How to talk to Asian girls?

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No, I'm not gonna be a sex tourist. That's ridiculous. If I wanted to screw whores there's plenty of ways to do it here. I could probably even get casual sex here if I really cared enough if I just went clubbing or went to bars, all I'd have to do is just BS, but I don't want that.

Regarding calling other Asian people losers like I'm calling myself a loser, well, here's been my life experience. People won't communicate with you if you're not on the same social standing as them. All my friends from high school for example, the ones that still talk to me, are, well, in the same situation as me. "Losers" who live with their parents, don't really work a lot, and maybe have taken a few community college classes. All have no girlfriends, and have been like this since high school. My friends that did one of the above: went to 4 year college, even in state, got girlfriends, got married, got nice jobs; they don't talk to me anymore. People do not like people in lower castes, as they fear they'll be dragged down by them. This is why poor people/homeless/etc are derided in societies. We're afraid if we help them, we'll be dragged down with them.

Even ArrantPariah's ebook thing said:

Anyway, I don't have much confidence anymore. And I'm not even confident I'd make any girl happy, anyway. Judging by how annoying I've been told I am (even when I'm not self loathing, which I haven't done much of until lately) and how eccentric/crazy I am, I highly doubt I am good relationship material or whatever. The most a girl will keep me around for is the ability to fix her car, which of course I'm unconfident about myself because I have broken cars of my own and have failed a bunch of times and have no "confidence" for working on cars anymore. Oddly now that I have no confidence I'm probably better as I'm much more cautious and careful when working on cars. Before when I had confidence, I was a f*****g idiot and broke things or bit off way the hell more than I could chew for projects. Confidence doesn't equal reality.

Also, when I was looking at ESL jobs in Japan, most wanted BAs. Though I didn't see any in the mountains.

Also as far as the Asian girls and money thing, it's not really a specifically Asian problem. It was actually just my observation of "rich people don't like me much" that I've had lately because of some going ons in social things I'm involved with. It reminds me of those silly Good Charlotte songs about "the popular kids" and stuff. Just so happens most Asians in my state are richer.

Anyway, I've been using L&D as The Haven to just vent my self loathing, so I should probably just stop.

Obviously, if they're going to be advertising in America, then they are going to be looking for highly-qualified candidates.

A lot of people just go to Asia and, if you're White, and can pass yourself off as American, then you can get teaching jobs.

One popular destination is Taiwan in the summer, when parents send their children to English classes to keep them busy during summer vacation.

Just get yourself a passport, visas, airplane tickets, a Lonely Planet travel guide, and off you go.

There is very little point in staying where are are and moping your life away.

As Horace Greeley said "Go west, young man!" But, keep going west until you've crossed the Pacific.

Plus, for their kids, getting straight A's in American schools requires practically no effort. There is no competition here. Back in Korea, there is quite a lot of competition and pressure in the schools.

Of course, the kids are susceptible to becoming Americanized, if the parents don't watch out.

The term "sex tourist" does sound a bit crass, doesn't it?

I mean, you can't say "secretary" any more: they are now either "office automation assistants" or "office administrative assistants."

You can't say "prostitute", "whore" or "hooker." You now have to use the politically correct euphemism "executive ejaculatory administrator."

There ought to be a politically correct euphemism for "sex tourists", which included such notable and celebrated figures as Edward VII

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... youth.html

and Fatso himself

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/06/0 ... 72774.html

Some tips on how to meet Thai nurses.

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By the way, I actually knew a rather wealthy Australian man who used this technique in the Philippines. Maybe not with this objective in mind initially. But, he requested the prettiest nurse to be his private nurse, and eventually married her.

Wow, seriously?! This is why Westerners have such a bad name in Asia. Go to China/Japan/Korea, get a job, learn the language, and meet someone on an equal footing. I think Thailand and the Philippines are a really, really bad place to meet women, unless you want to marry a prostitute. The line between interest and prostitution is blurred there -- and impossible for a foreigner to tell. The chances of getting taken advantage of are too high. Much better to go somewhere where prostitution is illegal.

I'm not against Asia completely. But I think if you're just going there because you're a loser who can't get laid in your home country, you're f****d up. If, on the other hand, you're a shy foreigner who is otherwise a good catch but simply prefer the introverted culture of East Asia (the Philippines is NOT introverted), then I think that's a valid reason to date an East Asian girl; you feel more comfortable with the culture, especially if you're highly educated, smart, and shy, I think you as a foreigner are perfect for an East Asian girl.

For those who do not have high levels of education or a viable career, it's probably better to focus on getting that fixed before you look into dating. Seriously. Statistics show that 80-90% of women refuse to date an unemployed or underemployed man, and the other 10-20% are probably just lying or would only make exceptions for real hotties. Asian women come from an even more traditional culture that expects economic security.

I think there is one--and only one--circumstance where Western men looking abroad for Asian women is valid and not f****d up: You are a highly educated, hopefully successful, individual who does not fit with the West's extroverted culture. Therefore, you prefer someone from another culture where intelligence and thoughtfulness are valued over snazz. Lots of East Asian women would love to have you.

For the latter reason, I may end up marrying an Asian girl as well; however, I am much less attracted to them on average, in spite of having lived in Asia for years.

Yeah Id stick with China, Japan or Korea! Maybe Vietnaam even!

Agreed! Assuming you weren't being sarcastic, that is.

Vietnam is awesome. I think prostitution is even illegal there also. It's also a very shy culture. As long as you're looking at adapting to the culture, as in living there, or dating a naturalized citizen or permanent resident in the U.S., rather than just trying to bring back a mail order bride, I think it's perfectly fine.

Just avoid the Philippines at all costs. Not only are they all extroverts, a lot of them are prostitutes and experienced con artists. Same with Thailand.

I have a G.E.D.. I am not going to school, because I don't have the money. I am living off by parents, still, at 19. If I ever go to Japan, and get married. I will tell you all how I did it. It isn't that hard. Invent something, get money, move your company overseas to Japan, and become one with Japan. I've had vivid dreams of having an office space for a company I founded in Tokyo, even of a 17 year old stealing my wallet an running into the subway station, then getting tackled by a bunch of Japanese businessmen. I also understood everything they said in the dream, like I was a native, and people looked up to me, even though they were my boss. I still don't remember anything they said, except for what I did. The one time I said anything in Japanese is when I yelled at the thief "Stop! You stole my wallet punk!" I also was talking to a lady who worked for me at work. She was dressed as Kukaku Shiba from the anime Bleach, and was going to an anime convention after her shift was over. She made a delivery of laptops or something. I was asking her "Are you going to an anime convention, and why are you dressed like this?" again in Japanese. I don't know why, but I do think I was somehow being flirted with by her, but not in a facial or verbal way. I want to live this dream, and I will. I will have to make money off a craft or trade, maybe open up a junk shop that takes junk away for free. Lots of copper to be had there.

Sorry to crush your dreams, but becoming a Japanese citizen is a pain in the butt. I takes years to get through the process.

Quite frankly, I don't give a damn! A pain in my ass as strong as being stabbed by a white hot peice of iron, is worth all of it. Good things never come easy. I tell you, if I have to earn my way into Japanese citizenship through pure blue collar work, then I will I will work until my feet bleed, my hands full of blisters popped, and my mind numb with endorphins from pure physical exertion. Nothing will stop me, not even surviving being shot 2 or 3 times (if I ever do get shot).

Does your desire to go to the birthplace of manga have anything to do with you liking Bleach?

You couldn't crush my dreams if you were my own two feet. I would just cut you off.

Not malignant in intent, just blatantly honest.

No it is more religious. Nothing about anime has anything to do with my love for Japan, that is bad. Let me ask you, what about anime makes the Japanese love Japan?

Let me tell you of the strongest people I know of: The Japanese Hidden Christians...
It was the time of the first Portuguese contact with Japan. During this time the French also came. The Portuguese brought Roman Catholicism to Japan, the French, Jesuit Christianity. Originally, the Daiymo of Nagasaki, the port of trade at the time, spread good news of a new faith, very similar to bushido, in its teachings of chivalry, defending the weak and defenceless, and other things, to all the other daiymo of Japan. The religion spread like wildfire. But suddenly, due to a complete accident involving a sunken ship, Japan began head hunting every single living christian they could find, including women and children, beating their beliefs and god out of them. Some were burned at the stake, some beheaded to de humanize those to be burned, and above all, no matter what Japan did, these women, children, and men of Japan who accepted our faith showed nothing but no fear in death, and refused en mass, to give up thier new religion. So begins the story of the great martyrdom of Japan, in which over 2,000 men women and children were crucified, burned, and beheaded, because of an accident. I want to live there, breath there, and die there, because the strongest and most fearless people I know are from that place. They loved God more than I do at times, and I want to honor them by making sure they didn't die for nothing.

It has nothing to do with anime, even though anime is what made me such a loving and caring person about this subject, and would never have led me to come to know what I know about this, if I hadn't watched anime at all. Who says anime doesn't improve the world? My God does....

Daiymo is a person of authority, Nagasaki the port of trade.