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Meeting ladies in either country isn't a problem.

Only useful replies please.

This may be of some help to Carlofirst and other.

According to a study on the subject, Thai woman may often be rather materialistic and use the Western man simply as a survival strategy. In contrast, it is my experience, that Philippine women in general want the whole package, a good husband, romance and a better life. Besides, they have a higher educational level and a more Western culture, which makes a marriag easier.

I have met some Western men, including one with indications of asperger, who lived in Philippines. I do not do that, but I have spend plenty of time there. Here is my advice, based on what I have seen.

In order to live in Philippines, you need a pension or other money that can pay for yourself and your family. The price level is about one fifth of Western countries, but you will have to take into account that medicine is the same price as in Western countries, that you may have to pay for a private school if you have children, and that you and your wife will have some obligations towards her family.

If you have asperger, you shall better have some sense of organisation and coordination, because you may have to keep a close look at finances and long-term planning. In contrast, Filipinos are more open than in Western countries, and you may find it easier to relate to them. Philippines are very expressive, so it is easy to read their body language.

Many Philippine women will find it the best of both worlds if they are married to a Western man and living in the Philippines. For you that may be nice, if you can live a quiet place where you will be around the same group of people, in other words have a fairly stable life. However, you may find any cities extremely chaotic and noisy. In general, if you have problems with noise, go somewhere else.

A large part of the time, you will be together with your wife's family and friends. It is a little unusual to be alone or just two together in Philippines. You will have to adjust to that. One thing to help will be to think about a shelter, to have a space where you can be alone, and some special interest that you can bring and use to relax alone. It can be stressful and as an asperger you will need relaxation more in Philippines than in a Western country.

Philippine women are beautiful and strong. You may find someone who will take good care of you, but you will often have to do as she suggests. You may also find that a much younger woman may find you attractive. I have written about mutual attraction in my earlier postings.

Think about a woman who will match you in age, background and general outlook on life, precisely as when meeting someone in your own country, and think about what you really want from a wife, maybe write it down, so you will not be bowled over by the first one you meet.

I do not have any advice on the best way to meet someone. In particular many college girls use chat. They may be less serious, but you may also meet a jewel who had not really thought about marrying a Western man. Writing with someone, who announces on the Internet, is called pen-pal in Philippines and both common and respected. It is my impression, that there are very few scammers, but of course many are more or less serious, a girl may have left her profile even though she is not interested any more, and she may be slightly dishonest about her personality and interests. Finally, you may get introduced to someone by a Filipino in your own country or a friend in Philippines. This is a smaller circle than if you reply to advertisements, but you may feel more certain if someone you know establish the contact to someone he or she knows.

Think twice about getting serious about someone who lives in a dangerous area in the Southern Mindanao or in a place you do not really want to live. You will have to be interested in her family and background. When you marry someone in Philippines, you will also marry their family, and you may learn about the strengths and weaknesses of your penpal by looking on her family. In particular her mother. You may see them and her and talk to them through a web-cam. If the relationship develops, you will have to go out and meet her. Take some days at a hotel to get rid of your jet-lag before meeting her and her family, and behave as politely as you would towards a fiancee and parents in laws in your own country.

"Engineer"

The most reasonable and down to earth thread I've seen on the subject.

I wouldnt mind being married to a Filipina nurse!

I've come to the conclusion that guys should just date whomever they're sexually attracted to without worrying so much about racialized cultural stereotypes. I don't think it's wrong at all if you have the biggest soft spot for certain Southeast Asian women's appearance, but even within a given culture you're going to have as much diversity of personalities as in any other. And let's face it, too many Western guys' ideas of "Asian culture" and its gender norms are informed by media stereotypes, which by nature are simplified caricatures of diverse and multidimensional societies that we only conflate for one another because we think the people look similar to one another (the basis for our old construct of race). There are, what, 120-175 languages spoken in the Philippines alone? And that's not even taking into account class and regional differences within that country.

In summary, I say it's a bad idea chasing after "foreign" women simply because you think they'll be easier catches or because of racial or cultural stereotypes.

And besides, when it come to physical appearances, I'm more into Black African girls than Asians, but to each their own.

Didn't realize someone would bump a 6-year-old thread, but it's still relevant.

I'm white. My crush is Filipino, with relatives in the US and the Philippines (aka my dream in-laws). The woman who might steal him from me is also white.

Filipinos are awesome. I don't know why. Is there something in their blood that makes them that way?

Oh, I just found out: it's not that Czechs are thin but that Lebanese are fat! I found this study on the interwebs that says children and adolescents in Lebanon are getting fatter and unhealthier, and it specifically mentions Beirut
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3967177/
So it's just you, the Czechs with their beer-bellies only look thin to you.

The Americans started the trend, and the rest of the world follows it too.
The article also mentioned sugary drinks, they didn't really have those much when my parents were little.

Fatty Americanization.