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The female version of me would be a religious girl who likes angels aged 21-28 and lives in North Carolina. Because believe me, that's what I'm like. I'm religious, hooked on angels, and live in Hendersonville NC and am almost 21"

I'm: Chris, Shy, curious, artistic, right brained, IQ is 119, medium-short, little fat on me some muscle, medium built, Short brown hair (When me and you meet, you can choose how long I wear it and what color and you can tell me what to do with facial hair) Beautiful blue eyes

The female version of me I'm looking for: Lives in NC (Preferably in hendersonville), Christian who has a mild to extreme obsession with angels. Asperger's syndrome, looks don't really matter, but Maybe hair down to the shoulders or lower (Make up makes all girls look 5 times sexier, but it's not required.I look at you only for what you are on the inside anyways)

gender:male
location: washington state
DOB: 02/27
Personality Type: Extreme INTP (though not as extreme as Paul Erdos). I'm probably one of the most extreme INTPs for anyone who still has some intrinsic social desires hardwired into the brain (I know someone who doesn't and doesn't care at all about it). I want someone to talk to - otherwise I won't care. So I have a strong desire to express my own thoughts.
Blog: http://www.xanga.com/Simfish
SLOAN: RLUEI
Diagnosed: Asperger's Syndrome. Suggested: Anxiety Disorder. Undiagnosed, but suspected: Attention Deficit Disorder (primarily inattentive). Possible: Depression

Warning: I'm known for being neurotic.

As for me, I'm a nihilist and relativist, so I tend to be objective and detached. I currently go to the University of Washington but may drop out to unschool myself (I also entered an early entrance program, but frankly saying, I don't really think the instruction is worth it - and it's causing me too much anxiety). I've played computer games for several years. While my major is ostensibly astronomy, physics, and math, my main interests actually lie in psychology, animal intelligence, neurochemistry, the perception of time, "smart drugs", and life extension. However, I am planning on a brief hiatus from the entire school system and hope that it will reinvigorate my interest in astronomy, math, physics, and chemistry. While I have a very liberal interpretation of the world, my detached nature makes me politically apathetic. I'm also a vegan and am quite into transhumanism.

I tend to waste loads of time looking up information related to my interests on the Internet. I have very few real friends, and am probably more autistic than most of you, but less so than a lot of famous scientists who were extremely unidirectional. I tend to get really into computer games, but am not into any particular computer game at the moment, having had to restrain myself.

I also value my freedom VERY HIGHLY and do not want to get married nor do I want children. There is no reason to propagate characteristics that I did not choose in the first place. I don't have any faith in the institution of marriage. Furthermore, I believe that dating is pointless, so all I'm really for is for conversation, and maybe some...sympathy, haha... I also strongly believe that science supports the idea of an external locus of control - that you are pretty much your genetics and environment. Willpower means little when parents determine 80% of your intelligence, as well as your socio-economic status and environment.

As for the Internet, I used to frequently forum at http://aok.heavengames.com, so you can look for my old posts - they're all under variations of the Simfish name. I also have a substantial number of posts at http://www.collegeconfidential.com. I used to be really into the Romance of the Three Kingdoms and analysis of the biographies of scientists.

I have virtually no appreciation for aesthetic matters. I also have happened to self-study 4 APs in my sophomore year and a couple of SAT II's, thoguh my performance in college declined due to various factors, among them that I'm not intelligent enough to study without help, combined with my inability to find someone to study with.

In other words, pretty much all I'm into are computer games, and the natural and social sciences. I don't spend my time on anything other than those.

I just want someone to talk with - that's all. Why? Among the reasons indicated are that those who actually have strong social bonds with people are shown to live longer, with lower risks of many diseases. Of course, the research mostly applied to NTs, although it still applies to most people who have similar desires as NTs, and unfortunately, I happen to fit in that category too, unlike Paul Erdos or the most extreme Caltech students. And while I definitely am not going to be making a lot of friends, I still probably want some companionship other than a robot and macaw.

Age: 18
Sex: Female
height: 5 feet 6 inches
eyes: Hazel
hair: auburn
build: average
looks: Average
best feature:...I dont know?
perfect first date: 00/00/00
Location:Thousand Oaks,CA


Just waiting for Mr or Mrs. Perfect!

This is just a heads up, but I have decided to temporarily stop looking for a mate, because I am possibly relocating at the end of the year to attend college. I don't know where that will be yet. This is just anticipated at this time.

But as I find out more, expect a new entry from me in this thread in January, unless I meet someone in real life.

So please disregard the personal ad from Tim_Tex, as it is no longer valid.

Thanks,

Tim

Okay, I'll play.

I'm a 24 years old (25 next month) Male. Into Metal, Piercings,and Tattoos, lightly into sports, but I am a basketball junkie. Wrestling fan. (which I pretty much have to hide from women.) Have a lot of problems that other aspies have with love (which by disclosing I'm probably sending out a blaring message to all you wonderful aspie girls out there... DON'T DATE ME!) Also the fact that this is my second post and I'm already posting in the personals probably doesn't help either (By the way.I'm kinda good at self deprecating humor... I've had to as a self defense mechanism LOL) Seeking a girl into the same interests (sans sports and wrestling, I don't care if you like that or completely loathe it).
Anyway, there's my little personal, here goes nothing.

God knows what I`ll dredge up

Am a Dutchie, moving to the UK (Ayrshire in fact) to do a Ph.D. in Education and maybe pick up an M.Th. on the side (I`m an ambitious person I am)
In short: I`m escaping from responsibilities tied to 'real life' and go back to school instead. I`m bisexual but for the moment most interested in meeting a girl who's well .. aware of AS 'issues' that one might have.

Ive brown hair, a set of green eyes (myopic as heck tho) , muscular legs I like to use to hike or climb mountains with (bit of an outdoors person). Have been told I ve got a cute mug. Pictures available etc.

My undergraduate degree was in Philosophy so I ve plenty to talk about, , I also like going to films or concerts (classical, big crowds running about freak me out). I`m a teacher by trade.

Ok, enough for now.

is there noone on here over 70? I'm looking for a friend for my mother. seriously.
hopefully intellectually curious (eh, AS, curious, that's obvious) and into making things, like art.

thanks,

You don't have to live in NC, you can live anywhere in the Eastern Hemisphere, and maybe the whole USA but USA isn't the limit, a soulmate can be anywhere and in any form, for me she could be a hip hop like girl, a punk girl, angelic girl, a church girl or any other things that I am, yesterday I almost walked up to a punk girl and angelic girl and asked them

Female 15 going to be 16 very soon San Antonio, Texas U.S.A. I like to Surf the net and read also Watch movies, watch T.V. I am quite and shy to start with but then I am very talkitive I am blonde and I have blue eyes I have a normal build I am calcasion I am looking for A Tom Girl, Outgoing, Loud, Fun loving, Sensitive, Optomistic, Very Kind Not Gay or Cross dresser I might be Bi-Sexual so girls can be close friends girls who are friends but not a girlfriend relationship Age Range (15,16,17,18,19,20,21) Close to my age please for Boyfriend or A Boy who is a Friend P.S. I am a christian non-donominational hope for Boyfriend and Friends to be too

Well, this may be a tall order, but here goes...

I am a 23-year old male student living on the Gold Coast, studying Health Sciences (although as I'm writing this, I am currently in my last semester). I am interested in British Comedy, reading, and the sciences, particularly forensics, and am a reformed Doctor Who fan. I am looking for a female about the same age (18-30) with similar interests, with a caring personality, and doesn't mind their ear talked off a bit.

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What the F U C K? what was so bad about what she said? I wish I knew. Maybe it was constructive critism.

Maybe she thought better of herself and deleted it. (shrugs) Who knows. I never saw it.

about me
See that Avatar? Yeah. That's me. It's probably pretty obvious but hey, maybe some of you haven't figured that out.

I'm 26 as of about four and a half hours ago.

I see myself as someone that's intelligent, creative, and very eccentric. I have somewhat unique views, and my perspective on things is often very different than most. All of that is par for the course generally for people anyone with Asperger's Syndrome, but even here I find that I'm still different.

And I'm thankful for that. Mind you as an agnostic I'm not sure who to be thankful for, so it just stays at thankful.

I don't like it if I fit in too well, because I value uniqueness.


I'd like to think I have a good sense of humor. Mind you many of my jokes are obscure, strange and hard to get, but in my opinion those are the best kind. This is why I love the Simpsons and Futurama. The real humor in those is probably missed by the majority of the audience.

And while many people would say that it's not possible, I'm genuinely honest and respectful. This comes from that I look at things in a much broader sense then most. You know the old cliche where a woman asks a man if she looks fat in that dress and we're supposed to believe that their is no right answer? Well if you choose to limit yourself to just yes and no, then chances are you're right. (if anyone doesn't understand the problem, the idea here is that you might be assumed to be lying. This is significantly less of a problem if you aren't a liar, but if you say that she DOES look fat then she might get angry or upset)

But that's the thing, there are many answers. "In that dress, yes." "Yeah, but in a really hot way." "No, and you look great in it." By restricting onself to anything as binary as yes or no, there is no room for diplomacy. You can only lie, and then she can't trust what you're saying.


And that's another thing, I don't hold a binary world view. I see things from an actions and reactions thing. In doing something, it is likely to cause something to happen. In a social context, the other persons perceptions and opinions will colour things. And while I am pretty cynical, I try to leave people plenty of room to proove my preconceptions false. And even then, unless someone is vicious and nasty I'll still try and get along with them.

This is not to say that I don't have an edge. I can be pretty nasty myself. You've seen some of those posts I've written? That's nothing. When I'm angry it is scary. The good news is that I haven't gotten like that in years. And I can be pretty forgiving. Generally, in order for me to be angry at someone, they have to go out of their way to make it happen. And even then, it doesn't get much more then upset.

I don't really get angry at people, I get angry at situations.


I'm so Liberal I'm practically a socialist. While I don't think that money or corporations are inherently evil, an awful lot of really horrible things happen because of it. I see our problems as a result of that the system is inadequete. I think we need to evaluate our priorities, and consider how to reach them.

And although I enjoy (really) violent video games, I'm a pacifist. I think violence is disgusting. It's something that should have been left in the jungles we evolved in. There is a difference between fantasy and reality.


I also do a lot of programming. I have a lot of projects going on right now, and pretty much all of them involve a lot of programming. Some of the things I've done are very creative. (And harder to explain, especially to people who aren't programmers).

Some things that I might end up doing in the future are:
-Get back into weight lifting (<accent type="Austrian">I will pump me up!</accent>)
-Contract Programming Work (http://www.rentacoder.com This depends on if it's actually worth the money or not)
-Crazy Webcomic (Another person would be doing the art work, I'd come up with the story lines and do most of the computer side of things)
-Flash Animation Series (Lots of things I'd need to get sorted out first, but if I do this right it's going to be something wonderful)

What I'm looking for in a woman
There are three main qualities that I judge attractiveness on.

The first is physical appearance. While it's not everything (I did say three main qualities), it is definatly something. There is a fair amount of variation for me when it comes to what sort of build I find attractive. Though I prefer curvy. The hottest woman I've ever met was very overweight. She carried it really well. Face is the most important thing here.

Intelligence is hot. Pretty much all the women I've been attracted to had were very smart. I'm not even entirely sure what it is to be honest. Maybe it's because I relate to smart women better. Maybe because I think that because intelligence should be desirable, it's become that way. Whatever it is, I'd still look for this in anyone I'd have a relationship with. Because if you can't talk to each other there's hardly much point is there?

Finally, is something I'm not sure of exactly what the right term here is. I need to expand my vocabulary. But I'd want to be with someone that's nice. And honest about it. If it's actually attractive or not I'm not sure, but I know that I want to be able to get along with someone I was dating.

The more of any of those qualities, the better.

I don't know if those are equal. I don't even know if those the things that are most attractive to me. There are definatly many more things, but this is what I've chosen to focus on. Common interests would be nice (such as Computers, Animation, Video Games, Envriomentalism, Economics, Social Systems, History, Science, and probably a few I'm forgetting ) as would be a sense of humor.


"Weird" or "Crazy" not only isn't a problem, it's a benefit. Eccentric women are much more interesting.

The idea of dating another Aspie was in my mind long before I even knew there was a community.

I've never written one of these before but since I am somewhat new to the board and haven't made a complete ass out of myself thus far I thought it might be worth a shot.

ABOUT ME:
I'm a 21 year old straight male diagnosed with AS who lives in the beautiful region known as northwest B.C, Canada which consists of many tall mountains, many beautiful forests making it the place where I was raised and grew up and am proud to call my home. I just recently finished off my second year of working on an English degree at university but at this point am not sure if I want to continue next fall or not (I don't mind the courses but there's the usual AS drawbacks I guess: social anxiety, sometimes ruminations over social interactions, so as far as that's concerned I guess we'll see how things go.
As far as interests go buying vinyls, tapes and cds takes up a lot of $$$ and time. My favorite music genre is metal, be it black, thrash, heavy, death, doom etc. (I don't like all that much prog. or power metal though to be honest) but I'm also into some alternative, some rock, some neo-folk, some ambient and bits and bobs of other stuff at times too. I also lift weights every second day, as well as usually take advantage of the outdoors here and go hiking a couple times a week.

I'm also interested in ancient pagan & heathen religions and am what could probably closest be described as a Jung-type Odinist, meaning although I try and adhere to and believe in the basic (pre-Christian nature-based European) values taught by the Norse/Germanic tribes in pre-christian times, I believe no one has no way of knowing 100% whether the gods in these myths (or any other 'God') actually exist. I try and respect others views/stance on ideology/religion.

WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR IN A GIRL:
I believe any internet relationship needs to start in just being able to have someone you can talk to / feel comfortable being yourself around, really just a friendship at first and then if it works from there something more. I believe there needs to be some physical attraction both ways in a relationship of course, but at the same time I'd really rather find someone that I can really connect with and be honest with, than someone that looks like a model on the outside but there's no chemistry with otherwise. Kindness, compassion and intelligence are 3 traits that I value in a person.

Likes: 36DD cup-size, a good maid...

Haha, nah I'm only kidding

Okay seriously, general likes of mine: Joking around, relaxing, computing, vodka, power bars, attempting to write poetry, forests, a good movie, wolves, the wilderness, greek pizza etc etc etc etc

Dislikes: Insincerity, narrow-minded people, rap music, excessive use of slang/ebonics and the very worst thing I can think of at the moment: "BLIND DATE", "ELIMIDATE" and all those shallow, popular t.v dating shows, lol.

Erm, that's about it for now I think. So yeah if this catches your eye or if you just want to chat feel free to pm me or whatever.

Oh, don't know how to post a pic right on here but here's a link with some pics all taken within the last year or so: http://dancingofdecembersouls.photosite.com/