What do men look for in a woman besides her looks?

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Also, someone who does not overanalyze. Good Lord that's annoying because not only does it kill the romance if you bring those thoughts out into the open in the beginning, but they can be just as destructive if left unsaid. Not everything a guy says is meant to be read into, nor a lack thereof. When did trusting men become a jest?

Femininity is the way of being hmmm..... in a female way. This can be related to looks , body shape , voice , way of talking,way of moving,personality, emotion, attitude .....etc . --> hard to describe it accurately because it's really something related to my male instincts...but I think you got the main idea .

That doesn't mean I dislike all tomboys tho since many girls w with tomboy interests can be really feminine .

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She should also be receptive.... she should give everyone that aproaches her (male or female) a chance to become friends... and perhaps more than friends.

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That's called being a slut. Unless she charges.

Just because a girl gives a CHANCE that doesnt mean she will go all the way.Even if she did I wouldnt characterise her as slut.

I would consider her to be FEMINE. The ability of women to love just about anyone is a major attraction to me.

Not only because they are fun.... I believe they will become better mothers.

You dont know your future children sex/number/abilities/handicaps they may have aspergers or something more serious.

All you can do is love them as they are.

A girl that treats her suitors as nicely as her children is the ideal woman for me.

After all all men deep inside are children.

Good personality. Kind, not materialistic, doesn't play mind games, isn't always looking for attention, isn't an alcoholic/drug addict/gambler, has a work ethic, likes sex, is honest, is not into getting drunk, is willing to deal with her problems... I don't think she exists either.

^ I second that.


Nowadays all you get to meet are girls that act,talk and behave like guys.

Absolutely because who they are is their 'essence', that is what what I'm attracted to. I am attracted to girls who can't help being the way they are. Of course some people try to conceal elements of themselves, that is natural, but true character shines through. I would say some self defiance is perfectly natural in some people (as it is in me). What I think is a shame is when people blatantly try to live a lie. It is not so much 'selling out' because that is a lame phrase that lacks integrity in itself, it is not wanting to be themselves. Some people are fighting just to be themselves, it doesn't make sense to go the other way.

I couldn't agree more. It isn't so much how much they'd disagree, it is the fact that they have their own opinions and are willing to voice them. They are not subordinates.

Gah... I thought I understood what LPP meant until you said that. Now I need more explanation. I would consider most girls quite feminine. What are you talking about here? Anybody else want to chime in?

I'm still confused on what guys mean by femininity. I thought most girls were feminine.

I would guess that having femininity would simply mean not being a tomboy.

i quite like tomboys

Cool.

I don't really know what that term means for each guy, but I like to get outdoors and like some sports. But I also like doing some girly things. So these terms femininity and not being feminine confuse me at times.

yeh, but whatever they are i still like the girl for the girl

I don't know if femininity is one of those things that can be clearly defined as it is different from person to person, but I know it when I see it.

It is not even a trait that I put because really I personally kind of get a kick out of women who can be crass from time to time. And I am not that crazy about tons of makeup either because the real test of beauty is how someone looks without makeup or when they wake up in the morning with messy hair and puffy crusty eyes.

I think "feminine enough" also varies wildly from person to person. I know that I am personally not after some genteel and dainty southern bell for sure.

I'll keep to the point of this reply by saying it's being around someone whom actually takes the time to get to know you through and through without being overly critical as well having the compassion to stay around even in the bad times of life itself..

I agree ..... 'natural femininity' is the best .