aspie, I've even talked to her about it.

When I was in college, I felt popular for the first time in my life. If you go to a larger school, I just about guarantee you'll find a group that you'll fit into. especially if you're a musician. As long as you make some sort of effort to go out, you'll meet people and that includes girls.

From what you said about this girl, she sounds like she would have dated you if you'd asked her sooner. So next time, you ask sooner. Try to look at this as a learning experience. I know that sounds like rhetoric, but it's true. You did everything right except waiting too long. So next time, you do everything the same except for that. And there will be a next time. You'll get over this and move on. It takes us a bit longer to recover from disappointment, but we do eventually.

Well if I keep feeling like I do today then the Heather thing ain't gonna do anything to me... but if I start feeling like I did last night then I'm in real ****...

The course is a real beast atm... I can't do it now... couldn't do it since the start of the year really.

Wow! This like reality TV! talk about play-by-play action!

Been in the same situation numerous times. It sucks, but only for a while. In the course of time another disappointment will come along to take its place.

Oh no! ret*d alert! Typos in my last post! Oh the humiliation! What will people think of me?! Worry, worry, worry, brood, hide, worry some more....

Are you actually trying to be helpful or just being a jerk? I'm serious by the way.

Either way, you seem pretty bitter (I'm thinking that may be an understatement). I know how you feel, but you're making things worse for yourself by stewing.

Why hello. And who might you be? Funny, but I don't remember paging a judgmental name-calling inquisitor.

I'm not stewing, I'm spewing. And yes, I'm absolutely bitter. Why shouldn't I be? I had no say in how I was born, but I think I'm allowed to b***h about it all I want. Thanks for your concern all the same.

Samtoo is dealing with something that many of us have dealt with many times. He's so wound-up that he's literally posting his misery for us minute by minute. It's a nightmare. How would you suggest being helpful? Tell him that everything is going to work out in the end and he should just keep his chin up? Well that would be a lie. If he has Asperger's he had better get used to insecurity and rejection smacking him in the head on a regular basis. That's just the way it is.

If you're looking to be helpful, at least be honest. Also try to come up with more sophisticated insults than "jerk". I'm serious by the way.

Yep, and like fellow aspies I'll never accept it for how it is and forever have mass determination to change it all, to no avail. lol

That's it. I've had it with this place and all the insulting as*holes who just seem to want to post here to make others feel as bad as they do.

Sam, I really hope thing get better for you; you seem like a great guy. Keep trying, don't let people tell you to just give up and stop trying.

Thanks Spot17. *thumbsup*

Tense man... very tense...

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
i got something to tell you...

giving it my all... my absolute all says:
What's that man

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
heather likes you

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
as in 'like like'

giving it my all... my absolute all says:
Really

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
and i asked if she thinks shes gonna split up with her bf and she said 'if we do we do, if we dont we dont'

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
yep i promise she likes you

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
she said she 'used to' but she cant anymore cos of the bf

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
and she said she would have gone out with u if u got there earlier so as soon as they finish, ASK HER

giving it my all... my absolute all says:
Tell me if they finish then man and I will.

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
okey dokey

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
if u do get together... u SO owe me a drink

giving it my all... my absolute all says:
Ok man...

giving it my all... my absolute all says:
Seriously I would buy you 5

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
then i wont remember who u are

giving it my all... my absolute all says:


David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
ill tell u as soon as they split up then, but i think u should keep talking to her, cos if u dont she might go off you

giving it my all... my absolute all says:
Alright man I'll add her on myspace or something... but I don't want a bigger barrage of pain coming my way.

David Eloise has SUPERSPERM!! ! (and i have SUPEREGGS) says:
thats a start then

So... me who's done absolutely everything correctly and given all to it... apparantly girl does like me... and I ain't got her... and I don't even know if she wants to be with that guy as much as me... I'm discombobulated.

What to do what to do...

Don't worry about it so much?

There's a point where there just isn't anything you can do about being in a relationship with someone. As much as you want it, you can't change it. As much as she may say she wants it, there may be something keeping her at bay.

So, don't write everything off. But, keep a level head and start looking elsewhere.

You mentioned you were obsessed with this girl, right? That inherently causes many problems in starting a relationship. It means you want the relationship so badly that if it when it doesn't work out... a terrible sense of loss with many other emotions results. I've done the exact same thing.

The solution, is not to let yourself get so obsessed. Talk with girls, like what they do... pursue them in the proper fashion. But remain slightly cynical about whether you want to start a relationship with them.

I'm still learning, but the more you do the more you grow.

lol this day just keeps getting more and more bizarre a fellow aspie telling me to not be obsessive? lol

Aye I don't obsess so much in week days - I absolutely despise weekends atm.