Do you find me attractive?

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You are right in some points but for her in order to have a relationship she needs to get a boyfriend first! So she needs to ATTRACT guys and to do so she needs to be attractive (or rich).

Help her to get passed the 1st step and then you can give her plenty advices about social and communication skills improvements.

Attractiveness is subjective to a certain point. There are certain morphological characteristics that most humans might find attractive, but there's a huge variance between cultures and a further variance between individuals.

Physical attraction is important, but it's not the only factor (or even the most heavily weighted factor) in attraction. In my experience, if you find the person to be intellectually stimulating as well as physically attractive, she's going to win out over someone who may be more aesthetically pleasing.

It seems like you're also assuming that because you don't find her attractive that no one else will either; I don't know if that's an Aspie thing or what, but it seems like a fairly flawed assumption.

This pic has major myspace angles going on. Anyway, purple hair is cool. I'd like to dye my hair again but I work for The Man.

You've got a good nerdy style (the purple hair's great) but truthfully I don't find your face attractive. Sorry. >.> Other dudes do though, so don't feel down. ^_^

You look great! I like you just the way you are!

Are you saying that you have so much experience with the attraction aspect that you now take it for granted, and are possibly even jaded with it? The fact that you're saying "attraction alone does not a relationship make", shows that it IS easier for the women, or at least for you. You apparently can afford to nitpick about this and that, which means you are several steps ahead of where many guys are. All of the women I know who are staying out of relationships, are doing so voluntarily, usually because they're unhealthy, jaded, or both. Learn to appreciate what you have, and take care of yourself so you don't end up like that.

Don't say "no, no, no" to everyone you meet, and then complain about how life is so boring and lonely. You gotta start somewhere, and nobody is perfect.

Personally, I could find a way to have fun with attraction, with the possibility of developing a relationship, as long as there aren't any major problems.

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Agree with everyone here. Nice blue eyes and the glasses and hair both work for you.

Heh, SOMEONE'S got a healthy opinion of herself.

Personally i rekon you look cute

lol you guys should post on that TS site, they are harsh. anyway, you look cute. Not really my type, romantically, but I'm sure we'd be good friends. Hit me up sometime, if you want to chat.

Poeticromance, I'm not sure this thread is helping to identify whether you are attractive or not...

here's what I see from the photograph..

1) Hair: unique styling, suits you well I think
2) Glasses: again I think they suit you, though I'd know better if it was a picture with you directly facing the camera

you don't seem intimidating as such, I've not seen many posts by you so can't go on any kind of personality there but I'm sure you're sweet and a lot of guys do like you and find you attractive.

all in all you look pretty, and I am sure the guys your age see that too

these are my honest views

Hey Poeticromance, where did you go(from this thread )? I think you should try dyeing your hair jet black. Also, I cant help but wonder how you'd look in (buddy holly)glasses . I Really you should go for the Enid-from-Ghostworld look.

oops. Totally not what I meant to say. How embarrasing; I apologize.

I was just messing with ya.

I do disagree with you on dating difficulties being equal between the two sexes though. You girls have the sociatal advantage of men being expected to take the lead in initiating a relationship. Plus there are just so many more guys than girls that share AS traits that you're a rather premium commodity.

Sorry, everyone that I have not been posting, lol. I read all of your posts.

To those who were honest and didn't find me attractive. I don't mind you don't. At least you were honest and didn't say it so harshly like most people my age would say (example: EW YOUR f*****g FAT AND UGLY!)

My hair was pervously jet black. It did bore me eventually. My hair color changes a lot. One of the few things I LOVE to change is my hair.

I know I have a social problem, that is why I may have AS, lol. It is hard for me to talk to someone without the help of a friend. All my ex BFS and ex GF were friends of my friends or talked to me frist. My GF talked to me frist. My frist BF talked to me frist and my recent ex BF was a friend of one of my friends. I didn't even really talk to him. I was just busting on my friend and he couldn't stop laughing. I don't have the confidence to really talk to someone randomly.

If anyone has any tips for how you talk to people, I'd appericate that xD

Hold on. Are you saying that you can socialize with your friends, but you have difficulty socializing with your boyfriends/girlfriends?

If that's the problem, it may simply be a matter of compatibility and nerves.

with new people start off simple with basic small talk, its quite easy to do, it works for me pretty well