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14 Dec 2017, 3:32 pm

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Wow, this got more attention than expected. I haven’t told her anything. She continued to gain weight, but had suddenly decided to go vegan. Maybe that’ll help with the weight loss, if she doesn’t eat all junk food.


Lol glad to see an update post.. I felt bad your thread got hijacked with 99% off topic conversation. But there is a bit of debate about the pros & cons of telling a girlfriend she's gained more weight than you're attracted to.

Maybe her vegan switch is her response to her own dislike of her weight gain and it will help? Maybe you could also try adding in some actions to help w/o bringing up the touchy subject? ie do a bit more active things together. Don't go from 0-100, ie if you normally eat junk food and watch TV together and you suggest that you go for a 10mile run together instead she'll read between the lines and realize full well you want her to lose weight. If you normally sit on the couch together, take her out and walk from shop to shop having a look at all the Christmasy things instead, as then you'll both be in motion burning calories. Daily things like that all add up to big changes in body composition in the long run.


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15 Dec 2017, 1:36 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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goldfish21 wrote:
Living where I do, I kind of get Cat23's line of thinking better than anyone else in the thread.

She didn't say a guy that earns enough money to buy a $3.5M house now. She said an older guy who owns a house that's worth $3.5M now, and that he likely bought it decades ago for $30K.

This is very common here, too. I get the whole bit about the elderly who can't even afford to pay their property taxes yet live in what is now a multimillion dollar home. Heck, I'm posting from the house in the suburbs where I rent from family. It's worth a bit more than $1M now. My father, a drywaller (regular blue collar construction worker) bought his first house about 1984 for $89K, sold it approx 10 years ago for ~$450K (to my older brother, which was a deal) and bought this one brand new for $450K (another cheap deal, it was the lowest price paid in the entire development). That's out in the somewhat undesirable suburbs. Other areas of town have appreciated far, FAR, more. It's how we have $60M mansions. Now new prices are in the stratosphere.. one new condo building coming up will average $5.5M per unit, the most expensive in the city to date at $3000/sf. But yeah, a lot of regular people who are relatively cash poor now live in houses worth more than $1M & there are many semi-retired people who's property's appreciated far more, so it's not a stretch to find some older guy with a $3.5M home if he bought into the market years ago.


Thankyou it’s sounds so crazy to me so I can understand how it appears as I am a gold digger but really want someone old so they will spend time with me sob.




Cat23, in other term, you want a Sugar Daddy and you want to be an old Man's Sugar Baby.

All men will think that of you here even if they won't say it to your face - when we talk in PMs about you, men will surely label you as a Sugar Baby.

You pass the duck test for that.



Ok fair enough, so if I get stupid stupid rich to add to my stupid social skills will I be still seen as a sugar baby? If I have say double his money?



Will you ever be able to buy a 3.5M house by yourself? I doubt that.


Look, I seriously believe that men should speak up against gold diggers, men should collectively shame gold digging attitudes in women the same way how women collectively shame shallowness in men, otherwise gold digging would become a socially acceptable behavior.

And it's against our interest to make it socially acceptable.


Lol I’m not sure u read my post Boo if I was 65 now yes I would most likely be living in a $3.5mil dollar house I’m talking about real estate time value of money I’m not sure we’re on the same page. I don’t know many gold diggers that shop at Kmart.



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15 Dec 2017, 3:41 am

You can get a 10,000 square foot house for half a million in the states. You're in the wrong country.



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15 Dec 2017, 4:22 am

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You can get a 10,000 square foot house for half a million in the states. You're in the wrong country.


You can get one in Canada for the same price, too.

You can also get one of the ones I was working on for about $15M & then renovated it (as is being done) to be double the size at a total cost of $60M.

Depends on the city & neighbourhood. Location, location, location.


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15 Dec 2017, 8:39 pm

Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Living where I do, I kind of get Cat23's line of thinking better than anyone else in the thread.

She didn't say a guy that earns enough money to buy a $3.5M house now. She said an older guy who owns a house that's worth $3.5M now, and that he likely bought it decades ago for $30K.

This is very common here, too. I get the whole bit about the elderly who can't even afford to pay their property taxes yet live in what is now a multimillion dollar home. Heck, I'm posting from the house in the suburbs where I rent from family. It's worth a bit more than $1M now. My father, a drywaller (regular blue collar construction worker) bought his first house about 1984 for $89K, sold it approx 10 years ago for ~$450K (to my older brother, which was a deal) and bought this one brand new for $450K (another cheap deal, it was the lowest price paid in the entire development). That's out in the somewhat undesirable suburbs. Other areas of town have appreciated far, FAR, more. It's how we have $60M mansions. Now new prices are in the stratosphere.. one new condo building coming up will average $5.5M per unit, the most expensive in the city to date at $3000/sf. But yeah, a lot of regular people who are relatively cash poor now live in houses worth more than $1M & there are many semi-retired people who's property's appreciated far more, so it's not a stretch to find some older guy with a $3.5M home if he bought into the market years ago.


Thankyou it’s sounds so crazy to me so I can understand how it appears as I am a gold digger but really want someone old so they will spend time with me sob.




Cat23, in other term, you want a Sugar Daddy and you want to be an old Man's Sugar Baby.

All men will think that of you here even if they won't say it to your face - when we talk in PMs about you, men will surely label you as a Sugar Baby.

You pass the duck test for that.



Ok fair enough, so if I get stupid stupid rich to add to my stupid social skills will I be still seen as a sugar baby? If I have say double his money?



Will you ever be able to buy a 3.5M house by yourself? I doubt that.


Look, I seriously believe that men should speak up against gold diggers, men should collectively shame gold digging attitudes in women the same way how women collectively shame shallowness in men, otherwise gold digging would become a socially acceptable behavior.

And it's against our interest to make it socially acceptable.


Lol I’m not sure u read my post Boo if I was 65 now yes I would most likely be living in a $3.5mil dollar house I’m talking about real estate time value of money I’m not sure we’re on the same page. I don’t know many gold diggers that shop at Kmart.


Gold diggers are usually poor.

How old are you? If you are in 20s and want an elder man who’s 60+ with a 3.5m big house (regardless how cheap he bought 40 years ago) then yes... you sound pretty much as Sugar Baby.

You’re probably waiting him to die so you can inherit him.

Cat23, you seem to hate this label but you really sound like one. I think you are in denial.



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15 Dec 2017, 9:23 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Living where I do, I kind of get Cat23's line of thinking better than anyone else in the thread.

She didn't say a guy that earns enough money to buy a $3.5M house now. She said an older guy who owns a house that's worth $3.5M now, and that he likely bought it decades ago for $30K.

This is very common here, too. I get the whole bit about the elderly who can't even afford to pay their property taxes yet live in what is now a multimillion dollar home. Heck, I'm posting from the house in the suburbs where I rent from family. It's worth a bit more than $1M now. My father, a drywaller (regular blue collar construction worker) bought his first house about 1984 for $89K, sold it approx 10 years ago for ~$450K (to my older brother, which was a deal) and bought this one brand new for $450K (another cheap deal, it was the lowest price paid in the entire development). That's out in the somewhat undesirable suburbs. Other areas of town have appreciated far, FAR, more. It's how we have $60M mansions. Now new prices are in the stratosphere.. one new condo building coming up will average $5.5M per unit, the most expensive in the city to date at $3000/sf. But yeah, a lot of regular people who are relatively cash poor now live in houses worth more than $1M & there are many semi-retired people who's property's appreciated far more, so it's not a stretch to find some older guy with a $3.5M home if he bought into the market years ago.


Thankyou it’s sounds so crazy to me so I can understand how it appears as I am a gold digger but really want someone old so they will spend time with me sob.




Cat23, in other term, you want a Sugar Daddy and you want to be an old Man's Sugar Baby.

All men will think that of you here even if they won't say it to your face - when we talk in PMs about you, men will surely label you as a Sugar Baby.

You pass the duck test for that.



Ok fair enough, so if I get stupid stupid rich to add to my stupid social skills will I be still seen as a sugar baby? If I have say double his money?



Will you ever be able to buy a 3.5M house by yourself? I doubt that.


Look, I seriously believe that men should speak up against gold diggers, men should collectively shame gold digging attitudes in women the same way how women collectively shame shallowness in men, otherwise gold digging would become a socially acceptable behavior.

And it's against our interest to make it socially acceptable.


Lol I’m not sure u read my post Boo if I was 65 now yes I would most likely be living in a $3.5mil dollar house I’m talking about real estate time value of money I’m not sure we’re on the same page. I don’t know many gold diggers that shop at Kmart.


Gold diggers are usually poor.

How old are you? If you are in 20s and want an elder man who’s 60+ with a 3.5m big house (regardless how cheap he bought 40 years ago) then yes... you sound pretty much as Sugar Baby.

You’re probably waiting him to die so you can inherit him.

Cat23, you seem to hate this label but you really sound like one. I think you are in denial.

Agreed, plus she wants to stay in the area in which she lives, despite it having ridiculously high housing cost, so even IF she found a guy she'd want him to live in her area. She is unwilling to make any sacrifices.



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15 Dec 2017, 10:21 pm

OMG another fat shaming thread!!

Ok I guess this is an aspie "let's take things literally" frame of thought so I must be the only one shocked

Long ago as a 24yr old skinny underweight young man I met a wonderful girl who happened to be heavily overweight. I really liked her and we spent a lot of time talking. Eventually somebody whispered in my ear that she was "fat" and how I could possibly have sex with her. To be honest I kind of knew that was a challenge but I liked so much I just kept delaying the inevitable and wanted to stay friends.

The problem was we were both single (at the time) and I was being unfair taking up her time when she could find a man who wanted to have an intimate relationship (not just friendship). When I eventually told her that we could only be friends she was so hurt that I felt guilty for weeks afterward. I tried calling her and all she would do was cry on the phone. I was physically sick in the stomach over what I had done. I still think about her now even though I am married now.

So to answer the question over "how to tell your girlfriend she's fat" the answer is "dont"! !
You should never have got into a relationship if you were not physically attracted to her in the first place. It's not fair on your girlfriend and all you will do is hurt her feelings.



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16 Dec 2017, 12:39 am

Grimnir wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Living where I do, I kind of get Cat23's line of thinking better than anyone else in the thread.

She didn't say a guy that earns enough money to buy a $3.5M house now. She said an older guy who owns a house that's worth $3.5M now, and that he likely bought it decades ago for $30K.

This is very common here, too. I get the whole bit about the elderly who can't even afford to pay their property taxes yet live in what is now a multimillion dollar home. Heck, I'm posting from the house in the suburbs where I rent from family. It's worth a bit more than $1M now. My father, a drywaller (regular blue collar construction worker) bought his first house about 1984 for $89K, sold it approx 10 years ago for ~$450K (to my older brother, which was a deal) and bought this one brand new for $450K (another cheap deal, it was the lowest price paid in the entire development). That's out in the somewhat undesirable suburbs. Other areas of town have appreciated far, FAR, more. It's how we have $60M mansions. Now new prices are in the stratosphere.. one new condo building coming up will average $5.5M per unit, the most expensive in the city to date at $3000/sf. But yeah, a lot of regular people who are relatively cash poor now live in houses worth more than $1M & there are many semi-retired people who's property's appreciated far more, so it's not a stretch to find some older guy with a $3.5M home if he bought into the market years ago.


Thankyou it’s sounds so crazy to me so I can understand how it appears as I am a gold digger but really want someone old so they will spend time with me sob.




Cat23, in other term, you want a Sugar Daddy and you want to be an old Man's Sugar Baby.

All men will think that of you here even if they won't say it to your face - when we talk in PMs about you, men will surely label you as a Sugar Baby.

You pass the duck test for that.



Ok fair enough, so if I get stupid stupid rich to add to my stupid social skills will I be still seen as a sugar baby? If I have say double his money?



Will you ever be able to buy a 3.5M house by yourself? I doubt that.


Look, I seriously believe that men should speak up against gold diggers, men should collectively shame gold digging attitudes in women the same way how women collectively shame shallowness in men, otherwise gold digging would become a socially acceptable behavior.

And it's against our interest to make it socially acceptable.


Lol I’m not sure u read my post Boo if I was 65 now yes I would most likely be living in a $3.5mil dollar house I’m talking about real estate time value of money I’m not sure we’re on the same page. I don’t know many gold diggers that shop at Kmart.


Gold diggers are usually poor.

How old are you? If you are in 20s and want an elder man who’s 60+ with a 3.5m big house (regardless how cheap he bought 40 years ago) then yes... you sound pretty much as Sugar Baby.

You’re probably waiting him to die so you can inherit him.

Cat23, you seem to hate this label but you really sound like one. I think you are in denial.

Agreed, plus she wants to stay in the area in which she lives, despite it having ridiculously high housing cost, so even IF she found a guy she'd want him to live in her area. She is unwilling to make any sacrifices.



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16 Dec 2017, 12:41 am

Grimnir wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Living where I do, I kind of get Cat23's line of thinking better than anyone else in the thread.

She didn't say a guy that earns enough money to buy a $3.5M house now. She said an older guy who owns a house that's worth $3.5M now, and that he likely bought it decades ago for $30K.

This is very common here, too. I get the whole bit about the elderly who can't even afford to pay their property taxes yet live in what is now a multimillion dollar home. Heck, I'm posting from the house in the suburbs where I rent from family. It's worth a bit more than $1M now. My father, a drywaller (regular blue collar construction worker) bought his first house about 1984 for $89K, sold it approx 10 years ago for ~$450K (to my older brother, which was a deal) and bought this one brand new for $450K (another cheap deal, it was the lowest price paid in the entire development). That's out in the somewhat undesirable suburbs. Other areas of town have appreciated far, FAR, more. It's how we have $60M mansions. Now new prices are in the stratosphere.. one new condo building coming up will average $5.5M per unit, the most expensive in the city to date at $3000/sf. But yeah, a lot of regular people who are relatively cash poor now live in houses worth more than $1M & there are many semi-retired people who's property's appreciated far more, so it's not a stretch to find some older guy with a $3.5M home if he bought into the market years ago.


Thankyou it’s sounds so crazy to me so I can understand how it appears as I am a gold digger but really want someone old so they will spend time with me sob.




Cat23, in other term, you want a Sugar Daddy and you want to be an old Man's Sugar Baby.

All men will think that of you here even if they won't say it to your face - when we talk in PMs about you, men will surely label you as a Sugar Baby.

You pass the duck test for that.



Ok fair enough, so if I get stupid stupid rich to add to my stupid social skills will I be still seen as a sugar baby? If I have say double his money?



Will you ever be able to buy a 3.5M house by yourself? I doubt that.


Look, I seriously believe that men should speak up against gold diggers, men should collectively shame gold digging attitudes in women the same way how women collectively shame shallowness in men, otherwise gold digging would become a socially acceptable behavior.

And it's against our interest to make it socially acceptable.


Lol I’m not sure u read my post Boo if I was 65 now yes I would most likely be living in a $3.5mil dollar house I’m talking about real estate time value of money I’m not sure we’re on the same page. I don’t know many gold diggers that shop at Kmart.


Gold diggers are usually poor.

How old are you? If you are in 20s and want an elder man who’s 60+ with a 3.5m big house (regardless how cheap he bought 40 years ago) then yes... you sound pretty much as Sugar Baby.

You’re probably waiting him to die so you can inherit him.

Cat23, you seem to hate this label but you really sound like one. I think you are in denial.

Agreed, plus she wants to stay in the area in which she lives, despite it having ridiculously high housing cost, so even IF she found a guy she'd want him to live in her area. She is unwilling to make any sacrifices.


As an Australian I know that she lives in the most expensive city in the entire country, and wants to date a man who can make it in that city financial-wise when Sydney is only truly for the wealthy.

It definitely doesn't have to be that way, there are far more options of nice Australian cities than Sydney, which are also much more affordable.



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16 Dec 2017, 1:22 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Cat23 wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Living where I do, I kind of get Cat23's line of thinking better than anyone else in the thread.

She didn't say a guy that earns enough money to buy a $3.5M house now. She said an older guy who owns a house that's worth $3.5M now, and that he likely bought it decades ago for $30K.

This is very common here, too. I get the whole bit about the elderly who can't even afford to pay their property taxes yet live in what is now a multimillion dollar home. Heck, I'm posting from the house in the suburbs where I rent from family. It's worth a bit more than $1M now. My father, a drywaller (regular blue collar construction worker) bought his first house about 1984 for $89K, sold it approx 10 years ago for ~$450K (to my older brother, which was a deal) and bought this one brand new for $450K (another cheap deal, it was the lowest price paid in the entire development). That's out in the somewhat undesirable suburbs. Other areas of town have appreciated far, FAR, more. It's how we have $60M mansions. Now new prices are in the stratosphere.. one new condo building coming up will average $5.5M per unit, the most expensive in the city to date at $3000/sf. But yeah, a lot of regular people who are relatively cash poor now live in houses worth more than $1M & there are many semi-retired people who's property's appreciated far more, so it's not a stretch to find some older guy with a $3.5M home if he bought into the market years ago.


Thankyou it’s sounds so crazy to me so I can understand how it appears as I am a gold digger but really want someone old so they will spend time with me sob.




Cat23, in other term, you want a Sugar Daddy and you want to be an old Man's Sugar Baby.

All men will think that of you here even if they won't say it to your face - when we talk in PMs about you, men will surely label you as a Sugar Baby.

You pass the duck test for that.



Ok fair enough, so if I get stupid stupid rich to add to my stupid social skills will I be still seen as a sugar baby? If I have say double his money?



Will you ever be able to buy a 3.5M house by yourself? I doubt that.


Look, I seriously believe that men should speak up against gold diggers, men should collectively shame gold digging attitudes in women the same way how women collectively shame shallowness in men, otherwise gold digging would become a socially acceptable behavior.

And it's against our interest to make it socially acceptable.


Lol I’m not sure u read my post Boo if I was 65 now yes I would most likely be living in a $3.5mil dollar house I’m talking about real estate time value of money I’m not sure we’re on the same page. I don’t know many gold diggers that shop at Kmart.


Gold diggers are usually poor.

How old are you? If you are in 20s and want an elder man who’s 60+ with a 3.5m big house (regardless how cheap he bought 40 years ago) then yes... you sound pretty much as Sugar Baby.

You’re probably waiting him to die so you can inherit him.

Cat23, you seem to hate this label but you really sound like one. I think you are in denial.


That is not nice to talk about my imaginary future husband like that! Why would u say something like that? I’m not waiting for him to die!



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16 Dec 2017, 3:13 am

^ if you are 23 and he’s 70+ then chances he will die before you.

Sorry but this how society would think of a young woman who marries a rich men who is waaaay older than her.



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This thread in general is nauseating.

If you don’t want to bang fatty, don’t bang fatty and shut the f**k up about it.

If you don’t want to bang omega male, don’t bang him and shut the f**k up about it.



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This thread in general is nauseating.

If you don’t want to bang fatty, don’t bang fatty and shut the f**k up about it.

If you don’t want to bang omega male, don’t bang him and shut the f**k up about it.


I am a Gamma male, and I am f*****g radioactive.
Bang me at your own risk.



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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ if you are 23 and he’s 70+ then chances he will die before you.

Sorry but this how society would think of a young woman who marries a rich men who is waaaay older than her.


Argh F$ck em let them talk! Thanks for the advice y’all



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Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ if you are 23 and he’s 70+ then chances he will die before you.

Sorry but this how society would think of a young woman who marries a rich men who is waaaay older than her.


Argh F$ck em let them talk! Thanks for the advice y’all



Even your f**k is censored with a $ sign.... strange.



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16 Dec 2017, 6:04 am

Cat23 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ if you are 23 and he’s 70+ then chances he will die before you.

Sorry but this how society would think of a young woman who marries a rich men who is waaaay older than her.


Argh F$ck em let them talk! Thanks for the advice y’all

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