Foreign wives more common for those with AS?

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Only insecure, lonely men feel the need to constantly label Asian or Latin girls and women as being "exotic but submissive", "sweet and non-domineering", "better suited to my needs than American women", or whatever other term is used.

I'm multiethnic (White, Asian, and Middle Eastern), and my fiancee is half Polynesian and half Asian. I was born and raised in America, but I've been to several different Asian and South American countries. The hopes that many American and European men have that there is an attractive but submissive and non-domineering girl waiting for them out there in some 2nd or 3rd world foreign country is a sad mistake.

To correct a mistaken assumption that many people seem to have: Love cannot be bought for dollars, or in exchange for "first world" status. In many Asian and South American countries, the only reason attractive girls in their teens or 20s even associate with the middle aged American and European guys who hit on them is because they view them as sad, broken men who serve as a walking ATM and are easily disposed of once the money runs dry. If you're cool with that scenario, then by all means take the next flight to Bangkok and take a walk down Khao Sahn road or the Patpong district. If you think the girl you meet is actually going to fall in love with you because you happed to be from a first world country, then you're sadly misinformed.

As previously stated: Many of the former countries in which these type of scenarios used to occur are becoming much more developed than they were 20 or 30 years ago, which means people there can afford to be selective. With the advent of the internet, cell phones, social networking sites, and just globalization in general, the women from every country (including those in Asia and Latin America) are not uncomplicated, simple girls who are sitting and waiting around for some American or European guy to come sweep them off their feet and whisk them away to America or Europe. I have yet to meet any who have a desperate hope that some guy from a first world country will sweep down out of the sky and take them away to comfortable suburban glory back in the US or Europe. Unless you mean a mail-order bride, who usually divorces the guy as soon as she gets her greencard.

Liking other cultures is one thing. Interracial dating and marriage, also cool. Specifically seeking out a woman from a foreign culture in a 2nd or 3rd world country because you want an attractive but non-domineering woman who is less likely to bail on the relationship than an American woman or is better suited to men with Asperger's than American women is called "sex tourism" and is globally condemned.

The submissive Asian girl stereotype is pretty funny. This might still be somewhat true in Japan, where there are some cultural values that emphasize submission to authority in general, especially by women, but for the rest of Asia, women are pretty bossy. All of my Asian GF's, foreign-born or not, were pretty bossy and not hesitant to let fly with some comment or argument. Some of them do believe in taking care of their men (lots of women do), but don't think the rest of Asia is like Japan.

You people can be so funny sometimes. I always thought this thread was about peoples wives seeming 'foreign' to them since they were autistic. I didn get the drift that it was about real 'foreign' women.
With respect to real 'foreign' women I think that they make ggod wives and companions but will probably be no more understanding of the idiosyncrices of an autistic mate than an american girl will be.
If you're not an american male then just turn that around a little bit to get the drift of the concept.

billsmithglendale wrote:

I tend to get on better with women from other cultures.

Is there an actual skid row?

Women can be battered by their culture and by religion just as well as being battered by an abusive husband. In the end the result from years of abuse force the woman into a sort of submission. Of course there are some that rise against and the beatings by society or their mates make them stronger. There are exceptions to every rule but for the sake of being concise I won't go into every if, and, or but. It seems as if liberated women are seen as a threat to passive males so AS men resort to either finding girls who are unaware of what's going on, or they seek a foreigner who doesn't pick up on verbal and non verbal language.

Why adhere to societal standards of gender roles when they apparently go against some people's nature? In other words, what's wrong with a passive male being in a relationship with an aggressive male? Dominant women aren't necessarily manipulative like the typical refrigerator mom. Free thinking people enjoy a challenging mate who can stimulate ideas and strengthen their character.

If you do not fall into these generalizations, I sincerely apologize. However, generalizations are not all inclusive by definition.

Anyways...The point of this whole topic should be on why people would abort an autistic embryo and why is the autistic gene so demonized when there are many positive traits that it carries. My initial opinion as to why AS men prefer NT foreign women is that they unconsciously wish to diminish the possibility of having AS offspring.