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22 Jan 2009, 1:25 pm

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I would say yes if not more because I'm like a volcano ready to explode. I have never had any sexual encounters in my life so I find myself getting erections so damn easily probably because I get nothing. If a girl says something nice to me, hell; I'd probably get an erection from that. It's probably because it rarely happens.


Just out of curiosity, what do you do to relieve these erections if they happen in public when a girl says something nice to you? Do you get nervous and then run to the bathroom? I am only asking because I am dealing with a 50 year old man who has the same problem and apparently he has not had sex in years. Is it anxiety or intense pleasure that gets you like that?



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22 Jan 2009, 8:11 pm

Aspies tend not to be as colored by social dogma as NTs. My guess is the sexdrive varients in aspies is what humans as a whole are actually like. NTs like a level of conformity, assuming a particular level of sexual desire is normal and thus are not too forth coming about saying they are outside the norm.



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23 Jan 2009, 12:23 am

I think there's more of a tendency to have an extreme take on it than with NT's. Aspies--particularly aspie girls--rarely are like "eh it's ok." Most of them tend to be like, "OMG SEX IS YAY I LUV IT!" or "NEVER NEVER NEVER NO!"



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23 Jan 2009, 3:06 am

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23 Jan 2009, 4:00 am

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Cause if its making love, you feel like you can get even closer to that person, its so intimate.


Yes that is true. You can get very close to a person that way and it's often when people fall in love.


And yet, for me (and other aces), sex and love don't seem to have any correlation - there are so many other sorts of closeness and ways of "making" love that have nothing to do with that. No one has ever been able to explain how body part + orifice = love. I understand it leading to physical stimulation, but I am lost at how it relates to feelings for another person in and of itself.


I don't necessarily feel sex and love are connected. I like love for different reasons then I like sex. Sex feels pleasurable and love is good for companionship. So I don't feel that you are all that weird in not thinking there is as direct of a relation between love and sex


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23 Jan 2009, 9:50 am

Shiggily wrote:
BokeKaeru wrote:
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Cause if its making love, you feel like you can get even closer to that person, its so intimate.


Yes that is true. You can get very close to a person that way and it's often when people fall in love.


And yet, for me (and other aces), sex and love don't seem to have any correlation - there are so many other sorts of closeness and ways of "making" love that have nothing to do with that. No one has ever been able to explain how body part + orifice = love. I understand it leading to physical stimulation, but I am lost at how it relates to feelings for another person in and of itself.


I don't necessarily feel sex and love are connected. I like love for different reasons then I like sex. Sex feels pleasurable and love is good for companionship. So I don't feel that you are all that weird in not thinking there is as direct of a relation between love and sex


you'll know the difference if you do ever make love with someone



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23 Jan 2009, 9:55 am

i have not much sexual drive. in fact i have none really. i can not say whether it is because of AS, but i do not think so.
i have a hormone insufficiency which is a lack of testosterone. i never got through puberty and i am still without hair on my body.
some girls are very attracted to it but i am not interested in them because i have no physical sexual urges i wish to satisfy.



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23 Jan 2009, 10:47 am

My sex drive comes and goes. I have periods when I'm very, uh, horny, and periods where I could care less about it. This has always been an issue for me, even prior to being dx'd and taking medication. The medication just exasperates it.



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23 Jan 2009, 7:38 pm

I don't think i have one i really don't think about or want it people think i am strange because i don't talk about it that much.



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23 Jan 2009, 8:21 pm

benjimanbreeg wrote:
Shiggily wrote:
BokeKaeru wrote:
BellaDonna wrote:
benjimanbreeg wrote:
Cause if its making love, you feel like you can get even closer to that person, its so intimate.


Yes that is true. You can get very close to a person that way and it's often when people fall in love.


And yet, for me (and other aces), sex and love don't seem to have any correlation - there are so many other sorts of closeness and ways of "making" love that have nothing to do with that. No one has ever been able to explain how body part + orifice = love. I understand it leading to physical stimulation, but I am lost at how it relates to feelings for another person in and of itself.


I don't necessarily feel sex and love are connected. I like love for different reasons then I like sex. Sex feels pleasurable and love is good for companionship. So I don't feel that you are all that weird in not thinking there is as direct of a relation between love and sex


you'll know the difference if you do ever make love with someone


hmmmm..... yeah.....

I have been married for 6 years. my 7th anniversary is in June.

so. not following you line of reason.


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23 Jan 2009, 8:27 pm

oh woops! 8O



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25 Jan 2009, 4:39 am

The drive is the same, it's different the way we get into siturations of it though.


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25 Jan 2009, 4:51 am

I orgasm easily. I am not sure for the majority of women. I only know through my boyfriends that some NT girlfriends they had did not have anywhere near as high sex drive.
I am not saying there is anything wrong with being asexual but as a woman with AS - I don't understand it.



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25 Jan 2009, 7:47 am

lol, damn, shame all girls don't have an orgasm quickly



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25 Jan 2009, 7:51 am

I don't have orgasm as quickly with sex as I do masturbation but when I have orgasm with sex is wonderful. Is there anything better :twisted:
I orgasm the quickest with oral sex, second masturbation, third penetrative sex - not always but when I do it is the best.
I can't wait to go on my next date. :P



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25 Jan 2009, 7:57 am

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I dropped her off at her house and she asked me in for coffee. I was getting tired and could have done with a cup of coffee so I went in.


This is where literal interpretations end up failing... with "Hot Coffee" being a euphemism for sex... If you're into video gaming at all, this term was what the GTA San Andreas controversy was about...