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you realize that, by being liberal, she may consider breast implants a product of the mysoginistic, phallocentric fantasy cult, and would have none of it...

honestly, a woman with all those characteristics would likely have a clutch of NTs after her, anyways..

The more requirements you throw in, the smaller your sample size will be. Not sure how many people are around Witchita area (I'm more familiar with Waco and El Paso myself.. but if you're looking for degree and liberal types, may we suggest....Austin?...

Judging people you don't know is probably the stupidest thing anyone can do.

Isn't that also the main source of frustration for Aspies... that people judge us in a negative way just because they don't understand us?

Not to mention being a mainline protestant... bosom augmentations are not going to jive with that group either. And well large buxom, religious ladies get a lot of attention if my church experience is any guide.

Anyways it appears your desires are contradiction... a paradox...

No wonder you are romantically frustrated... she doesn't exist!

The reason I require that she make $50,000 a year is because my dream car is a Buick Enclave, which cosst $37,000. And this is assuming that I also make at least $50,000 a year. If I make $50,000 a year, and she makes less, then I can't afford the Enclave.

And I don't know how many geologists make $100,000 a year, assuming that's what I still want to do. If I made that much, I would drop the $50,000/year criteria.

In other words, our combined incomes would have to equal $100,000 a year.

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Why is your love desire based around your dream car? I can't express this nicely... a good woman will be more valuable than any car...more than any thing physical, and it is foolish to have this requirement for a girlfriend.

Just go out and start talking and trying to set up dates with women... and see what happens. Going in with this sort of criteria is damning to the fun and beauty that should be happening in a relationship.

The way the criteria read, it's like a business transaction. Or an American equivalent of an arranged marriage.

And if you were to win the lottery and get your dream car anyway, would you still have the 50k/yr thing?

Also, there's a little thing called saving up for a car, in case you haven't noticed... you don't have to spend everything you get the moment you get it (except in the case when all of your spendable income is going directly towards living expenses)

Probably not.

On a fat chick, or a fat guy. A C cup should be sufficient on a skinny chick, they'll look bigger because she's skinny.



What about killing yourself? Or yelling the N word in the middle of Harlem? Or supergluing your private parts to a train?

I'VE GOT BIGGER TITTIES THAN YOU DO!! !

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Meh, I had and have a list like that; uni degree and all. . . Maybe it's my lack of social life but, living in one of the largest cities in the world, I have never met that person. I even posted those requirements at a large mainstream forum in the singles thread - I killed the thread by doing that.
It wasn't anything special it was just stuff I do like having a degree, working out, speaking a couple languages and having some interest in literature or some form of art so as to have something to talk about. People didn't even flame; the thread just died. I think girls like that are often too socially successful to be reading the singles thread at a forum; they get their boyfriends from their real life circle of connections I guess. . .
Dunno. . .

Tim, rather than me piling on here, I'll make the suggestion that you could broaden your criteria to include the reasons behind why you want what you do.

Example: You want someone goal-oriented so you list a college degree. I'm not going to get into the mechanics of syllogisms here, but the two may not be related. Replace "bachelor's degree" with "ambitious or determined" and that widens the pool without sacrificing your desire. (She may also be in school, and not have her degree yet. Just like you.)

Skinny with a D-cup? Umm...besides specifically asking for a stripper or porn star, maybe you could mention that you'd like a lady that is healthy, active or athletic. What if she had a C-cup? I doubt you'd throw her out of bed, but you're specifically excluding her based on your list. P.S. You should be in hella good shape too if you're asking for it...

Likes South Park? Maybe you could indicate the type of humor you have. It's likely that someone who likes the show will share your humor, but that's not a guarantee.

DX'd Aspie? I don't blame you there, but since you also require them to live in a sparsely populated part of the country, there aren't many AS women there to pick from. Maybe you could think of the specific AS traits you desire, and go from there. There's lots of people either straddling the spectrum, or not DX'd that share many characteristics of those with AS. Again, you'd widen your pool without sacrificing your desires.

The rest is up to you, although I can't take you seriously on the requirement that your ideal women needs to be able to supply you with the particular model of car you want. I know people with AS get fixated on specific things, and anything less is unacceptable, but really. A specific car is what will determine your true love? If I met a woman that I could connect with, and she loved me back, I wouldn't care if she had conjoined twin myslexia (South Park reference for you!) Hell, I wouldn't care if she had a beard! Nevr mind what kind of car I was able to buy with our combined salaries...

The reason I have these criteria is because I met someone who met about 90-95% of the criteria (she didn't live in Wichita Falls, though). I had met her in person a few times, but she said she couldn't do anything long-distance, and wouldn't be ready for a relationship with anybody for quite a while.

I felt that the only way I could get over her is to find someone exactly like her, rather than wonder "what could have been" somewhere down the road.

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Thought so. . .
I could list all the specific traits my ex had but I don't think that's the only combination of traits I could like. If I could, I'd give dating an NT girl a try.

I'm trying to slowly get used to the idea that I won't be in a relationship with her again and that such thing had it's place as unique as it was.

I gave up on trying to find a clone of the woman I loved a long time ago... although my love was unrequited... I'm still not "over" her to this day, although I'm open to another connection if it happens (although given the nature of what I'm doing these days, I'm not in contact with alot of women my age to begin with...)

Love is something that you just can't get over... the memory of each relationship will be with you very strongly until you die (or at least get a lobotomy...)

I am worried that if I do get rid of the criteria and find someone else, I will always be burdened with unresolved feelings for the other girl.

You will have unresolved feelings for her regardless... such is the nature of any form of breakup or rejeciton... If you somehow find a clone of this woman you knew (as nearly impossible as that might be), you will still develop new feelings for this "clone" while your existing feelings will remain unresolved. Plus, if you break up with said hypothetical clone, you would then have unresolved feelings for two women now...

Given my aspie nature, I pretty much always obsess over these unresolved feelings. What could I have done differently? What went wrong? Was she really the one? etc.... Anyway, dealing with such feelings (rather than trying to hide them) is an integral part of life...