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05 Sep 2011, 11:08 pm

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Wow, how tough is that when you think your mother might not love you?

What on earth would make you think that?

As a mother, I hope my children would always KNOW that I love them. We say it every time we talk...and sometimes we just text it to each other and nothing else. They are also in their 20's. 3 of them.


It's more common than you think. My mother doesn't have any antipathy towards me, but she's more focused on her work than family. At the very least she cares enough about my physical well-being, but every time I try to talk to her about anything related to my happiness she just tends to brush it off...



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05 Sep 2011, 11:09 pm

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Earlgreyhot (love that tea and picard)

That is the most important love you can ever have. It is your guide to finding love. If someone treats you better than you treat yourself, then you have found true love.


I don't want a relationship so no need to worry about that.

Love that you got my username, though. :)


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05 Sep 2011, 11:12 pm

The main person that should love you is yourself if you cant love yourself you cant expect other people to love you :D



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05 Sep 2011, 11:14 pm

I suppose I am guilty of doing the same thing ToadofSteel, my daughter just called and asked me to do something for her and I brushed her off. It is late and I am tired. I have to go to work and I am concentrating on these threads. Very interested here. So I brushed her off after I did what she asked. But I was very abrupt with her. She is always asking me to do things for her and when I tell her how to do it herself she whines. uggh.


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05 Sep 2011, 11:14 pm

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The main person that should love you is yourself if you cant love yourself you cant expect other people to love you :D


This is true. I have plenty of people that love me, though. I just didn't feel like listing them.

Call me lazy. :oops:


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05 Sep 2011, 11:16 pm

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Love the new one...There are four lights! I am a trekker...still have the action figures still in the original boxes, never opened. And all the 25th anniversary cards from TNG and original in the binder you had to send away for.

Oh...and I have a fairy tatoo'd on my ankle.


I like you. :D


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05 Sep 2011, 11:18 pm

I like you too :)


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05 Sep 2011, 11:20 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Joker wrote:
The main person that should love you is yourself if you cant love yourself you cant expect other people to love you :D


This is true. I have plenty of people that love me, though. I just didn't feel like listing them.

Call me lazy. :oops:


Thank you I have been doing some soul searching and well I have completely changed as a person because I am not going to keep being a jerk I think it had to do with me trying to convince myself that im striat even thought thats a lie im bisexual and im ok with that :D



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05 Sep 2011, 11:25 pm

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The main person that should love you is yourself if you cant love yourself you cant expect other people to love you :D


This is true. I have plenty of people that love me, though. I just didn't feel like listing them.

Call me lazy. :oops:


Thank you I have been doing some soul searching and well I have completely changed as a person because I am not going to keep being a jerk I think it had to do with me trying to convince myself that im striat even thought thats a lie im bisexual and im ok with that :D


Oh, I've been there. I officially came out when I was 17. It's hard sometimes to accept yourself, especially when everyone around you is saying it's a perversion. (was raised Mormon... 8O )


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05 Sep 2011, 11:29 pm

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TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
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The main person that should love you is yourself if you cant love yourself you cant expect other people to love you :D


This is true. I have plenty of people that love me, though. I just didn't feel like listing them.

Call me lazy. :oops:


Thank you I have been doing some soul searching and well I have completely changed as a person because I am not going to keep being a jerk I think it had to do with me trying to convince myself that im striat even thought thats a lie im bisexual and im ok with that :D


Oh, I've been there. I officially came out when I was 17. It's hard sometimes to accept yourself, especially when everyone around you is saying it's a perversion. (was raised Mormon... 8O )


Oh I was brought up baptist even thought I am now a methodist I just dont belive in the whole your going to hell for being bisexual thing anymore which is blaaa cant really go their with out getting upset I mean what if I have a great girlfriend and boyfriend an end up dating both I mean im not selfish they could share me lol but its what ever my best friend corey found out about me making out with a guy he freaked out at first but then let it go haha im glad he did plus the guy I made out with was a bad kisser lmao



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05 Sep 2011, 11:30 pm

Oh That must have been so hard. I know mormons and it had to be extremely brave of you. I am so glad your self-esteem is so strong.
My youngest is also Bi. But she was ok with letting me know. I know a lot of gay and bi people so she was comfortable with it. She is now marrying a boy, but she has no reason to hide her other tendencies from him either.


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05 Sep 2011, 11:32 pm

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Oh That must have been so hard. I know mormons and it had to be extremely brave of you. I am so glad your self-esteem is so strong.
My youngest is also Bi. But she was ok with letting me know. I know a lot of gay and bi people so she was comfortable with it. She is now marrying a boy, but she has no reason to hide her other tendencies from him either.


My mom called me a pervert when I came out to her. :?

I'm not exactly bi, though. I'm pansexual.


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05 Sep 2011, 11:32 pm

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I suppose I am guilty of doing the same thing ToadofSteel, my daughter just called and asked me to do something for her and I brushed her off. It is late and I am tired. I have to go to work and I am concentrating on these threads. Very interested here. So I brushed her off after I did what she asked. But I was very abrupt with her. She is always asking me to do things for her and when I tell her how to do it herself she whines. uggh.


I don't ask my mother to do anything for me. Sure, she often makes dinner and things like that, but if she didn't, i'd just make my own. If anything, she's usually the one asking me to do things for her. Like go to the church she works at (I work there too as a volunteer though so it's not like it's out of the way) and bring her cell phone because she forgot it. Little things like that. Also, she tends to pay a lot more attention to the kids she works with more than her own family. I know i'm not alone in this, as my dad and my aunt (her sister) both mention similar feelings that she lets what she does at work get ahead of her own family. Since I've suppressed my sexuality, my driving force behind getting a girlfriend now is actually to start a family of my own, where we can be more together, and I can at least experience what a real family feels like.



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05 Sep 2011, 11:33 pm

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Oh I was brought up baptist even thought I am now a methodist I just dont belive in the whole your going to hell for being bisexual thing anymore which is blaaa cant really go their with out getting upset I mean what if I have a great girlfriend and boyfriend an end up dating both I mean im not selfish they could share me lol but its what ever my best friend corey found out about me making out with a guy he freaked out at first but then let it go haha im glad he did plus the guy I made out with was a bad kisser lmao


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05 Sep 2011, 11:35 pm

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cinbad wrote:
Oh That must have been so hard. I know mormons and it had to be extremely brave of you. I am so glad your self-esteem is so strong.
My youngest is also Bi. But she was ok with letting me know. I know a lot of gay and bi people so she was comfortable with it. She is now marrying a boy, but she has no reason to hide her other tendencies from him either.


My mom called me a pervert when I came out to her. :?

I'm not exactly bi, though. I'm pansexual.


my family doesnt know yet even though I came out to my mother on more then once she just denied it so I live a double life which im ok with it makes me feel unique it gives me mystique about myself :D



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05 Sep 2011, 11:38 pm

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Oh I was brought up baptist even thought I am now a methodist I just dont belive in the whole your going to hell for being bisexual thing anymore which is blaaa cant really go their with out getting upset I mean what if I have a great girlfriend and boyfriend an end up dating both I mean im not selfish they could share me lol but its what ever my best friend corey found out about me making out with a guy he freaked out at first but then let it go haha im glad he did plus the guy I made out with was a bad kisser lmao


Dude, being a liberal christian sucks... all the athiests keep calling me a "Jesus freak" and all the actual Jesus freaks are saying i'm not a true christian because I don't believe in the "core" (massive air-quotes by the way) tenets of Christianity like their beliefs concerning sexual orientation. I'm pretty sure that, according to the various Biblical texts, Jesus said "Love thy neighbor", not "Love thy neighbor, unless they are homosexual". Or anything else for that matter...