Betraying an aspie...

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Once you betray anyone, you don't deserve their trust. That's not an Aspi thing. That's an everyone thing, and anyone who puts up with a real betrayal is kind of a fool.

Sorry.

I'm an Aspi, but I've listened to a lot of NTs who say the same thing. Just because you're on the spectrum, doesn't mean you're a fool!

A betrayal shows a lack of respect, and I won't abide anyone who doesn't respect me. Neither will most other people.

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Beentheredonethat

Betray an Aspie? Yeah, don't do it.

I don't believe that Aspies are more likely to be betrayed than NTs. Betrayal is just as much a problem for NTs too. In my opinion, I might take it more harshly than your average joe simply because I am used to people being friendly, trustworthy, and supportive of me. And I would be more likely to interpret a betrayal as a personal attack. Even though the real problem might be that the person was lazy or is inconsiderate in general.

And I can tell from reading these forums that us aspies sometimes have a bad habit of taking rejections harshly and interpreting them the wrong way.

I forgive, but I don't forget.

And not forgetting entails not allowing someone to abuse my good will again.

my big thing is being lied to. If i find out you lied to me for ANY reason, thats it. You are no longer my friend, if you don't respect me enough to tell me the truth, then you don't respect me enough to be my firend. It does not matter the reason you lied to me for.

Lie to me and I'll never ever forgive you. I treat people how I wish to be treated, and when they bail, I do too.

Betrayal leads to the deepest circle of Hell...
I would be willing to be loyal and forgiving through a lot of things. In fact, that's been tested.
But if I was seriously betrayed, with something like cheating, I would not be likely to forgive. You see, to me that says something about how much a relationship actually means in the first place.

Yeah, I totally agree. That's why I've been having problems with my "friend". He doesn't understand why things are such a big deal, or what it says about his character, etc.

Don't ask any women if they ever been raped because they will most likely say no even if they have.

Really? Is that so? Good to know...

That was directed at kenM because he is so harsh about lying so I told him don't ask any women about if they ever been raped because he will be lied to if they say no and they had. Lot of women don't like to talk about it and lot of them are ashamed by it and very embarrassed about it so they will deny they have ever been raped or people would know and maybe ask them about it or they're afraid they be shunned about it.

Oh, sorry. I thought you were just being totally random. Sorry.