15 Jan 2009, 8:54 pm
MissConstrue wrote:
Well that makes sense as to why it would be a bit of a challenge for both members in the relationship since the classic case of autism is poor social skills /:
that is true
in mid november/early december, I met a very nice autie girl (high functioning, could be more aspie than HFA), the two of us were a little shy at first but afterwards we hit off great, she had a lovely personality, the most charming smile, she was also a bit giggly too, her social skills seemed to be on par with mine, pretty good, and I was hoping to make her my girlfriend but sadly things happened that prevented us from becoming a proper couple
I have since moved on from her......
I still have preference for a girl on the spectrum and think I may have found the one........ good job my social skills are good
15 Jan 2009, 10:30 pm
I noticed one of the math whizzes was in here just a sec ago. Given that (and this number's changed 3 times since I joined a year ago) Correct me if I'm wrong...
1 in 150 are AS (both sexes)
1 in 9 of AS are female.
So, that's (uh...) 1 in 1350 or so of the general population are females with AS. I think that's pretty thin on the ground. In my city, there's about 260 (approximately..I don't run into irrational fraction people of any sort...
I don't know if female aspies (unless they all got together in clubs or something) are going to be prevalent enough to even register. So it'd be hard to find out if 'female aspies' as a group, think any one thing at all.
One thing I've learned quite early is never to generalize women. They're as varied as they can be.
A relationship (even mathematically) implies that each quantity affects the other, or is measured by the other.
In general, people like people who are likable. Work on your positive attributes, and you'll have better luck, whether they're AS or not.
15 Jan 2009, 11:31 pm
I've read 1 in 300 have AS and 1 in 150 have autism. Mmmmm? 
I thought "autism" was being used as a category.
15 Jan 2009, 11:49 pm
16 Jan 2009, 3:44 am
moonlightwhisp wrote:
I think I'd rather date a guy with AS. I've dated quite a few NT guys and they just don't understand me and why I do some of the things I do. They usually end up feeling neglected and break up with me or don't give me enough space and I break up with them for being clingy. In short, they're too emotional and I don't have enough patience for them. It'd be nice to have a companion that has the same energy, emotional level, idiosyncrasies, obsessive personality, etc... Don't sell yourselves short, AS men. 
It's too bad you don't live in my area. I'd date you in a second.
16 Jan 2009, 3:57 pm
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16 Jan 2009, 5:26 pm
EgaoNoGenki wrote:
LadyKathleen wrote:
theres' always someone for everyone
Amen, sister!
This is exactly what set me off in that other thread when I got all annoyed at people for patronizing me... just because there's someone for you doesn't mean there's someone for everyone (most importantly, me... call me a narcissist if you want...)
moonlightwhisp wrote:
I think I'd rather date a guy with AS. I've dated quite a few NT guys and they just don't understand me and why I do some of the things I do. They usually end up feeling neglected and break up with me or don't give me enough space and I break up with them for being clingy. In short, they're too emotional and I don't have enough patience for them. It'd be nice to have a companion that has the same energy, emotional level, idiosyncrasies, obsessive personality, etc...
I keep hearing that from women on this forum, but I've yet to see any women near me that are like that... thus until proven otherwise I'm going to have to assume that most women that say such don't really mean it... again, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but that is what I've experienced...
That said, if you're in NJ and you see nerdy fatass about your age walking around that is seemingly ignoring you, try and get his attention...
Quote:
Don't sell yourselves short, AS men.
I'm not selling myself short, I just know what my strengths and weaknesses are... I'm "keeping it real", as it were...
16 Jan 2009, 7:16 pm
Tias wrote:
EgaoNoGenki wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Dude... looking at the sort of rubbish you post here... what do you expect aspie girls to want?
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp1899353 ... t=#1899353
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp1899353 ... t=#1899353
If you hate me so much, how about I just start on a new username so I start fresh and not make mistakes the second time? In case you say, "Oh, your mistakes will slip through all right," "Practice Makes Perfect" is what they say.
Obviously you don't have any shred of logic in your post.
Practise makes perfect? That dosnt apply to everything, really, and obvious in your case.
And what's also funny is.... Do you really think that changing a name will change ones personality or behavior? That you actualy believe n this is really sad, and you would have to behave fake unless you don't want people to find out who you really migth be.
And besides, you brougth this hate upon yourself Einstein
Two wrongs don't make a right. For christs sake, it sickens me to see everybody here ganging up on him and bullying him! I don't care WHAT he's done or said, there is no justification for sinking to this level. If you feel he's mean or hurtful, either ignore him, or give him CONSTRUCTIVE (not, you can never change and everybody hates you) criticism.
I've just about had it up to here with this sort of behaviour. I'm sure many of you would have experienced bullying in school, and if you have, then shame on you!
If you have a problem with him, or want to vent some of that hate or bullying behaviour, then please; take it out on me in a PM, and leave him alone.
To reiterate: either ignore it, or provide constructive criticism (worded kindly).
(P.S. These types of posts come under personal attacks and are not even allowed on this forum.)
16 Jan 2009, 8:19 pm
sunshower wrote:
Tias wrote:
EgaoNoGenki wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Dude... looking at the sort of rubbish you post here... what do you expect aspie girls to want?
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp1899353 ... t=#1899353
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp1899353 ... t=#1899353
If you hate me so much, how about I just start on a new username so I start fresh and not make mistakes the second time? In case you say, "Oh, your mistakes will slip through all right," "Practice Makes Perfect" is what they say.
Obviously you don't have any shred of logic in your post.
Practise makes perfect? That dosnt apply to everything, really, and obvious in your case.
And what's also funny is.... Do you really think that changing a name will change ones personality or behavior? That you actualy believe n this is really sad, and you would have to behave fake unless you don't want people to find out who you really migth be.
And besides, you brougth this hate upon yourself Einstein
Two wrongs don't make a right. For christs sake, it sickens me to see everybody here ganging up on him and bullying him! I don't care WHAT he's done or said, there is no justification for sinking to this level. If you feel he's mean or hurtful, either ignore him, or give him CONSTRUCTIVE (not, you can never change and everybody hates you) criticism.
I've just about had it up to here with this sort of behaviour. I'm sure many of you would have experienced bullying in school, and if you have, then shame on you!
If you have a problem with him, or want to vent some of that hate or bullying behaviour, then please; take it out on me in a PM, and leave him alone.
To reiterate: either ignore it, or provide constructive criticism (worded kindly).
(P.S. These types of posts come under personal attacks and are not even allowed on this forum.)
I wouldn't worry about it too much... Hale bopp can be a little defensive at times if provoked, and rightly so, although at other times she is a nice person...
Tias, on the other hand, well Tias is just a prick to everybody, even me...
Oops, did I say that aloud? I meant, uhh, [Edited for content by Sinsboldly]...
16 Jan 2009, 8:21 pm
ToadofSteel wrote:
Quote:
That said, if you're in NJ and you see nerdy fatass about your age walking around that is seemingly ignoring you, try and get his attention... Razz
*giggles*
Do you ignore people that you are attracted to? Or, do you just pretend to ignore girls you like? Or, do you just ignore everybody?
I used to have a problem where if I noticed someone taking notice of me, my eyes would tear up and my face would feel hot. I'd get all awkward so then I'd have to ignore him and hope he passed by fast so I can regain my composure. Then when he'd walk away I'd regret not being able to smile and say hello.
Maybe wearing a t-shirt that says, "I'm socially ret*d" might help people try to get your attention and make them more understanding to the special needs of love-starved aspies. On the back of the shirt can have a bunch of descriptive words in tiny letters as a ploy to get girls to make you stop so she can read the writing. Hmm... Do you think I can make $ on that
?
"Opportunity waits for no man."
16 Jan 2009, 8:24 pm
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16 Jan 2009, 9:24 pm
Well, there's someone for everyone, as long as
You're in the game (have to play to win)
You have realistic standards (although with 7 billion people, or roughly 3.5 billion women, chances are good that she's out there; but she lives in China or Indonesia, etc)
You have something to offer. The first person you have to win over is yourself.
It's not being patronizing. I believe everyone here can find someone, eventually. They may not be perfect (who is?), but between the two of you there might be enough common ground to establish a relationship (which is why they're called relationships, instead of orders..
It's not always on the first try; you have to get up off the rodeo floor, dust yourself off, and get back in the saddle again.
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