Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than guys?

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Because that happens to be a common trait in people with Autism, and because this happens to be a Forums full of people with Autism.

Exactly. Most people will know it just by looking at you, and/or interacting with you, some no doubt will even be able to smell it off of you.

I knew this one Welsh woman that could smell virginity in a room full of people from end to the other with 100% accuracy.

That's funny you should mention that. I once wore a formal to work once. All the (older, married) women commented on how good I looked and one girl my own age started BLANTANTLY hitting on me. I cannot emphasize how strong it was: she was almost bordering on harassment it was so strong. What was weird is that she lived with her boyfriend. I can only assume she was on her way out with him. Didn't matter because she left a month later never to be seen again.


When Fiancée asked my past, I told her I regretted it in hindsight (sex before love) but would never apologize for making what I thought was the best decision at the time. I could literally see her attraction growing once I stood up for myself and my decisions. Previously, I would have apologized profusely and acted like a puppy.


When I first signed up for eHarmony, I literally could not find three women I would be interested in dating. I was naïve, inexperienced but looking back I WAS RIGHT. Once I started lowering my "impossible" standards, I lost my virginity but almost my mind. I'm being dead serious: I stayed with my first girlfriend, one of us would have been hanging from the ceiling. My Fiancee was literally everything on my checklist other than age but if I was with GF #1 I would be making plans to leave this Earth.

That's funny you should mention that. I once wore a formal to work once. All the (older, married) women commented on how good I looked and one girl my own age started BLANTANTLY hitting on me. I cannot emphasize how strong it was: she was almost bordering on harassment it was so strong. What was weird is that she lived with her boyfriend. I can only assume she was on her way out with him. Didn't matter because she left a month later never to be seen again.


When Fiancée asked my past, I told her I regretted it in hindsight (sex before love) but would never apologize for making what I thought was the best decision at the time. I could literally see her attraction growing once I stood up for myself and my decisions. Previously, I would have apologized profusely and acted like a puppy. I also remember a thread where someone was complaining about not getting responses: all his first messages were either groveling or putting a stranger on a pedestal. They have to prove to you as much as you have to prove to them!


When I first signed up for eHarmony, I literally could not find three women I would be interested in dating. I was naïve, inexperienced but looking back I WAS RIGHT. Once I started lowering my "impossible" standards, I lost my virginity but almost my mind. I'm being dead serious: I stayed with my first girlfriend, one of us would have been hanging from the ceiling. My Fiancee was literally everything on my checklist other than age but if I was with GF #1 I would be making plans to leave this Earth.

Even so, the past is immutable. Life doesn't move backwards, it moves forwards. You can only focus on the future and act in the present accordingly.

Shamelessness can be seen as arrogance but it IS in your best interest. The more you desire approval from others, the more power you give to them and they *will* use that against you in a competitive society.

Because girls get tired of this.

get tired of random memes? or men constantly hitting on women in rude or stupid ways?

Regardless if you're a man or woman, if you're ugly you'll have it harder finding a date.

And if you're ugly, you have to make up for it somehow whether that's through money, charisma, or just simply being a nice friendly and genuine guy to every single girl until one is happy enough to date you.


Since you are a guy and you are assumed to play an active role in the dating world, guys with social anxiety around women will have it a lot harder finding someone. Because how can a girl ever get to know you if you can barely talk to her? Or how can you advance past the acquaintance stage if you never ask for her number?

It's extremely hard if you have bad social anxiety around women, I definitely know what it's like. Iv'e had so many f*****g wasted opprotunities because I was too much of a p****. I could have had my first gf at 16 but social anxiety ruined it for me The next girl I like, I don't want it to be another wasted opprotunity. I'm tired of letting girls I like slip away.

Well, even in the current age, I've observed that the social norm is for guys to approach girls rather than vice versa. Ergo, it is easier for a socially passive woman to get dates, whereas a socially passive guy may not get that opportunity.

How white-knightish to apologize to women for something other men did.

I'm really fed up with being expected to redeem with my individual actions a group I happen to belong to for its perceived sins.

Why is it that these questions keep popping up. I respect and like you, but these threads are getting old. I think you're a great person. You're young. You'll find someone.

I apologize. This is an old thread.

You could just not be a jerk on dating sites. An refuse to accept responsibility for stuff you didn't do, i.e. Other dudes who are hers on dating sites.

I can't be a jerk on dating sites, because I don't use dating sites.

It's not that I hate women, it's more like jealousy and envy. Because if you're a girl especially at my age, you have multiple guys competing to get your attention and you really don't have it that hard at all finding a boyfriend or getting laid. You really don't... Just look pretty and the guys will come.

And i'd do anything to date a pretty girl or have sex. But because i'm a male who's also short and autistic and has bad social anxiety around women, thats not going to happen. Being born a man with anxiety around women is a death sentence to being single.

I just want to know what it's like, everyone around me is getting into relationships or getting laid and I hate it. I want to be like everyone else, i'm tired of waiting. Iv'e wanted a relationship my whole life, iv'e been obsessed with girls at an earlier age than most. So why can't I have the thing I have wanted literally my whole life?

Because I was born useless. Just because you're unique doesn't mean you're useful to society.

You can't blame sexual selection for doing its job---someone has to be weeded out.