Why do you want a relationship?

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Why do I want to be in a relationship?

Simple, I like the love and affection a relationship brings, and being able to share my life with someone else and share in their life. I don't really like being single, I feel a sense of lonliness, but there are times when you just have to make do with being single....

my future visions are of marriage and children, with the right woman... aspie or not

My relationship track record isn't the best in the world but I have been happy with 2 out of the 3 partners I had, the most recent being the happiest until I blew it

Finding somebody that you care for to spend my time with and of course sex.

Not some of the girls i have seen...and actually genrally girls are turning more boy like all the time.

Just like many of you, I would like a romantic relationship because being single and lonely kinda sucks and secondly, I have the desire to be loved and comforted by someone outside of my family.

Think about it....As you reach you 30s or 40s, it'll be MORE BORING if you visit a different country for the first time, watch a Broadway show, go bowling, or play chess and tennis BY YOURSELF than doing those things with someone you love.

Well first and foremost, I want a relationship to alleviate my current loneliness. Been single all your life (21 years) is terribly lonely, even if you learn to accept it and to become apathetic about it to a certain degree, as I have.

Secondly, I want a relationship to share my interests with a significant other, especially if we hit off things really well. If we can establish a good level of intimacy, passion and commitment will be easier to work with.

Thirdly, I want someone to give me comfort and understanding, to be a lover and a friend simulatenously. How boring would it be to date a chick who isn't interested in caring for you or for you to care about her.

And a distant fourth would be to alleviate loneliness in the physical sense and to feel intimate with another person both physically and socially. Of course I'm not talking about screwing around in every relationship, only a relationship where things are going perfectly and there seems to be a real connection after a long time. So there you have it.

"""girls are orders of magnitude more gentle and sensible than boys. With
them you can talk about things much deeper than you can with boys."""

I agree. I started feeling this way at a very early age, there`s just something
more sooting and enjoyable with being friends with girls and talking with girls,
and i dont mean as a boy trying to get a girl but just the pleasure of talking
to someone without it turning really boring or something after 10 minutes. I
have never had a male friend i would call a close personal friend and that i
would talk about some personal things with. Have had whats called male "friends"
before, but never anything close to being like the friendships i`ve had with a few
girls before. To me guys often are too shallow, i need something more then that.
Come to think of it, i wonder what its like to have a male friend you talk about
things with other then cars, porn, drinking, and meizuring testosterone against
each other. Damn..haven`t really thought about this before but i`m 32 and have
never had a male friend to talk with, talk with about real things... thats just sad,
i dont know what thats like and i`m three decades old...crap. The guys i used to know
that called me a "friend", i didnt see as real "friends" and pushed them away. And
i dont mean i have alot of female friends, i have no friends here i live at all now. Just
a few people i know, no one i would talk to about anything personal or invite them over
or anything like that - this really sucks.. not sure what happened....but i do remember
kindergarden, the guys annoyed the hell out of me and my best friend in the world
was a girl...i was either talking with her, running away from the place or hiding in the
bushes so they would leave me alone...guess it just stuck with me

I have had male friends that have not been the usual testosterone filled conversation, we have talked about our likes and dislikes and we have talked about our relationships, but not in the man way in a conversation way. I think you do sometimes get men that you can talk to on an intimate level, not gayly but a friend way. But usually I have found that the men that you can talk intimately are kind of like us...

You`re right, theres many different types of men, i just had a "moment" or
something... never thought of it before that i have never had a male friend
in all my life to talk with the way many talk with each other, maybe no wonder
i feel a little lonely.. A relationship with a girl is one thing, guess it would be nice
to just have a real friend to talk with sometimes also, just hang around.. i dont
know, never mind, i`m rambling, just feeling a little down

*hugs*

Don't worry..i haven't really had many "female friends" its just kind of awkward, especially if you harbour maybe some feelings towards them. Sometimes i feel lonely but I remember there is always something better. Also now with the internet and that its easier to find people that you like...Thats what I say to myself when I feel a bit depressed.

I don't know if you wanted a hug...

I`m the last in line to hug men
just a very awkard feeling to have any body
contact with a man, i can stretch it to shaking
hands not a homofob, just that awkard
feeling i get. But its the thought that counts
so thanks

Lol..sorry..I'm kind of a feminine man so I don't see hugging men that awkward, but i don't do it usually because i know its not socially acceptable...