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26 Nov 2007, 7:10 am

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Nope, wrong. Androgynous for me. And according to my bisexual transvestite father, it is men who like masculine men. Women like girly men. His opinion; not mine, but still.


Couple that theory with the idea that it is only men who care about penis size (see the adult AS forum) and you begin to wonder why all woman don't just date woman? :P



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26 Nov 2007, 3:54 pm

I can't stand being around people who are arrogant, dishonest, selfish, inconsiderate, insulting, bad-tempered, etc. However, I have ended up dating people like this. I would idealistically hope that if I could make them "happy" (they were all unhappy people) they would be kinder people, and everything would be okay. I was not, however, attracted to these people at all. I'm generally not sexually attracted to anyone. I ended up in relationships feeling like I had no idea how I ended up there. I try to be much more careful now.

The one person I've actually been in love with is much more the kind of person I prefer in general. He's very androgynous, kind, calmer than me, patient, understanding, etc. I prefer all my friends to be that way and I will never get romantically involved with anyone ever again that I have an instinctively "bad" feeling about (I did with the people I "dated.")



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26 Nov 2007, 4:12 pm

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26 Nov 2007, 4:14 pm

Unico wrote:
I can't stand being around people who are arrogant, dishonest, selfish, inconsiderate, insulting, bad-tempered, etc. However, I have ended up dating people like this. I would idealistically hope that if I could make them "happy" (they were all unhappy people) they would be kinder people, and everything would be okay. I was not, however, attracted to these people at all... I ended up in relationships feeling like I had no idea how I ended up there. I try to be much more careful now.


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.... I will never get romantically involved with anyone ever again that I have an instinctively "bad" feeling about (I did with the people I "dated.")


Oh! This is exactly how I ended up with the worst man I was ever with. I got the "evil" vibe as soon as I met him, and I still really can't explain how it was that we ended up dating when he frightened and disgusted me. Because I overthought it, and I chided myself for my silly "feelings". I actually believed that people who do bad things were just suffering from a lack of other options. Not so... not at all. I'm so glad that you are more careful now.


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02 Dec 2007, 2:44 am

I love the appearance of the "bad boy" but I seriously just like the good guys. Besides I would rather have a guy friend first, then when the time is right I would consider a relationship.



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02 Dec 2007, 3:54 am

No I do not like jerks but why did I stay friends with my first bf? I felt sorry for him was why and I had empathy for me and he wasn't a bully or abusive. He was just lazy and crazy mind. (long story)

With my last one, he was very closed minded and narrow. I think he used his AS as a crutch to not undertsand AB's. I have a feeling he didn't even try to because he needed to have AS to not understand it. I think it was also his PTSD to not even try to understand it so he used his AS as as crutch to not even try and keep being closed minded and an ass about it. There were other problems between us too. (also a long story)